1 00:00:12,269 --> 00:00:16,559 Unknown: balance and harmony which are basically the same 2 00:00:16,559 --> 00:00:21,089 thing as balance and why am I talking about this? Because 3 00:00:21,119 --> 00:00:25,139 balance is a really important thing in relationship. I want 4 00:00:25,139 --> 00:00:29,219 you to understand that many people think that we should 5 00:00:29,309 --> 00:00:33,389 always play a certain kind of role. For example, let's take a 6 00:00:33,389 --> 00:00:39,209 man and a woman. Our society dictates certain things. We are 7 00:00:39,209 --> 00:00:42,689 cultured in a very specific way depending on where you are born 8 00:00:42,689 --> 00:00:47,579 and where you're grown up.

You perceive the world a very 9 00:00:47,609 --> 00:00:51,809 certain way. And you think that you need to play a certain role 10 00:00:51,839 --> 00:00:56,819 in a certain manner. Okay, even if it contradicts to what your 11 00:00:56,819 --> 00:01:02,489 heart and mind telling you what your soul does. tires. And many 12 00:01:02,489 --> 00:01:07,259 cultures. It's a, it's a huge contradiction.

So what I'm 13 00:01:07,259 --> 00:01:11,069 trying to say is you need to find your own balance in every 14 00:01:11,069 --> 00:01:15,779 relationship, be it within, between men and women or between 15 00:01:15,779 --> 00:01:19,499 your colleagues or between you and your parents. You have to 16 00:01:19,499 --> 00:01:22,889 find this balance where everybody's happy, or where 17 00:01:22,889 --> 00:01:26,669 everybody's playing some kind of role that balances other role 18 00:01:26,849 --> 00:01:31,559 out. So if your mom for example, Mom and the kid is a perfect 19 00:01:31,559 --> 00:01:36,179 balanced relationship, when you are growing up, okay, for 20 00:01:36,179 --> 00:01:40,799 example, she's trying to care for you and you are open to 21 00:01:40,799 --> 00:01:44,879 receive that care. You don't receive that care because you're 22 00:01:44,879 --> 00:01:48,989 growing up and because you have your own ideas like when you are 23 00:01:48,989 --> 00:01:55,169 a teenager, is what they call a hard years.

Teenagers. Because 24 00:01:55,169 --> 00:01:58,739 teenagers, they start growing up they think they're all grown 25 00:01:58,739 --> 00:02:02,819 then they're almost adult So that one no control anymore. 26 00:02:02,939 --> 00:02:06,899 They don't want my advice anymore from their parents. And 27 00:02:06,929 --> 00:02:11,489 so the roles are start changing gradually. The mom doesn't 28 00:02:11,519 --> 00:02:15,539 change the role. She's still a mom, but the kid in his mind is 29 00:02:15,539 --> 00:02:19,769 already starting to change his understanding of his role.

So 30 00:02:20,159 --> 00:02:25,829 the revision is in order. Okay? So there's always has to be 31 00:02:25,829 --> 00:02:29,189 balanced. So as soon as the kid will say starts feeling, for 32 00:02:29,189 --> 00:02:34,379 example, start to feel more, more grown up more adult, he 33 00:02:34,379 --> 00:02:37,529 needs to have a conversation with his mom and his mom needs 34 00:02:37,529 --> 00:02:44,159 to try to kind of cool it down as far as parenting thing, 35 00:02:44,729 --> 00:02:49,949 going, maybe with less care, maybe a little bit less advice, 36 00:02:49,949 --> 00:02:54,839 maybe a little bit more privacy to the kid. So the roles they 37 00:02:54,839 --> 00:02:58,949 need to be adjusted. They need to be in balance.

Okay, let's 38 00:02:58,949 --> 00:03:02,759 take another example. Men and women in many relationships, you 39 00:03:02,759 --> 00:03:06,599 know, there's some women that are really strong. We both have 40 00:03:07,169 --> 00:03:11,519 male and the female side and all of us, okay? Mostly, of course, 41 00:03:11,519 --> 00:03:15,929 men predominantly have more masculine energy. And females 42 00:03:15,929 --> 00:03:20,129 have more feminine, but it's not always the case. So in those 43 00:03:20,129 --> 00:03:24,659 cases, for example, a woman may be a really strong woman and she 44 00:03:24,659 --> 00:03:28,379 wants to take care of the family, she wants to earn money 45 00:03:28,499 --> 00:03:35,519 she wants to provide and a man, if he wants the same thing, they 46 00:03:35,519 --> 00:03:39,239 will be battling.

Theirs will be always a competition between 47 00:03:39,239 --> 00:03:44,909 them. And this relationship is not going to last long. Because 48 00:03:45,179 --> 00:03:49,319 there's always a battle going on. It's not a balanced 49 00:03:49,319 --> 00:03:54,179 relationship. So somebody needs to take a role of a woman to 50 00:03:54,179 --> 00:03:58,799 balance this whole relationship out. And it can be a man is 51 00:03:58,799 --> 00:04:03,239 totally fine.

To get understand, whatever your relationship is 52 00:04:03,239 --> 00:04:06,719 based on and there's so many aspects to it, you need to take 53 00:04:06,779 --> 00:04:13,139 each aspect and balance it out who's going to be more feminine, 54 00:04:13,169 --> 00:04:15,629 who's going to be more masculine, in which situations 55 00:04:15,659 --> 00:04:21,059 and how it's going to be expressed? Okay? And there's no 56 00:04:21,089 --> 00:04:24,329 certain way of doing it because we're all different. Our 57 00:04:24,329 --> 00:04:27,809 relationships are all different. So I cannot tell you that you 58 00:04:27,809 --> 00:04:30,899 need to be like this. And girls, you need to be like this and 59 00:04:30,929 --> 00:04:34,349 everything's gonna be fine.

No, it's up to you to find out. It's 60 00:04:34,349 --> 00:04:38,969 up to you to balance it out. To find this harmony in between who 61 00:04:38,969 --> 00:04:43,169 brings what in this relationship? Okay, I think 62 00:04:43,170 --> 00:04:43,890 you get the point. 63 00:04:45,509 --> 00:04:49,019 And how do we find this balance? I want to mention it, and I'm 64 00:04:49,019 --> 00:04:52,439 going to mention it.

When I'm going to be talking about the 65 00:04:52,439 --> 00:04:55,829 pillars of the greater relationships, you will really 66 00:04:55,829 --> 00:04:58,859 understand it. Okay, so let's go