Hello, and welcome to this video where I'd like to tell a little story about someone I knew who was experiencing some abandonment issues. So this is just an example of what abandonment might look like in someone's day to day life. So this person I knew, grew up in a family that was neglectful almost to the point of abusive and so what happened is that he was told especially during the summer to go play outside and he wasn't allowed to come back home until it was time for dinner. So he had to spend all day outside now he didn't live in a city so it wasn't turned out onto the streets. But he lived next to a forest in a wooded area. And so he told me that he was absolutely horrified at times to be out there by himself in the woods all day long.

And so what he did is that he built a little survival shelter someplace where he could be safe and he had a little three pound coffee can where he kept food in there that he never touched, just in case he was never allowed to go back home. So if you think about it, that's a horrifying set of circumstances for a small child to be raised in to be so afraid that you feel like you need to make your own survival shelter and have your own food source just in case you can't go back home. And so what happened when this guy grew up, is that he became very successful in business because he had incredible determination and resolve, he could take care of himself in any situation, no problem. However, what also happened is that he grew up being very afraid to be alone. So in his business, what happened is he ended up traveling a lot.

So he became very successful, you know, it kind of knocked him out of the park in terms of business. But he also had developed lovers in every city that he traveled to because he could not stand to be alone. And so he's successful had all these different women that you know, tuck in, like his survival food and That's okay. I guess I mean, he had, you know, lovers and success except it wasn't too good on his marriage. And so that's kind of what survival look or what abandonment looked like in his situation. And so that's just one expression, what it can look like.

So let's go on to our next lecture. I'll see you there.