Hello, and welcome to the lecture on deep grief. At some point, in the course of our lives, most of us have discovered that to be human being needs to be brokenhearted. Sooner or later, we all lose something that we love. It can be a person, it can be a thing or even a circumstance. It'll show up in our lives as death or divorce or maybe a change to our health. an alteration in our finances could be moving or relocating from one place to another.

Or it could even be things like a beloved pet, or maybe a house that we used to own. So if we are meant to lose things in our lives, that means that grief is a normal part of living. Life is actually an endless parade of hanging on and letting go letting go and hang on. And in order to be happy and well adjusted, we need to Do something that people never teach us how to do. And that's imperative, that we learn how to grieve. Now, when we grieve when we go into the natural state of grieving, there are certain emotional stages that we go through, and they're not natural, necessarily sequential.

But these things will happen when you go into a grieving state. So one thing, emotion that we may experience is disbelief or denial or shocks, like we can't believe this is going on. This isn't happening to me, could be followed by sadness, or loneliness or deep depression. We may have episodes of anger and rage that flare up in response to our grief. And then hopefully, we get to a point where there's some acceptance, you make a decision to move on and then the whole grieving process has been integrated and you come to a state of peace. And for most people, when we go into a grieving state, what will happen is that, oh, we think we're doing okay, today is getting better.

And we think we're fine and then what will happen a circumstances or a situation will come And it will trigger our grief once again, and it'll cause us to relive the grief and maybe anger or sadness or depression based on something that's occurred. And so most of us when we go into a deep grieving state, let's say to the loss of a loved one, it can take quite a while and up to a period of maybe two to three years. And that's normal. So how can hypnotherapy help someone in a grieving situation? Well, there's a couple ways. The first one is that hypnotherapy can help people experience and release those deep emotions.

So someone who's in a normal grieving state, let's say they've lost someone or they've gone to a divorce, it can actually accelerate the grieving process. And so instead of taking two or three years to grieve over the loss of someone or something, you can maybe take it down to a year and a half or maybe two years or so. Also, some people do not process their grief entirely and so they can Get stuck in the grieving process. And so they'll stay in a grieving state for longer than that two or three years. And what that can do is it can start to create repeating patterns based on that suppressed emotion. So what hypnotherapy is brilliant at is taking people into a deeply relaxed state, helping them relax, accessing those unresolved emotions, releasing them and letting them go, helping them to complete the grieving process, and then to move on in their lives.

Now, there is one technique in particular that I have discovered that is brilliant at helping people move on through their grieving process. And what it is you take someone into a deeply relaxed state, get them very comfortable. And know what you do is you call in the object of their grief. So if they've lost a loved one, you x asked that loved one to come into the session and you want to make sure you ask your client that's okay before the session starts. Or you can call in a situation a circumstance or an object that they've lost with the tension that as you call this person, circumstance or thing, and that you're doing it with the intention of healing and resolving the situation completely, and then you allow your client to interact in dialogue with the object of their grief, to bring them into a state of deep peace and healing.

And these sessions can be very powerful, very deep and extremely transforming and healing. Now, when you go into a session like this, you want to be aware of a couple of things. One is that expect some emotional release. So when someone goes into release grief, like that, expect some tears. So if you're working one on one with someone like in an office setting, make sure to have your Kleenex on hand and to be in a supportive environment to allow them to express their grief and to release their tears. If you're working remotely on on the phone or on a video chat.

Just make sure that your client knows that you're there to support them, you're there to create a nice safe space for them to release their emotions. Encourage them and be supportive for them as they go through that process. Now, in a situation where you're calling in someone who has died and calling them into your session, a couple things may happen. One is that your client may experience them in their imagination. And so the interact with them in their imagination in order to bring healing and peace into the situation. Or one thing that I've experienced a number of times is that the person who has died actually shows up so their presence comes into the session, not physically haven't experienced it physically, but where their, their energetic presence is undeniable to not only you but the client as well, and those can be very powerful.

And so you want to encourage your client, just to go through whatever process they need to bring peace. So once again, to handle deep grief, take your client into a deeply relaxed state, have them call in their object of grief, with the intention of healing and resolving a situation completely and just let them go through the process. So what I'd like to do now is I'd like to share a little video with you that I recorded earlier. That's about a client that I had that I helped them go through some deep grief and help them resolve the situation. So, enjoy that video and then I'll see you at the next lecture. So thanks