Hello, welcome back is Adam sure the hot guy. And in the last video we looked at how to be more optimistic about Boomerang thoughts. And in this one, this is the final video of this course, we're going to look how to believe in yourself. Now the first thing that I discussed with people is the ability to take a compliment. There are so many people there that like to give compliments to other people, but all make a compliment to them and they won't believe me. So I'll say something like, Wow, you look fabulous today.

Oh, no, not this old dress or this old shirt. It's no, you must be talking about somebody else. And it sort of comes back at me. Or I'll say, Wow, you were you you in a happy space. You're feeling good? And they're like, No, no, I'm not that not always that happy.

Be here and start playing it down. So you give people a compliment. And they sometimes struggle with it. Now, this is the equivalent of giving somebody a gift. And then say, I'm sorry, I don't want that you take it back, give it to somebody worthy. Now that does two things.

What it does is it makes the person who's given you the gift feel bad. And what it does is it sets your energy space for people to stop giving you compliments. And again, this comes from a place of not believing in yourself enough. So the first thing in opening yourself up to believe in yourself more is when ever anyone gives you a compliment. Even if you don't believe it. The only thing to say is thank you.

So stop thanking people, for giving you compliments. Start being open to come moments, when you hand out compliments to other people, start seeing the positives. start finding the thing that you really like. Now, you might not like this person at all, it might be your boss who's a real tyrant. He might have a good day, start noticing the good things. Maybe there aren't any good things that are obvious.

But the more you look for them, the more that you will start getting used to finding the positive things that work. Again, in personal development workshops that I've been in often will get to stand up and say something positive to somebody that we don't even know. So we're looking for things. We're going into every interaction, looking for points of contact, looking for positive things, always helps to smile when you're going into a situation we've covered this. Smiling is good. It all boils down to your relationship yourself.

The research has shown that people perceive those who smile as being more successful, of earning more money and being more approachable. So if you're in a social or networking situation, and you're just standing there smiling, you're already putting out a better energy. So with this in mind, we're going to start focusing on the positives, you're going to start saying thank you for everything that anyone says, when they give you a gift, when they hand you that compliment. I want you now to start writing down things you love about yourself. Now, you might struggle with this, I want you to write down your five best qualities and do that now. Okay, if you've done the exercise, you're already starting to focus on positives.

Here's another exercise for you. Again, I only did this myself to get the power of this so I did all of this exercises when I was writing my book because I thought, How can I give practical steps to the lessons that I'm teaching now. And feedback is the thing that keeps coming back and back and back, the more open you are to feedback, the better your life will get. Because a good friend is someone that won't just tell you the good stuff. They'll also tell you the stuff that you need to improve. And your receptivity to these two sides of that spectrum will influence the relationship that your friends have with you, and the honesty and authenticity that you're operating from his friend.

Now again, I went to a couple of workshops and somebody stood on the stage we had an opportunity we could go on stage and we could share what we were thinking. And there was a girl she stood on the stage he said, Please, I want to learn and grow as a person. I want some feedback. And quite honestly, the feedback I had for this girl really was It wasn't very positive, there were a few positives, we were told to put a feedback sandwich. So if you want to tell somebody something where they need to improve, put a positive at the beginning and put a positive at the end. And that could go something along the lines of, look, I think you've done a fabulous job with this project.

So far. The timelines that we agreed to put in place you haven't kept. And this is unacceptable, and that needs to improve. And it needs to improve now, because we all have deadlines, and we're all under pressure. So Dare you get in your little thing. And then at the end of it says, you can say something positive, like I have complete confidence in you.

And I think you're one of the brightest staff that we've had, which is why I entrusted you with this process in the beginning. So there's ways to give feedback in an honest way. Now if you really want to take this exercise to another level, put it out there, you might want to do it on social media, you might want to do it on an exercise one on one picking five or 10 or 15 of your closest friends, and sending them a message or phoning them up and saying that I'm here. I want to get some feedback on myself. One of the reasons I'm your friend, what qualities do you admire in me? Do you like in me as your friend?

And what areas do you think I most need to strengthen upon? Now, if you do this exercise, it will open up your eyes. Because there are certain aspects about you, that other people see that you don't. We can get caught in our own world, and we very rarely see ourselves the same way that other people see us. So your ability to learn and grow as an individual is directly related to your receptivity to feedback. This means that even when people giving you stuff that you don't want to hear that you thank them for their honesty, you thank them for their friendship.

And this, this, this is certainly with all of your friends, if you become receptive, receptive to what they have to say, and you openly encouraged them to do so you will learn and evolve as a person. So here's the brave thing I'm going to ask you now to sit down, write down at least five, maybe 10 or even 15 friends that you're close with that you could get feedback from. And I want you to write them or call them or text them whatever it is, contact them with the two questions I really admire your your friendship. I'm looking for feedback. Can you tell me what you really like about me as a friend for the my, my good qualities, and what areas do I need to improve it? Start doing that list and sending them out now?

Okay, welcome back. Now if you've done that exercise, trust me, it puts you in a vulnerable space. Because you're putting stuff out there. And you don't know what's going to come back. You don't know what the backs gonna come back, you, you, you this can be quite scary to make yourself in that space in that design. But your good friends will help you learn and grow.

So believing in yourself comes from the point of being open, open to feedback, open to change, open to evolving, open to learning, growing and being resilient and learning down the way. Now, there's a few techniques that I can give you to help you to believe in yourself now. One is, whenever you're in the zone, here's a really useful tip. Your breathing affects your mood. This is the essence of meditation. If you find yourself in an ultra stress zone, the odds are you're breathing out Only using about 5% of your oxygen or your lung capacity because you've really got to get out the information quickly or you're stressed or you're in this hyper alert space.

Now what you'll find is just by bringing your awareness to your breathing just by doing that simple thing alone, you can start to relax. You can start to release stress, you can start to release tension, and you can start to feel better instantly. Your breathing is the quickest way to change your mood that you have. If you're about to get on stage and give a presentation. Take deep breaths. If you're standing backstage, deep breaths.

Hold it for a few seconds. And as you breathe out, feel all of the tension leave your body. Breathe in control, confidence and energy holding Breathe out. Feel yourself get more relaxed and to ground yourself and what is grounding me? Well groundings bit like a house and an electric supply. If your electricity in your house isn't grounded, it's not safe and you could electrocute yourself.

How do you know when you're not grounded? Well, people lose focus. They start talking and they're not relating to people. They seem away with the fairies up in the clouds. These are very rare, very rare, or very relevant things that people say, are very common things that people say when people aren't grounded. You don't really understand them.

You don't get them they're off on another planet. There's another thing that you say to people that aren't grounded. How do you ground your energy? quite simple. Energy follows thought. Your thoughts influence anything and just by thinking about things they happen.

So just by thinking of You've been connected to the central idea. You're grounded already. Whether you believe it or not just saying I want to be grounded your grounding, right now, how do I do it, I picture a ball of energy at the center of the earth. And I imagine myself being connected to it to the base of my spine that's grounded. If you want another technique while you're breathing, when you're breathing in, intends to breathe in all your own energy and breathe out any energy of other people that's not affected, that's not serving you anymore. send it back to its source, Breathe it out of your body.

Connect. You know, I'd love to sit here or stand here. I'm not even setting. I'd love to stand here and give you loads of tips. But I I've been busy putting together tips on my website that you can tap into free resources. But quite honestly, your friends are your best resource here and We've already talked about your phone mot, about how to control your emotions, how your body's got a court room, you've got an emotion, there's no such thing as negative emotion that you've got emotional guidance system.

And our thoughts are like boomerangs that keep coming back. So with these principles in place, start thinking what you want to put out of there. And if you go to your website and leave your name and email, I'll even invite you to some events where you can come in and actually connect with other people that will help you there. And maybe you're in a different country. Well, you never know one day I might be in town and you might want to come along and you might want to know about it when it does. But either way, I'll be sending out useful hints, useful tips, little short videos of how you can increase your resilience, how you can feel better, and how you can improve your life easily through changing your mindset through getting in alignment with your heart and connecting more to the heart of humanity.

And your life. And on behalf of me, Adam shore, I'm the heart guy. And I just want to thank you for your time. And if you've got any comments about any of the content on this course, then then send it my way, and I will do my best to answer it. I'm Adam. Sure.

I'm the heart guy. And I just want to thank you for your participation in this course. And I sincerely hope that I will get to connect with you again on another one of my courses, or maybe even on one of my live events.