Hello there, I'm Adam, Shawn, the hot guy, and welcome to my course on how to be more resilient. Now before we start, let's look at what resilience is. Now. For me, it's the ability to bounce back after even the most challenging things happen to you. And everybody's going to go through low periods in their life. If somebody dies in your family, if you have a serious health setback, maybe you're moving house, maybe you've got a wedding coming up, maybe you've got to give a public speech and you're feeling that you're going to struggle with that.

There's a whole host of things that can cause us to be to fall down to go into a place of retreat, to not feel 100% with it, or resilient at the time. And what we're going to look at is that bad things like that. Do happen to you. And you will always bounce back. As long as you're alive. You'll always bounce back if you don't go into a place of low depression for the rest of your life, which some people do, of course.

But what we're going to look at is reducing the period between bad things happening and bouncing back. So that's what we're going to be working on today. I'm going to explain what resilience is, how your emotions affect your resilience, how your psychology influences your ability to be resilient, the relationship between your head and your heart. We're going to look how the body stores stuff that you haven't resolved, and how that can manifest in pain. We're going to look at how your relationships relate to your resilience. The most important thing we're going to look at today is the most important relationship and that is your relationship with yourself.

Once you have that in place, if we focus that as the central point, then everything will start to make sense from it. So that's the central focus of today that your relationship with yourself. Now, just to give you a bit of background, who am I on what gives me the right to talk to you about resilience? Well, my professional career started in 1992. I started training as a nurse, and part of that training by 1996. When I was fully qualified, I trained as a teacher and assessor.

So I've trained and mentored hundreds, if not thousands of people within a nurse or medical environment. And why do they need to be more resilient? Well, especially working in our accident and emergency departments, or the emergency room for my American friends in that environment, a lot of high pressure things happen to people. It's a lot of high emotion. There's a lot of demands made upon us, and what we have to do as now As medical staff is prioritize, and think quickly, there's no time to feel low to, to reflect on the on the bad things that happened during that shift, you have to get on with it, you have to be more resilient, you have to focus and you have to stay in the zone. So it's not just through teaching these skills.

It's true actually working in these environments that have given me the authority to stand in front of you today and talk about resilience. But perhaps more, so let's come back a step. For the first 17 years of my life. I grew up within the grounds for the psychiatric hospital. Some of you are thinking, Wow, what's he doing in there? How did you get yourself in there?

Adam? Well, let me just assure you that my parents were both psychiatric nurses. So they lived and worked in that hospital and lifting the staff accommodation in that environment. So that was before It all started. And quite frequently we used to get patients come and knock on the door. And they were looking for cigarettes.

Some of them, they hadn't even got dressed properly. They were wearing 90s slippers with no dentures, sometimes no hair. I know all about the no hair thing, but these are some of them were women with sort of wisps, they left their wigs up there, like really lost any sort of dignity that they'd had. And this was my playground. This was where I grew up. And this was very normal to me because I didn't know any different.

So I've been alternative view on these things. The thing that really got me interested, fascinated, quite worried about the human disposition and what happens when there's a lack of resilience in your life. was one day I was about 10 years old. We went up to the hospital Bonfire Night, now, fifth November over here in the UK. We have a fireworks tonight and What happens is a big bonfire and lots of fireworks go off. So I was there in anticipation about 10 holding onto my dad's hand, looking at this huge bonfire that was twice the size of me, flickering off heat at the top and could feel the intensity of the heat where I was stood, which is quite far back.

In that environment, I saw a guy with a look of intensity on his face, the likes of which I've never seen before. And I've never seen since and he broke loose from the crowd, and he walked straight into the bonfire. I really thought to myself, I suddenly 10 I thought I knew that they burn a guy on guidebooks night, but I thought it was just a dummy. I didn't realize they were now putting real people into recreate, or Guy Fawkes Night. Little did I know this wasn't part of the plan for anyone because my dad and about three other nurses Went to get this guy out of the pile. And there was smelling burning flesh in the night.

And it was quite cold. And watching this guy with smoke coming out of him when he came out the fire. he sustained 90% burns that day. And he died three days later. And I remember thinking, what can cause people to do that? What makes people go down that route?

And so I was naturally curious about human psychology, and what what we are all about. In fact, I've studied a phenomenon I call the lunatic gene, which I've written about, we all have the lunatic G. And to some people, it makes them thrive in the face of adversity. They're the really resilient ones and to others, it makes them get ill because of it. So we're going to look at this phenomenon in at length. Let's look at a few reasons. In people from history, one of them and one of a guy who I've got a lot of time for is Colonel Sanders.

Now bear in mind that I'm a vegetarian. And here's a guy who was 65 realized he wasn't getting paid very much, certainly not as much as he wanted. He had a chicken recipe and a van, and he drove all around the US, looking for people to buy his recipe. Here's a guy that had over 1000 rejections, and yet, he still kept dusting himself off, bouncing back and re presenting his recipe over 1000 times. Now, less of people would have given up after just one or two. Ask yourself how many times would you keep presenting your new formula or idea and getting rejections before you start giving up?

Colonel Sanders kept going over 1000 times and you will know the story of how that brand To die as a result of his persistence. Let's look at another case from history. Let's look at a slightly more recent one, JK Rowling is a woman wrote a book. And she got rejection after rejection after rejection. And even her sales agent turned around to JK Rowling and said, don't give up your day job. But JK Rowling was convinced, and she kept presenting opportunity to other people, despite the fact that she kept getting rejection after rejection after rejection.

It wasn't until she presented it to one of the publishers whose daughter read the script. It was a daughter of this publisher that decided that talks that talk them into taking this project on and we all know how successful the Harry Potter franchises today that's a result of persistence. Distance is a result of resilience and resilience is what we're going to cover today at length. So I want you to start writing down things. A difference between knowledge and wisdom is action. And the difference between action and inaction is remembering the actions you're going to take.

So get a pad, get a pen, get a document, start typing, take notes, throughout this course. And you will start to put together an action plan of the things that you can do, to be to feel more resilient in the hair and the Now perhaps the most important aspect of this training is to start viewing yourself in a bit more fun capacity. We're going to look at ourselves in a humorous way because we can get to take life a little bit seriously. And with the people I coach one on one, we do get into the series. So so we're going to get a little bit lighter. We're going to start reflecting on the positives that happen from things that seemed like they are setbacks.

We're going to learn how to learn from every mistake that we make. We're going to look at mistakes as not mistakes as a learning process that leads us to the place that we need to be. Because it's the paralysis, it's the fear of doing things that stop people from being resilient. It's the lack of relationship with themselves that stopped them being resilient is that inability to have fun with life and to keep bouncing back knowing that you're on the right path. And everything that is a setback can be learned to move you in the right direction. So that's my introduction to resilience program.

And in the next video, we're going to look at how your relationships affect your resilience.