In this video, let's continue talking about self management. And let's go over a checklist of four elements of relaxation. And utilization is what you need to get to. If you get angry or annoyed, or any of the negative emotions, you got to take yourself out of those and get yourself back into relaxed mode when you can think calmly and approach any situation or conflict or anything, anything that happens to you reasonably without overreacting that you may regret later. So here are the four items. first three are easy.

The fourth, I'll elaborate on. First of all, when you get yourself when you find yourself getting angry, having that those negative moods, you need to get yourself to a quiet noise free environment with that, that doesn't have a lot of annoyances, so you got to take yourself out of the environment that's causing you distress and get yourself to a quiet place. Also, very often, we get angry and have negative emotions. If we are physically uncomfortable something hurts we're not sitting straight I'm not sitting correctly or something you know just not sitting comfortably or maybe we pulled some muscle maybe I have you have a headache, maybe we are hungry, all those things of course you will recognize that they contribute to irritation and anger and then get you to be less than your positive self. So right away you know, you really if and these are easy to notice, if you're physically uncomfortable, either tell the people you're with, hey, I'm a little bit uncomfortable or so that they understand that you're not hundred percent or get yourself physically comfortable or just don't engage in challenging conversations activities that make you physically uncomfortable, then you'll underperform.

Additionally, you've got to have a positive attitude. I know this is easier said than done. And there's no particular silver bullet to this. But if sometimes if you just smile, even if you're feeling irritated, if you just smile, you will feel better. It's scientifically proven that the devil happens. Just try your best.

I know, the moment where you're getting angry. It's really hard to do this, but you overall, try to have a positive attitude toward things. And actually it will help you it will help you see things in a better light and be less angry. Now, number four is a relaxation word, technique. Let me explain what it is. It's kind of like you find the word for yourself some kind of a unique word, let's say it's buzzing.

I don't know maybe if you speak a different language, it might be a different word of that language. And something that is unique. And by the way, this strategy is not a cure all. It's not going to be like a magic you know, silver bullet that's going to cure everything, but it will decrease instances when you're going to become so it's going to help you and when you find yourself getting angry, getting frustrated, anything negative, you go just tell yourself internally bazinga and right away, it's kind of like a joke. It kind of stops you in your tracks a little bit and just gives you a few seconds to kind of stop and pause extra. And then you know what to do from the previous slide, get out of that environment, pause, slow down, get to a quiet environment, get physically comfortable, and then you will get, you will stop being as angry in that moment, and you'll be able to handle the situation more rationally.

So sometimes just having that interstitial word in there makes it enough of a difference for you to not do what you would regret later. And overall, give you fewer negative instances and consequences of any of those actions that you might take when you're feeling angry or frustrated. So that is those that is the four step checklist that every time you get angry, go through these and see and you can apply any of these items right away to the situation to become less angry or have less of that negative mood.