Safety behaviors. In this video I will tell you various types of safety behaviors that people usually have. And at the end of that, I will be giving you an exercise where you will have to go through the contemplation and internal work on yourself. When it comes to social anxiety, you have to see what kind of social safety behaviors Do you use and what is the cost that you are bearing of such behaviors. So, first one is outright avoidance. Okay, this is the first type of safety behavior.

What you do is you avoid going to any event, you reject invitations, okay? The anxiety is so much that you don't even look at the opportunities and you outrightly who just avoid the situations Okay, all this has happened to me a lot. When I was in my teenage I used to avoid going to the social gatherings of my school, okay. All my school used to go on trips and outings, but I used to always on give various reasons such as I am sick or something, and I used to reject their invitation all the time. So, this is outright avoidance because I had some kind of social anxiety and this was my major kind of safety behavior that I used to play all the time. Okay, so, first one is outright avoidance or the staying away from your feared social events.

So if you have some kind of fear for socializing, or going to family get togethers also, you might use this behavior Other examples are skipping meetings avoiding conversations and making your life very restricted. So, if you are not pushing your boundaries you are staying in your comfort zone you are a donor always staying inside your house and outrightly just avoiding all the invitations for you to socialize then you are using a very a very high level of safety behavior right. So, what are some other kinds of safety behaviors let us look at them. So, these are actually when you are on the field, okay. So, you are not avoiding it upright. Okay, you do go and accept the invitation Say for example, you are invited to social gatherings to associate trip.

Okay, you actually do Go there might after you arrived there, you start becoming some behaviors that stop other people from connecting with you. So what are some behaviors forces like hiding your anxiety? Okay you do anything to hide your anxiety maybe you put on some extra makeup you wear extra clothes because you might be sweating or you do some kind of weird stuff that that stops people from really seeing through your costume. Okay, so you do some kind of hiding work. The second is safe friends. So if you do go to a trip, you only go when your best friend is there with you.

Okay, you are always by his side. And if he is talking to someone else, you are standing in the corner, doing absolutely nothing and thinking about why Hello, and I in this situation. Another kind of safety behavior that you might be doing is avoiding awkward pauses. So if you're talking with someone, and then you go all silent and you don't have nothing to talk about, then you might avoid that situation that pause, okay, that emptiness by talking too much. Or by exaggerating the things by exaggerating the topics by, you know, just talking the things over and over again, which makes you weird. And ultimately, when you are in the safety more, you are actually doing the exact thing that you don't want to do.

In this case, you don't want to appear viewed and I'm embarrassed, but by talking too much and avoiding all those pauses, you are actually making people do