Put yourself first. Fill your bucket. Imagine that each person has a bucket, everything that must do with how they feel inside so their emotional state health well being fulfillment energy level is dependent on how full their bucket is. Every person can use the spout and pour into someone else's bucket. There are some people who are bucket fillers. They are helpers and givers who go around filling other people's buckets.

There are also people who are beggars asking for their buckets to be filled without doing it themselves. Sometimes the givers give too much and their buckets end up empty. They sacrifice themselves for others. They get drained, lethargic, stressed until eventually they have no more to give. In some cases, they become very ill or even pass away leaving behind any number of people who believe they needed that person to fill their bucket. This is all because of one big misunderstanding.

Each person is 100% responsible for and capable of filling their own bucket. Not everyone takes responsibility for it though, they look for handouts to fill their bucket instead, beggars I have good news, you are perfectly able to fill your own bucket. When dependent people are forced to stop being dependent. Guess what happens? They do it. I also have good news for the givers, they can fill their own bucket.

That means you can focus on your own bucket. You need to learn to feed yourself, take care of yourself, do things that bring you joy, use your natural talents, do something that makes you feel like you are flowing naturally like yourself, go for a walk or spend time in nature. For some people filling their bucket is reading a book or playing a game, going to the movies, listening to music or creating art. Just remember what fills your specific bucket and do more of that you won't feel dependent on anyone else to fill your bucket. Yours will run over and you will have more to give them the oxygen mask idea. Here is an analogy using the oxygen mask and airplanes.

When they give the demonstration about safety before the flight starts, they tell you that when the oxygen masks drop down, make sure you put yours on first. There is a good reason for this, you will only have so long before you won't be able to breathe and you will pass out from lack of oxygen, you won't be able to help anybody then put your mask on first, then you can go around helping others putting their masks on after what this is saying is that you can help more people if you help yourself first. If you look back on your life, you can see that there were probably times when you made decisions that truly honored you or times that you did what you loved, even if it was unpopular at the time. Maybe there were times you chose not to participate in something that you knew wasn't right for you, no matter what anyone said.

Maybe you gave yourself a reward or took a much needed break. And because you made those decisions, you improved your psychological and emotional state, you became stronger, your bucket became full, you were better able to care for yourself and others. Here are some questions you can consider. One, either any decisions you made in the past that have honored you, too. If so, how did it turn out? Three?

In what ways are you honoring yourself or taking care of yourself right now? For are there situations that you are self sacrificing almost to the point of self harm or no longer being able to help those very people that you were sacrificing for? Five? Have you ever put yourself out there so much that now you just can't help anybody? Six. Is there any changes you could make that would put your own oxygen mask on first or fill your own bucket?

So You are better able to assist others. Seven. What are some ways that you can fill your own bucket? Eight? What feeds you makes you feel fulfilled? Nine.

What changes could you make that would stop beggars from being dependent on you filling up their bucket and 10 if you commit to filling your own bucket, how will this change your life?