Steps to forgiveness. I'm going to go over eight steps to forgiveness starting with number one, write it down. Make a list of people you need to forgive and what you want to forgive them for and include what you need to forgive yourself for to. to reflect, acknowledge the pain that the lack of forgiveness on your part has caused you and how it currently impacts your life. Is it more painful than the actual experience? Three pologize Express your apology through a letter, email, phone call or in person remember not to be attached to the results since this is about you, not them do not expect to be forgiven.
What will you say for Express grievances? If there are items on your forgiveness list that you have never addressed with the person approached them about it. There may be a misunderstanding behind the situation or you may receive a message Now don't be attached to the outcome express yourself for its own sake. Five, learn the lessons. What are some things that you can learn from the situation? Are there any positives that have or can come out of this experience?
What lessons could the other person have learned? Six let go release any expectations from anyone else. This includes expectations of forgiveness or apologies from others or changes in others behaviors. forgiving doesn't mean accepting unacceptable behavior. But if the person does not change, it is your responsibility to do what's right for you, even if it means cutting the person out of your life. What expectations Do you release?
Seven, reprogram your mind, create an action plan on how to shift your resentful thoughts when negative feelings come up even once you forgive old mental patterns may be retriggered. So write down what you will tell yourself to repeat Mind yourself of your forgiveness and refocus back to your true desires just for those tough times. And finally, eight, live and be free. Forgiveness is about personal power. A life well lived is your best revenge. Therefore, take your power back and focus on your desires.
Don't do it because you'll show them do it because you want to live your life with freedom and passion. Forgiveness is often an opportunity to learn, grow and heal. We may even find that the negative experiences were blessings in disguise if we can create a place for forgiveness and acceptance in our hearts. Remember forgiveness is 100% your responsibility only you can unlock the door to your prison and shift your life from limitation to freedom.