Break free from the prison. Open the cage and let the prisoner go. This is one of the best things that you can do to free yourself and create the life that you want. You might think I'm not holding anybody in a prison, but everyone creates a prison. And the prisoner you're trying to set free is yourself. This prison is created by not forgiving.

In fact many times not forgiving is the biggest piece of baggage you can carry. Your baggage could be from parents, friends, a significant other or a co worker. Anyone that was not there for you or abused you or took advantage of your trust are harmed you emotionally we can hold resentments thinking that we're somehow getting the other person back but they are not affected by our refusal to forgive. We are. Webster's Dictionary defines forgiveness this way. It says to give up resentment against stop being angry with pardon.

Give up all claim to punish overlook or cancel a debt. So that means forgiveness is releasing the feeling that the other person owes us something. What happens when that debt is never paid or forgiven? Do we just carry it with us for the rest of our lives? A lot of times we do, who is it truly hurting us or them? When we release that feeling, we are freeing ourselves and the baggage that we carry.

Forgiveness is an opportunity to start over and refocus your attention on what you desire. You might believe that forgiveness is challenging, but when you understand who it is really for you, then it becomes easier. When you practice forgiveness. You'll feel empowered. Forgiveness is freedom. Many people don't forgive because they have a misconception about what forgiveness really is.

So I'm going to go over some of the things that forgiveness is not. Forgiveness is not reconciliation with the person. Forgiveness is not living in denial about a person's actions and pretending something did not happen. Forgiveness is not allowing the person to do the same behavior repeatedly. Forgiveness is not having no consequences for behavior. And forgiveness is not having the pain magically go away.

The pain may take a long time to heal, but it often does go away if you let it. First, forgive yourself. Many times in our lives, we make mistakes and we have to forgive ourselves for those mistakes. Most people have more resentment toward themselves than anyone else. There's two things that our minds unconsciously do when we feel guilty. One of them is to try to repay or make things right, often excessively.

If we feel that there's nothing we can do to make something right. The second option we choose unconsciously, is to punish ourselves. An example let's say that we had a great relationship at one point and we did something to mess it up. Then what we naturally do is sabotage future relationships as a way of punishing ourselves. If you feel that you're suffering dude To an inability to forgive yourself first ask yourself is there anything you can do to right, you're wrong. Often expressing an apology in any form will help you release yourself from your prison person does not have to offer forgiveness in response to your apology.

You will the key to your prison, do everything you can and then let it go. If there's nothing you can do to make it better, you gain nothing by living in guilt and regret. If there's a lesson to be learned from the experience, consciously acknowledge the lesson and implement it into your life. Remember that all humans make mistakes and it doesn't make you a bad person. also accept that everyone experiences lessons in life that are crucial for growth any wrong that you experience was probably a lesson for you and it was most certainly a lesson for the other person too.