Hello, and welcome back to finally facing fear. And here we're in session two, we're going to be talking about assessing your fears. So by getting to know your fears, it makes it easier to face them. So here's where we're going to really like get to know get acquainted and really dissect the fears and understand what they're all about. So they become less than a little bit less intimidating. So by shining light on them, they slowly start to dissipate.

So it's like that monster we had under the bed when we were kids. The more we were scared, and the more we shunned away from it and hit ourselves and stayed under the covers and avoided confronting that monster that lived beneath the bed. The more scared we became, the more this fear consumed us. But as soon as we had the courage to get under the blankets and just poke our eyes, underneath the bed, The more that that fear stopped existing because we realized that it was just created by our minds, like many emotions, fears can be very overdramatized by the mind. So by taking some time to look at it straight on and better understanding what it's all about, we give ourselves a bigger chance of lessening the the severity of how that fear effect affects us. So in this session, we're going to be going through a bit of a step by step process of how the fears are going to be analyzed.

In your workbook, you have some worksheets related to this section, there'll be one kind of sample activity so you can get an idea of how the worksheet is filled out. And then there'll be three pages where you'll be able to kind of dissect three of your own fears. So the first thing that we're going to do is name the fear give them give the fear and name so that we can refer to it in a certain way. So let's say that I've always wanted to move to Paris and live there for six months or a year or something. And I want to do that, but I'm scared. I'm scared of the unknown.

I'm scared of what might happen to me. So, I'm going to call this fear unknown in Paris, just to give it a name. Step two, is where we're going to describe the fear. What is the fear all about? So this would be like a point, a point form list of of what what is it that what is this fear all about? Where what is it that you're scared might happen?

So I might be scared that I'm going to go to Paris and I'm not going to find work and I'm going to not gonna have enough money to come home. I'm scared that I'm going to go to Paris and I'm not going to have any friends and I'm not gonna have anyone to socialize with. I'm scared that I'm going to go to Paris. And I'm going to miss my family. I'm scared that I'm going to go to Paris and lose out on really good professional opportunities that might come up back home. Let's say this is my list.

So we're really trying to detail what it is about the fear that scares us. What are we scared? What is the outcome that we're scared of? Then in Step three, we are going to for each of the points we mentioned, in step two, we're going to list how we can prevent it from happening. So let's say one of the fears was that we weren't going to be able to find work. What might you be able to do to avoid prefer to prevent that from happening?

Maybe you could make sure that you have a lot of savings. Maybe you can start job hunting before you go, maybe you can find a job before you even get there. There's a lot of different things that you can do to prevent The outcome, the negative outcome that you're scared of, you could, there's a lot of things you could do to prevent them from happening. So list those out. And for each of the points in the previous step and step two, In this step, you should find a few options to prevent it from happening. Then step four is, what could you do if it did happen?

So we're looking at the fears that we mentioned in step two. Let's assume that they all become a reality. Now we're going to look at what we could do if they did happen. How could we fix the situation? So let's say we go to Paris, we're scared that we're not gonna be able to find work and we're going to run out of money. Let's say it does happen.

What could we have pre planned to manage that situation with more ease? Maybe we have a backup credit card ready. Maybe we bought around return flight that we can change the dates for for free. Maybe we have a backup plan for a job that we could do online, no like at any given moment. So yeah, we want to list out some options of things that we can do if the worst comes to worst. And then we're going to confirm that it's safe and beneficial to overcome this fear.

This is a step that it's not mentioned in the worksheet. There's nothing you do. But it's just to make sure that the fear that we're looking to confront is realistically beneficial. Because fear arises for it to benefit it is to benefit us it arises to warn us that what we're potentially wanting to confront might have some some unbeneficial outcomes and so Some might be quite risky or not even risky in a good way, but some might put our safety or health at risk. And so we want to make sure that the thing that we're looking to confront doesn't cross this line for us. We all have a different line of what's worth risking, and what isn't.

But like, let's say that we're scared of jumping out of a plane. Maybe that's a fear that is okay with you to have, maybe you don't need to jump out of a plane. So in this step, we're just confirming that whatever it is we're looking to do is safe and beneficial to us. And so here is like if you wanted to just do this activity on your own and just kind of break down a fear. This is how you might do it. Like I mentioned in the workbook, there's some worksheets and you can use those and this is the activity, we're going to use to dissector fears so have a look at that.

And I will see you again in the next session.