Hello, and welcome back to finally facing fear. We're now in session three, where we'll be looking at shifting the focus. So the only difference between fear and excitement is your attitude about it. So this is like one of those two different sides of the coin situations, fear and excitement live within the same space. They're within the same side of the spectrum. You can focus on how terribly something might go, or on how amazing it might be.

Either way, this is a choice that you're making. Oftentimes, we assume that our thoughts are the reality that if we think that if we do X, X thing, that the negative outcome will arise and that is the default way but this is This is a thought we're having, we can have the thought, but we don't have to buy into the thought, the thought the thought can exist. And we can consciously decide to shift our attention away from it. And on to a more positive outcome, a more positive, a more probable, a more likely outcome to how the situation might turn out. So in the last session, I was talking about this fear of moving to Paris, and what's going to happen, I'm going to be unemployed, it's going to be so horrible, I'm not going to have friends. We can focus on that really negative potential outcome if we want.

But the likelihood of us being motivated to eventually move to Paris is unlikely if that's what we're focusing on. So once we've noticed that we're having negative thoughts are creating negative potential scenarios in our mind about how something might go, we can acknowledge that that thought is there and instead shifts the focus and leave our focus on something bigger more positive. So yeah, maybe you moved to Paris, maybe it goes horribly wrong. But what if it doesn't? What if it goes amazingly, what might happen if it goes amazingly, this is what we want to allow our attention to rest on the potential positive outcomes of the situation. So in this step in the workbook, there is a worksheet where I want you to write out all of the things you might gain an experience and the best possible situation.

So not only are you going to write out all the best possible outcomes of this situations by you confronting your fear, what great amazing things might happen. But then every time you notice that your attention is falling on the negative things that might happen, noticing your attention there is shifted towards the positive situation shifted towards the great things that might happen. And then as often as you can, when you notice that you're thinking The negative positive outcome, shift your attention and bring it towards the more positive potential outcome. So focus on the possibilities get excited about what might happen. Because if if the desire to do this thing, like moving to Paris lives within you, it's because you think that it can bring something great to your life. So focus your attention on that focus.

And as often as you can assume that great things will happen. Prepare in the last session, we prepared ourselves for what might happen if negative situations do arise. Now that we've prepared ourselves, we no longer have to allow our focus to rest there indefinitely. Instead, we might as well focus our attention on the potential positive outcomes of this situation that we're going to be putting ourselves into. So that's it for this session. I will see you in the next session.