Focus on the bride focus on the groom focus on the couple. You've heard me say that. I've been to countless weddings, where the person getting up to give the speech doesn't do that. The first thing people do is, oh my gosh, I'm so nervous. What they're really saying is me, me, me, me, it's all about me. I understand you may feel nervous.

But don't waste time talking about how nervous you are. People know you're nervous or they just don't care if you're nervous. It's not about you. You're not getting married today. So focus on the bride, focus on the groom. Make this a special moment about them.

And whatever you do, don't waste time talking about the fact that you're nervous. Don't talk about your speech. Just speak Don't talk about well, I was I was laying around last night thinking about what all I'm going to say in my pithy speech today. Don't talk about your speech. It sounds pompous. Don't talk about how you feel about your speech.

Don't talk about being nervous to speak. tell people about this wonderful bride, this wonderful groom, why they're special to you. Focus on your audience. And guess what? You're not even going to be able to feel nervous because you're feeling happiness for the bride and groom focus on the happiness you're feeling for them and your nerves. They don't completely melt away, they won't percolate up to the top, your happiness will be what's on top