How do you see yourself? your strengths your weaknesses? What do you perceive as your glaring strengths and your glaring weaknesses? And then what others around you who know you casually or know you well in your family and your friends, your workplace? What do they see is your strengths and your weaknesses? Now, if you're going to learn to affirm yourself the right way, this is an incredibly instructive process for you to work through, and to have some kind of grid or tool or resource as specifically a model to help you do this.

And one of the best ones that's ever been developed was developed in the 1950s by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingram, and it's called the Joe Harry window it's and Joe Joe hurry because Joseph and Harry Joseph, Harry Joe, Harry, Joe, hurry, when Go. And it's called a model. And I want you to spend some time understanding this in this session. And then I want you to be able to read more information we have on this and do some self assessments we're making available for you in our resource center, so you can understand right now, the way you believe you're seen by yourself and by others, and as you're working with others, you can begin to fill in this chart and understand how to build it out appropriately. So as you look at this graphic, you'll notice that it's basically built on four quadrants. And across the top, the top two upper quadrants are known by others areas of your life that are known by others.

And then the bottom two, in the quadrants are those areas unknown by others. And then if you look down from top to the bottom, on the left column, that that's those are areas known by You and on the right column goes to areas not known by you. So the top known by others, and the left side, known by you, I hope it's clear from looking at this particular resource. Now, as you look at the next, as you looked at the next graphic, I want you to get a sense of what these quadrants are. So if the area is known by you, you know by others, we call that the open area of your life that's open, people see that you see that? Nothing really is hidden.

In the bottom left is what's called the hidden areas. It could be the secret areas of your life, they're hidden, you know them, but they're hidden by others, they could, it could be where a person has a private life or you're doing things in secret that no one else knows. Maybe good things or maybe bad things that you're ashamed of, and you want to minimize that one. Then in the upper right is the area where it's known by you are not known by you, it's unknown by you, but it's known by others. And that's called a blind spot, or, or blind area of your life. You know, that's where you do something and you think you're doing fine, because maybe you've improved in a certain area, maybe it's being impatient.

And you've learned how to be more patient with time. But what you see is the improvement from where you started and where you are now. So you see that, but from where you are now to where you started, is wonderful. But other people may see the difference between where you are now and their ideal of what patience looks like. And so that's called a blind spot. That's why you might find people react to you out of proportion that you can't understand.

Because you have a blind spot or a weakness in your life that never has been revealed to you and you need you need to understand it. And of course, you want to minimize that. That. And then the bottom right is the unknown areas that's not known by you or known by others. And as you can tell from this chart, the name of the game here is to be growing yourself. So the open area is much bigger the upper left hand quadrant, and you want to minimize the hidden areas, you can do that through a self disclosure so others can begin to understand you.

And you want to minimize the blind areas. And you can do that by getting feedback from others saying, hey, if you could change anything about me, what would you do? When our kids were growing up and with my wife since we're married, I've said rather routinely if you ever see anything in me that gets off target that's inappropriate. Will you love me enough to tell me and and part of that process is to learn to deal with my own weakness and to get their feedback. Obviously, the unknown area and the bottom right. We also want to minimize as we share more open Who we are with others.

So, bottom line is, this framework will help you understand how open your life is how much of your life is in that open space versus in the blind spot or blind area versus in the hidden area at the bottom left and then the unknown area. So what I want you to do now is work on an exercise where you work through the worksheets that we have available to better understand that johari window and will give you a link or two with added videos on this area that you can check out for further understanding. And then begin to fill out the worksheet that's built around this framework and write down those areas that are known to you and then start getting some feedback from some other people to find out what areas aren't known to you. blindspots literally ask them. If you could change one thing about me professionally, what would you change?

Or if you could change one thing about me personally, what would you change now? Again, remember, our framework is you're an incredibly special person. You're unique, you're special, your life has to be a masterpiece, but you're also flawed so you have soft spots. So what we're trying to do here is celebrate and understand our specialness. But also understand those soft spots those weaknesses so we can move forward, you got it. Okay, get to work the material be available for you in the Resource Center and on the page.