Becoming a team. Every intimate relationship, whether it's new or old goes through cycles and changes. How do you handle change? What kind of energy Do you want to create in a relationship? Sometimes we paint a picture of how we want others to see our relationship, especially in this age of social media, Facebook, oh my gosh, if anyone asked you about your relationship, and you were completely honest, what story would you tell what would be the positives and the negatives, the first thing you need to do is start seeing the relationship from a team perspective, there needs to be a win win mentality instead of a win lose one. Our cultures taught us that winning is important, but if you want a healthy, happy relationship, you both must want each other to win together.

So now I'm going to go over some different ways that you can turn the relationship into a team. So the first one is trust and honesty. Bear with me here. Honesty is a very important part of a healthy relationship of any kind. Many people hide their deeper selves both negative and positive. You know that part of yourself that only you know, our partner is one of the few people that will see us as we are including our fears, desires, hopes, weaknesses and strengths.

If you want to get the most out of a relationship, you have to be truly honest about who you are, how you feel, and the state of your relationship, you also must give your partner the chance to show their true self as well. mistrust is a relationship destroyer. This can happen for many reasons, not just cheating or being cheated on. There's many other circumstances where trust can be broken. So here's an example if your partner wants to talk to you about an issue in the relationship and you get defensive and react in a negative way, they may not feel a sense of trust in confiding you or in sharing their feelings in the future. If you can't share with each other.

How can you grow as a couple. You need to keep an open mind when hearing your partner's concerns, be trustworthy by listening to their perspective, really listen to your partner, it'll change for both of you and you'll both get A sense of a deep trust. Trust also comes from following through with promises. If you tell your partner you're going to do something and you don't do it, then it starts creating a sense of mistrust. When you have trusted honesty in a relationship, you can be your true self and can better communicate your needs. Unless you're both telepathic, mind reader's, you're going to have to speak up, the more honest you are and the deeper level of trust that you both develop, the better you can understand each other's needs and wants and make the relationship grow.

And honestly, it's a lot easier to be honest, than to have to constantly keep up the lie. Number two, his emotional health, it's important that we're always working on ourselves. Growing up, we may have picked up some negative beliefs that we might have, you know, need to change. Having better emotional control means you'll be able to handle the tough times in a relationship because there will be times when some negative things are going to happen. Okay, the best thing to do if you know you're going to have an unpleasant conversation with your partner, so if you're kind of No, it's coming up, it's add some positive to it sit down. And each of you write about 30 things big or small that you'd like about each other.

And the relationship Yes. 30. When you're done, compare lists and place them somewhere you both can see them as a reminder of how you truly see each other 30 things aren't that much. And don't forget about the little things they go unnoticed a lot. Number three is acceptance. Our differences can make a relationship better if we can accept them.

There will be stuff that your partner does that's going to drive you crazy, but you might just need a change in perspective. Is it really that bad? If you cannot deal with it, then this is the time to rethink the relationship. If you can handle it, think of a new way to look at it except that john shoes with his mouth open and let it go. Except that Jane never replaces the toilet paper on the role. Just examples.

At some point you decided to be with this person and you accepted them weakness And strengths included, accept each other where you are now and if changes needed work together, so you both grow from it. And finally, number four, mutual respect, too many people end up treating their partner worse than they would treat a stranger. Seriously, it's like we become too comfortable and spend more time with this person so we end up taking their feelings for granted sometimes, the next time you're mean to your partner ask yourself, would I be this way to a total stranger friend or co worker? The excuse I often use is but this is different. How is it different? Is it because you know your partner better than anyone else?

Do you think they will always be around or should put up with it? Your relationship should be your safe place not be a toilet to crap all your stress into person that you spend your life with should be treated better than how you would treat others. It can be difficult to go back to normal after a certain line has been crossed. But in this case, it takes making a commitment between both of you to forgive and permanently changed the disrespect. If you were told that you or your partner were going to die in a week, how would you treat each other? Would you still be caught up and things that don't really matter in the long run?

Is this problem more important than your relationship? If it's not let it go. This is the most important team you will ever be on. Treat it like it matters.