This video is going to be about relationship beliefs. I'm going to cover some relationship beliefs. And I want you to think about which one of these might be a relationship belief of yours and whether or not it's helping. One, the right relationships will just work. Great relationships can break down with patterns. All relationships need a conscious effort from both partners to work and they have rough times, like any couple that they need to work on, too.

You can't change someone, people can change, but you can't make them change. You can't count on them to change the way you want them to either. If a person changes only for you, it won't last because it wasn't their choice. You can influence them. It's like how people will act one way with their partner and another way around their friends and even another way around coworkers. If there are things you can't deal with your partner might be able to honor that boundary.

If this boundary opposes who they believe they are or wants Be, they won't be able to change and meet that need. Three, it's normal to yell at your partner or friend or relative sometimes, if you answered yes, ask five other people not in your family if they yell at their partner, and you'll be surprised that many don't. There are tons of relationships that never raise their voice or yell at each other if possible. If yelling seems normal to you, this might be because you grew up in an environment with it. Maybe not everyone had the same experience. So don't expect everyone else to be okay with it.

If you don't want to yell then you can change that. Four relationship drama is normal. This may surprise you too. But drama is not normal. It's a choice. Believe it or not.

People who are used to drama tend to believe that everyone has different life experience. Some people are addicted to drama and don't even realize it but we're going to cover that later in the course. Five there is such thing as the Relationships are not test to pass or fail until you find the one they're more like learning opportunities for growth. The idea of one true love is romanticized mostly in Western culture. It gives a false image that there's only one person on earth that you can have a fulfilling, happy, enlightened relationship with. People can have more than one soulmate throughout their lives.

Each relationship teaches us different lessons, and some people need more lessons than others to be ready for an enlightened relationship. You need to work on yourself first so that you can match what you want. Sex Love is the same for everyone. Everyone understands and experiences love in different ways. Actually, one person might feel most loved when someone gives them a gift. Another person may feel much of anything when receiving a gift.

But if their partner cleaned the car for them or cook them a special meal they would feel very loved. Some people only feel loved if they're told all of the time. Others feel loved when they argue with their partner because they believe their partner's anger at them is because they care. Some people have twisted ideas about what love feels like. What matters is that you understand what love means and feels to you and your partner. Make sure you're understanding each other.

And last number seven, the relationships I saw growing up do not affect my relationships today. We're not limited by our past. But until we become aware of our own issues, we will continue to live the patterns that our past created. Everyone is unintentionally programmed by the relationships that they've observed in childhood as well as influenced by you know, media and culture. There's no escaping the programming, unfortunately, but we do have the ability to consciously look at our belief systems and choose a new way of being in a relationship. Awareness is the key