So the last piece that I'm going to cover before we jump into this is the relationship I'm kind of touched on it with Ryan and Liz but it is really the piece that does just naturally get dismissed Now listen, I'm sure people like we're good and he's so supportive nice got my back. However, I just need to to let people know that it's okay the way you are looking at this is different. In a lot of in the processing is different the way your partner is processing. This is differently men processes is different. The way we do it, and jointly together is where there's, I want to say it's where we need to go. I don't like to dangle that it's, you know, you do these certain things and it leads to conception.

It's not necessarily about that, but for so many couples in our research, there was a change to the dynamic of the relationship. Statistically a reuniting of the couple at a deeper level, and there was a bunch of metrics that we had that measured that and when they came back to each other in a deeper way, profound things can happen for your marriage or your life in certainly I believe, for your your fertility journey, and your journey to parenthood. So it's you know, we know that a lot of women said I felt this was my body, I felt the ownership I feel like all the to do items are on my back, you know, many times husband's gonna fix it, solve it, or it'll be okay. In. In many cases, we might be in opposite ends of the camp, the ability to find the center and come together is whether it's power, I tell women all the time, I want you to lean into some of your husband's confidence that that this is okay.

And you are okay. And this will work out because for so many people it will and you have each other and there's such great gifts in your life now. But on the flip side, I encourage partners and husbands to go a little deeper to connect with where, you know, your wife might be in terms of this is why she believes she's on the planets to reproduce and have children and this idea of it not happening is got such worrying anxiety that we need to go there and express a little bit more and make sure we're really validating, connecting. And the ability as you move through if anyone ever should decide to go through our course the full course, you're going to have this chance as a couple to get to a level of strength in in unity in in that is a powerful tool to have not just as you move forward and in do succeed and build families but life will throw more curveballs at us life will have more uncertainty mighty life will throw at us times that are hard, our ability to lean on each other in a deeper way.

Is what I think that the you know, here's your you're struggling you're struggling with with with fertility. Is this such a time that we just want to dismiss and make go away? Or is this a chance for us to potentially create a level of strength across our relationship that that helps us survive marriage and life and everything else that's thrown out.