The beginning: Part 2.

If you are one of the lucky ones, the event will not stop you from continuing on with your normal life and job. But this is not often the case in a serious event. So now let us proceed with our options to move forward.

It is always best to consider what you can do that is functional, practical, and less stressful after you have been in a traumatic event. There is no specific way to get you to fully understand how empty and lost you will feel when your life has been invaded by an outside force. It’s a feeling of shock and betrayal. Everything you ever planned is for now an unsure reality.

Let’s take for example someone who is an architect and is injured. So a choice he could make is to do back office work for a project rather than run the project. However, he could prefer a different environment for a while, so there could be a place such as Habitat for Humanity as a temporary job. There is also the thought of working for social services to help with housing problems while healing. There are many parts to any job that could be considered if you need to step back from your original work for a while.

Then there is the fact that many people who feel that they are not themselves would prefer to find a job where they are not known. They can then heal unnoticed and take a leave of absence from their current position. It is sometimes easier to make mistakes in front of strangers when you are relearning a task.

I Have Left the Hardest part for last.

What do you do if you cannot return to the functional level you had before you were hit by the event that changed your life? This is a terrible, but real thought process you must go through. The answer is compromise. Figure out what you like to do. What job was your second choice before you made your present choice? What could you go back to school for? Most things are now doable online. Take a reasonable job and consider night classes to start again. One major event can change things but it does not have to ruin your life.
It is true that second choices don't always feel very rewarding and can leave you feeling frustrated. But in this situation, the alternative to having no plan is having nothing you want and failing to be the person you were before when there is always a chance to work your way back. The answer here is definitely Perspective. If you think about it rationally you can be a superhero. You can work your way back from being damaged so you can be a part of your family again and do a job that has merit. Sadly not everyone is willing to try hard enough to come back, so if you do work your way back you get a gold star for effort and strength of character.