Hey, hey, hey, week two of empowerment, evolution and expression. Let's talk about it. Week Two is the subconscious. I like the points the back of my head because I truly believe, and my mind, it's like, there's a basement of all these ghouls and goblins back. They're just trying to figure out how to make life difficult for you. So that's why I pointed back.

But the subconscious is where we're getting into. That's what we're doing. That's what we're exploring. We're delving into, get into that mindset. And I hope you watch the first video, watch the whole video to have Bruce Lipton so Bruce Lipton is amazing. Bruce Lipton and Joe dispenza are two of my favorites because they married together like a spiritual and the science side of it.

And Bruce Lipton. He has been doing epigenetics for years and he had he stumbled upon things before like science now is stumbling upon them and they thought he was like crazy sort of thing. missed him. But not only like, Oh, yeah, you're right. So I hope you watch the video. And watching the whole video, I'm sure you heard him talk about how the subconscious, like I said last week is 95% of what we do.

That's a conscious can only play back, which we already have experience with what you already know. So that leaves one to 5% of us being conscious and being able to create in a deliberate way. And if we're not cognizant of what we're doing in the present moment, then we're just being subject to what we know what we learned. And when you think about last week and getting what you really want for yourself, a big impediment to getting those things are going to be what you've learned about them what you know about them. So for instance, I'll go into this more later. My notes down here, if you see me looking down, I'm looking at my notes, but for instance, if you want to be a millionaire, but you think, you know, money volleyball, or you think or you just want a good job with people, no money, but you don't really work a lot.

But you think that people who have those types of jobs are dicks, or you know, when you it's just conflicting beliefs, right? It doesn't even have to be limiting of yourself that like, I don't think I can have this. It could be just a contrast is a conflicting belief, what you think you want or what it takes to get what you want, and then not being familiar enough with those things, to embody them. But I will get into that more. Let's get into the slides. I will share my screen.

As usual, I didn't think I would like using slides but actually do like my notes. Okay. So week two, we're talking about the core and more I say core because it's our core values, right? Our core values, our core values might be limiting, right? Our core beliefs may be limiting beliefs. We don't really know that until we really go in and analyze What they are and what we want, blah, blah, blah.

So you guys like my my gold in the background today I'm switching it up. I think I'll probably switch it up all four weeks because I can't decide on anything and I love it all. So if you watch the video, you understand we have no control. If you watch Bruce Lipton's video, it may feel like you have little to no control unless you go in and do some like hardcore work on yourself or have a lot of money to spend on these experiments and coaches and things like that. I'm here to tell you we have some, some control. So you have no control, unless you're a winner.

Right and what are you aware of what should you be aware of to get you where you want to be? Your focus? He talked about being like really cognizant of the presence so where is your focus? You've heard the phrase where Your focus or attention goes energy flows right? I'm sure you've heard that if you haven't heard it, you're welcome. So with this focus you want to really zone in on what are you thinking about?

You know, like where How are you spending most of your time and basically did like a scared of focus isn't a laser focus? Is it a focus on negative? Is it a focus on positive? Is it focus on just neutral things where you're not really connecting with anything? like where is? Where is it like a barely there focus?

You're just a drudging through your day like a zombie. So where is your focus? What are you focusing on be aware of that? your energy, your energy, I like talking about the energy. So not just how you feel and not just like your vibe so much, but your the energy that you're giving off the places that you put yourself into what's the energy like when you go to work with the energy like when you go to certain places, maybe a party around Friends, I would say that kind of energy are you giving to certain people? and energy are you taking in, I'm taking in other people's shit that's not yours, right?

So be cognizant and aware of the energy that's around you. If you also listen to Dr. Lipton talks about how our thoughts have this electromagnetic field that goes beyond the skin, and it's outside of us. So they have different photography and tools, where you can actually see people, some people in aura or your magnetic field, whatever you want to call it, but you can see these things are outside of you. So your thoughts are actually they become I don't want to say matter so much, but no matter and particle, sort of like the change. So what your thoughts are things like they're out here in the ethers here, like they're, they're here outside of you, right? So be aware of that.

So the next thing is your thoughts. What are you? What are you thinking? Is it good? Is it bad, it's not yourself? Is it something like this I want I want I want And actually, I don't have language down here, but you want to also be aware of your language.

So if your language or your thoughts or I want I want I want that might not lead us actually happy, you may be in a constant state of wanting if your thoughts are negative gossipy that's going to affect your energy. Right? It's going to affect your emotions which are next, if your thoughts are negative and about yourself, if your thoughts are mostly judgments and and labels, you know, as opposed to a thought that might be more neutral and explorative. You know, a curious thoughts and how are you forming your thoughts? What are the languages around your thoughts? What are some words that you use a lot your wording, you know, if you use certain words that are negative to describe yourself, discover things just like regular free that that you use, what are what's that phrase?

What are these words that you use most commonly? What would they derive or like what would they create a kind of feeling With a creating yourself when someone else if you were to hear that all day, could you're hearing it all day really just don't realize that you're hearing it that you're saying it and how it's actually affecting you. So that's what you also need to be aware of your emotions. So emotions already emotions. I don't think I did emotions. We go through life.

So this is something I dealt with specifically. It's like I was not in touch with my emotions that was like what other than emotion? Who needs an emotion? I don't know, that's not going to get me ready. So and that came from the impact subconsciously came from my father. He was a very stoic man, where it was like the only emotion It was really accepted in my house was anger.

So I was really in touch with anger and can tell you a gamut about anger. Like I know all about the types of anger and things that could lead to and I think that does not lead to as well. You know, to me like healthy relationships. So your emotions, being aware and touched in tact and if you're going through life and you have like one or two emotions or you don't really feel anything, you probably need to rearrange some things you want to be able to feel in life or you're ignoring it or just numb to it because you don't let the emotion that you're feeling, maybe going to work. And with that the work makes you feel as something that you just don't want to deal with something that you think you have to deal with. So you might as well not even address the emotion because you have to still deal with it.

Right? It's like you don't have a choice, but you do have a choice. You do have a choice again, wherever those emotions will help you bring that choice to the forefront and impulses, like a habit. What are we doing? What are we doing? Like this this thing with my hand over here all the time?

What do we what do we do? So um, I used to I realize I was at a hairdresser one time and I had like this so my hair was long but it was for a bit I had this little section was like this long back here and then my hairdresser Tiki You know, I don't like my Tiki, but it's when it's happening. And she's like, well, what are you doing? And I realize, talking about subconscious, right? When I was in class, I would just sit here and like, and maybe do my work, whatever. But I would just be touching and pulling on the back of my head, just, you know, I don't know what, but that's what I was doing.

And I didn't realize it, right. So our impulses in our regular habits that we had, and why was I doing that? I tend to do things I tend to like either pick at sores or hear the things when I'm about to embark on something when I need to do something that I don't really want to do. Or if I have, like, between options, and I don't know which one to choose, I'll just distract myself with something else. Or like, I know this about myself. So when I catch myself doing these things, like what is it that I was just thinking about?

Because I don't know. I don't actually realize what I was thinking about till I realize I'm doing something that I do when I have this thought that I'm trying to avoid. What was I trying to avoid? Okay. Do it. I mean, that's what that's how that happens.

So that's an instance of how you should, how you can be aware of your impulses and your habits and things that you want to do. If you have an impulse to just punch somebody in the face every now and again, what's happening in you? Mm hmm. That makes somebody want to make sure what a pixelated face, it's okay to have the thought. Okay, even if it's like a kid, it's okay to have a thought. So I'm gonna punch a kid in the face.

But don't do it. Just don't do it. You know what I mean? And knowing what's in you like what's happening in you, that makes you want to punch Little Billy in the face? What is it? That's more important than the impulse What's happening?

Because then when you know what's happening, you know how to then change it and go about that. Just be aware, and don't judge yourself for it. You know, some people might think, Oh, I shouldn't think that way. I should want to do that. I mean, it's things happen, things that there's so much that happens in here, and it's in you have to get it out and you judging yourself for it. And you're heartbroken On how it should have been or what you could have bought and like this, except it is fine, you didn't kill anybody yet.

And then your desires, being aware of what you want for yourself and what that takes so so your desires and what those desires take like the steps and implants, your desires, pattern, so pattern sort of building with impulse, it's like I just talked about I have this, this pattern of behavior of going to distract myself with like, tactile, or like tedious, tangible things. And some people like if you notice, if you sit at a desk, you might, you know, take your hands grab a pen, my troll pen a certain way, just being aware of you what you do, why you do it, how that contributes to you, you know what I mean? Like all those things, and the in vironment. I have my candle it's, you see my candle lit here. I have some music plan out if you hear it on my phone here. I'm getting nice and I got myself in the mood.

I got my environment in Because I know how it affects me right? So being aware of your environment, the environments that you put yourself in, why are you putting yourself in those environments? What are you getting from these environments? How the environments affecting you right? are you creating the environment or is the environment creating? Okay?

Next, okay. So, this is how you can become aware of those things where I just told you be aware, be aware. So this is also how you can start to become aware of these things. So sorry, I call this total experiential awareness cycle. There's got to had to think of some name for it in the time being, it may change. So let's say we start with the thoughts, right.

We have a thoughts, the thoughts or the for the story we tell ourselves or judgment, right. You think things happen to us Something in word form comes into our head. And then that causes and emotion. Boom, you see the emotion up there that causes the emotion we feel the emotion. Oh man, and the emotion then can cause can cause a physiological response or a physical sensation. Yes, maybe tightness in the stomach butterflies in the stomach, some might call it might feel yourself get hot, right?

You might have the urge to want to run you know, you might so you all you have these physiological sensations, maybe it's your head starts itching or you know something may happen that is caused by that emotion, which then leads to a behavior or decision that you have to make right so, after you have this physiological response say you say your stomach is tight. I might need to sit down or I can't be here anymore. Or maybe you start yelling, you know. So there's certain things. These are behaviors or decisions that you make, based on how you're feeling, the physiological response and then emotion in the felt, which then leads that behavior and decisions lead to environments, the situations that you put yourself in. So if I'm making decisions that are clearly based on like, what I want for myself and the future and things like that, that's the environment that I will find myself in the situations I find myself in, if I'm making decisions or behaviors that are more impulsive.

I'm going to be like, how did I get here? Why is everybody upset at me? Why is the house on fire? What did I do? You know, like you're so Goofy, this is just a simple little cycle, what happens? And then the situation we've been respond to the situation a lot of times again, with a thoughts, a story about the situation, a judgement about a situation, which then leads to an emotion which leads to a physical response and behaviors.

Decisions and then environment again, right? So I have this red, I have the red arrow going from emotion to thought because sometimes sometimes people think that emotion causes a thought I would say, I'm no scientist or anything, but it's like 99.99999% of the time. Thoughts cause the emotion. Maybe sometimes, you know, you can just sort of be asleep or just like in some kind of state or something's happening and you just feel something before maybe you're really intuitively feeling somebody else's stuff, right? Um, that's the only time I can think of where like any motion if it's not your own doesn't come from your thoughts. Yeah, cuz even if you're not thinking about anything, you're still bad, but something subconscious is happening, which is still your own thoughts, right?

And you just not conscious of them. So that's my story. rule of law. And then sometimes we have this red arrow going from emotion to behaviors, because sometimes people don't feel the physiological responses, right? They just think. And sometimes Actually, I could have I could have had another right arrow going from thoughts to behavior, but some people don't don't feel the emotion.

So these are all different cycles that people phases that people go through. And some were going to lean heavily on one more than the other. Right? So I was a thought I was like thought, behavior thought, decision, thought, decision, emotion, an angry right or, or physiological response. Don't even ask me what I was feeling in my body. That wasn't What do you mean?

Why would I feel something in my body? Because of a thought like, that just didn't make sense to me. So, um, things I had in the past and things that I realized are happening which encompasses, you know, us as human beings. This is what happens. So I'm going to the stories that we tell ourselves Because we have a thought, a thought or story. So the thought is, can be a statement.

Or, actually, let me go back because I could have put in here too, like there's a stimuli versus a stimuli, which is the environment, actually. Okay, Mike, I digress. Cut that up. So, we have a thoughts and we tell ourselves a story, like a narrative about this situation, or this thought that we write. So if the thought is one of me think of an example. Um, I don't feel like it.

I don't feel like it because every time this every time I do do it, this negative thing happens or nobody appreciates it. And so that goes into the story. Right? And if you can tell yourself a story about the environment it would be this isn't a safe place to Every, every time I go there, this happens. Or this person is looking at me, right? Could be the thought from from the situation versus looking at me because I have this shirt on Oh, because I'm black, or because Ah, because they don't like me because they think that this we are they.

So that's how the stories develop from the boss and the stories can go on a tangent and a spirals of places and we can never recover from write stories and go on to these amazingly depressing places. And we allow them to which is what we respond to emotionally, which is how we feel in our bodies that we might not even be aware that we feel this way because of the thoughts and the emotions that are happening. That's how we create illnesses in our bodies as well. And then from that, then we have these behaviors. I don't want to go over there. I don't want to I don't I don't want to go over there.

I don't want to talk to that person. I want to see I want to separate Or I want to go over there, I think that I should do this. So when we have these behaviors, which lead us to the situations that we are in, yes, I don't want to go after that job, I'm not going to apply for that job because I know that they're not going to hire me, you know, something like that. So that leaves us a situation that we're in, which is maybe not having the job that we think we deserve, or not having the person because I'm not going to talk to that person. Because, you know, and so we can either keep ourselves from situations or lead ourselves to situations that we've may or may not want to be in. But we don't really know if we're not aware of how are being affected by this cycle that we have going on.

Right? So just being aware and cognizant of that. And the next thing I have is a similar cycle here, but it's more about the creation cycle at quality. So, like Dr. Lipton saying, we have these thoughts, and the thoughts can be measured by different scientific tools and To use. And so we have repeated thoughts here. So the only suspected repeated thoughts in the subconscious Oh, I'm not enough.

I'm not enough. I'm not enough. I can't I can't I can nobody ever, nobody ever, nobody ever. So we have all those thoughts in our heads, right, especially in the past 95% 95% at least. So we have those thoughts in our head and remember how they come outside of our heads, they can be read outside of our heads, right? So we're that energy goes outside which creates that field, then you have the electro magnetic field, which then we pull from that field is either pulling things into support how we feel, or pushing things away, to support how we feel.

Right? So and So I have two black arrows are going to give me a logical response to that behavior. So they're also in there, but regarding the creation cycle, like this is just like how things develop in our in our circumstances. And so and how we may or may not see Certain opportunities because of how we think. Right, I think your next slide is our reticular activating system is that yes. So the next slide is a particular activating system, which is a, like a little, little set of nerves at the base of our brain here.

And so what this does basically is it filters out what we need, okay? it filters out the things that we need. There's so much that if you looked at the video, you heard Dr. Lipton say, you know, like, there's a lot of Actually no, there wasn't this this because I'm going to play this video now. So we can watch this video together. Okay, so this video is explaining and drawing out a particular activating system and it describes how to act as a filter to filter in or out all the data that's around us the sounds and smells everything that the brain conceives. And if you remember from the video, like the brain takes in so many bits of data that we can't fill, we can't accept it all in so we can't swim before.

We can't manage it all. So in order for us to stay sane, this particular activating system breaks it all down for us in a way that we believe is helpful, but it's most helpful to our brain in a way that we believe. The things we believe are important, as the video says. And so I think, when they want to talk about now, sort of how does particular activating system actually determine what type filter in and out Hmm, I wonder, I want have about what we focus on right what we think is most important to us. And like I've been saying, we get what's most important to us from our subconscious. And I felt that we think that thoughts become beliefs.

So as I described here, if you think I'm not very confident those types of people tend to not be very confident. Right. And I also have in here I'm trying not to talk too much actually took the audio out of this because you can hear it too well. I'm recording over top of idea, I can't lose weight. They tend to not lose weight. I'm one of these people who say I'm always late and I, I will not say it again and say that much.

Something happened recently. I want nothing to go So be careful what you focus on that sort of thing. Be careful what you focus on. That's the gist of it, basically. And you can do more research on this. You can Google more about this, if you would like to.

And I'm pretty sure I'm not done with this video. Okay. So that's the particular activating system. So basically, if you ever had like an argument with somebody, I like to use it as an example. Yeah, you had an argument with somebody. And what you're convinced in your mind that they did something either on purpose or they did something that Maybe you didn't like or just you're convinced that they were wrong about something.

And you were. Right. So you're, this is what you are convinced of. And so now that you have this conviction, no matter what this person does for the next 1015, maybe even 20 minutes, you are going to find all the evidence to support exactly what you believe. And that works if it's positive, or if it's negative, right. So this reticular activating system that we have, it is it filters our reality, based on what we believe, and it goes and finds and searches for that to support our belief.

So what do you believe right? I didn't even address like The most frequent thoughts and the most frequent emotions and the most frequent themes that you have going on, because that is where you can start to see what is in your subconscious. You can pay attention to how are you actually thinking? What are these thoughts that you have over and over and over again, the most frequent emotions, if it's like neutral, you need to do more work. Because it's it should there's things happening, that you should be aware of. And if you're not aware of it, then you're mainly that 95% that's happening rather than that conscious present 5% that you want to be in.

And then like frequent themes, and what are the themes that are happening or like what are you telling yourself about that? And then your most frequent state to like, what's the what's the mood that you're in for the most part, what's happening regarding that for you like your state, your mood, what's causing those things? And that state will tell you about what's happening in those other areas. So your thoughts, your emotions and the things okay? Next. Okay, so the self awareness, right?

That's how we get to these things. And when I asked some you guys about self awareness, some of you were like in the face, some of you were like, oh no for so. But if you the self awareness part I really want you to think of self awareness is also being aware of yourself. manipulation is, as you see, this ra s or particular activating system is manipulating the environment. And based on how you feel or what you believe, right, and what you believe might not not always be true, you can't always believe your thoughts, just because they were there for years and years and years, and they replay every day because they're in your subconscious. That does not mean that they're still accurate.

So you can't always believe your thoughts. You can't always believe your emotions. So that's why I'm going to call this self manipulation and to be self aware, you have to believe you have to be aware of how you are manipulating yourself or how you're being manipulated. By your past by your subconscious by your brain, because it's that's what's happening if you're not being conscious, and not allowing that to happen. Being aware of the stories and the narratives that you're telling yourself, about you, your own self, about people around you about the world around you about opportunities, being aware, is this story accurate? Is this something that I know for sure is true?

Are there exceptions to the story that I've created? If there are exceptions? What makes me think that I can't have the same thing? Being aware of your judgments? When you make a judgment? It's just some people just speak judgments like their facts, right?

Or they speak judgments and they believe them as a judgment not realizing like it's okay to have a judgment. It's fine to have a judgment that think oh, I don't like that. Even that stupid. Just know that it's not accurate. You know, like, even if you give an opinion about something, don't take that as fact, is but we give so many opinions. Sometimes just talk, talk, talk, talk talk.

And you'll we internalize what we say what someone else says about us as if it's fact. Just because we say so just someone else says it because we say it does not mean that it's fat, right? I can say anything. But I need to really be cognizant of what I'm saying. And how I'm feeling about that, in the moment that determined is this fact. And if it's not fact, then I'm just speaking, right?

I'm just speaking, and I don't have to take it too seriously. I don't have to believe Alex to live my life by it. You know, I can go back and say, you know, I'm sorry, I didn't mean that. It was just I didn't really need it was stupid, I just thought was stupid. You know, like, it's just be aware of the judgments and things and your personal experiences, how your personal experiences attribute. So all of those things, because we only everything that we are saying everything that we know, is only derived by our own personal experiences, even if it's like second party or a third hand if we have a personal experience of something.

That's what's coming up. And that's what's creating the decisions that we make and how we feel about certain things and who would have thought that there are more ways to handle things besides than what we only know from our personal experiences, right? So knowing that you don't have the answer all the time is step one as well being open to so many other possibilities that you don't even know exist. Right? The man who knows something was a he knows nothing at all. That's where you start just being open to things, knowing that these feelings that you have, and these thoughts that you have may not mean a thing.

And then you start to create deliberately from there, what do I want this to mean? And what do I want out of the situation? Not what I'm getting out of it? Because that's all subjective. What do I want from that situation? So, what are you doing?

What are you doing? What are your habits right? So these are ways that you can start to change, like physically start to change in your brain, right to tell your brain Hey, we're doing things differently. Now, I know that I have this, like strong impulse to eat fast. Maybe you mean just stop being slow. See how that works out?

See how hard that is going to be. Yesterday, I had an I had one of my favorite cupcakes. And I was trying to eat it's like slow motion, right? And it tastes so good. But the ultimate It was so hard to not just inhale that thing, like I normally do. Right?

So then this is ways that you start to train your brains where it's like it just shakes it up. And it's like, well, I want to do this was like, No, I'm not going by what you want. I'm going by what I want and I'm not going by with the subconscious ones. I'm gonna go by what I want to do consciously in this moment and I'm not pulling myself out of it. That's one way to do how you eat. How you drive right so we all have its autopilot all the time autopilot.

Remember when we first started driving and it was like accelerator, brake. Maybe you had a clutch, maybe you'd like drive what it was, it was rough, right? And it gets to the point where now you can talk on the phone you can eat. I used to eat pistachio nuts needing to pinch it dry. And while I drove, right, so, so I say this and say this is how the subconscious works in itself, right? When we first create a habit or when you first create a belief or start doing something, it's rough.

And then when we start getting the groove of it, we do it on autopilot, and we do not recognize it. We're doing it even if it's negative for us, even if it's bad, but we keep doing it, right. So how you drive if you drive in and out of the lanes, I really miss I haven't driven a car in a long time. So I miss driving and I had a certain way that I drove and this is just how I drive right? change it up. See if you can tolerate changing it up, see how hard that would be for you.

With Next, the routes so they're even the routes that you take when you drive create different images in your head. You'll take your take your expectation on a ride. Yes. Please see how different it could be for you're just accepting the differences don't just do the same thing all the time because that's what's expected. Um, cold showers. Okay, so Tony Robbins uses this every morning he has like a bath he jumps into, but this I say I tried this a few times.

I did not like it. I didn't like it. So when I am when I take showers are really really hot. So to do a cold shower is I can't even jump in the pool quickly because I'm like, so what this does, is, again, it's sending this message to your brain. We're not doing the same thing. And I'm in charge, meaning me this me consciously I'm in charge of what we're going to do.

I'm not going to allow my body like the normal motions of my body to determine what I do you know, go to shower turn on habit. No, we're doing it different. It's not what you want to do is what I want to do consciously for myself right now, and I can tolerate this, right? It's telling yourself, this is cold shower. It's really uncomfortable. It's is feels like, you know, I would rather maybe like cut off an arm.

That's like a cold shower. Who knows how bad it might be for you? Or sometimes like it's fine to go showers. But I digress. The whole point of this is so that you can get through this situation, knowing a I can get through it too. It's not the general thing.

And it's also it Prime's you to be in like alerts. And it changes your state completely. The point is, you're changing your state's completely like that and you're ready and you're alert to do what it is to start the program. You're doing what you want to do for whatever you want to do. Okay, phone, how often do you just pick up the phone Without knowing like, habits, wake up in the morning. Go to the bathroom, I need my phone.

Right? Sit down on the couch. Oh, like how often are you doing these things? And to stop this, go put your phone boom, right? It's because we have such an ingrained habit habits, habitual nature with our phones and all these things, but our phones too. So it starts to change in your brain, it sends messages that we're doing things differently.

We can handle these things. And what we thought we knew was to be true. We thought we needed we no longer need and that everything is still copacetic. I'm talking how you talk, how you talk fillers, right? I do a lot of writes I say Right, right. Yes, a lot of those things.

It would have to stay Cognizant and conscious for me not to do that. Right. So So paying attention to how you talk the fillers that you use the owns yeses out motor movements, your body language we I don't know if I have that on here. Yes motor movements, you know how this my hand and things like um, or maybe when you come when you come home, sit on a couch sometimes with our foot, we might start tapping our foot or you know, something like this, pay attention to those things, it tries to stop those things, but those things are also telling you something, right, those things are also telling you something. So pay attention to how you're feeling in your body as well. There's also something I wanted to say I will write it down right now so I do not forget.

But I want to say it right now because I think it's not in flow. So next, what's next? Oh, you knew them? Are you snoozing when you wake up? Are you just hitting snooze and going back sleep? That's like one of the number one things to not do.

We You are ready to get up, get up, do what you need to do get things going, when it sets your day pretty well, right? You set your day, maybe you make your bed into something that you have a task that you accomplish in the morning. And that sets the rest of your day off as being successful like so you'll keep that momentum going, most likely, and if you hit snooze again, that's the momentum you'll keep going for the rest of the day as well. So it's just it's your body, again, controlling you rather than you consciously what you want to do. Last but not least, how you write how you write? is a scribble, scribble, scribble scratch, or is it something that is really neat and together, you know, how we write.

There was an instance I had a client at one point and she was very I don't want to say too much, but she was she really nice She wrote, like, Uber you with thought with a typewriter or somebody typed it. This is how she wrote. And I tried to introduce to her writing differently, and she couldn't do it. I think she might have did like maybe what half of a line burst into tears. And she couldn't do it. You know, this is how I write in all these things.

So I say this to say, like, all these behaviors, even though they seem benign, are rooted into our subconscious, how you eat, maybe you eat fast, because you were with a family and you had to eat your food fast or somebody else was willing to get it. Maybe you drive fast, because that's what you saw your father do. Well, this guy right here. Maybe you take the same route to work because you like routine. Or maybe you take or maybe a little cold showers is not this like technique, or, you know, either way, there's a lot happening. There's a lot happening and know that everything that is happening is rooted within your subconscious in some way, shape, or form and those little things if you pay attention to them.

Those are ways that you can start to change what you're doing and what you're creating for yourself. All right, so we have core beliefs versus limiting beliefs. core beliefs aren't always limiting. Right? And sometimes they are, we don't know it. So it'd be it'd behoove us to be aware of these core beliefs, what they are.

And if they are limiting, we might not see them as limiting. We might not even know that they exist, and that they're limiting us. Right? So for example, I had a belief so I grew up in Philly, Philadelphia. And it is, it's, it's a, there's different cultures. It's what I'm looking for.

I forget, you know the word I'm looking for it. There's different cultures there. And it's still segregated, segregated as much so it's quite segregated. And so I would I live in my area and and you, you realize that these things are happening around you. And so the story in my head was black people live in these places white people over here the Hispanics lives there, the East feel a separate. in Center City, there was mostly white where things were more expensive.

There was mostly white people. So in my mind, that's for the white people, white people live there. If someone like who looked like me, but black person worked or lived there, it probably is like high up in business or they had to work really hard to get there. Or you know, I don't know there's legitimate stories, but I told myself ultimately, somehow that it would be difficult for me to live in a place like this. And that I would probably not be able to get it if those places aren't for people like me, right. So this is basically the story around I'm telling myself this is a it was this was a core belief That I wasn't even aware of.

Right? I wasn't aware of these things. But it was also creating the decisions and creating the environments I put myself in, because I wouldn't even think, Well, let me go look at this area, or because maybe I didn't feel welcome, because the stories I was telling myself, maybe those stories were true, so I can't Haha, sometimes the stories were true. But I don't want to assign those things. It just it's a server issue doesn't mean that I shouldn't go after, right? So either way, that's what I mean about a core belief that you if you don't know is limiting.

So have that in your mind. So really dig into your core beliefs and see what are they are they are they inhibiting you? Are they benefiting you like and how are you working with them? where they come from? Like, I don't want to get too into the past. Maybe we can do that when I went to ones but where did they come from?

And how do we go and course correct? How do we course correct there's a million ways of plethora of ways to just prove to yourself that this idea is wrong. I'm sure there's exceptions to the rule, and we are not so special to be can't be, or we're not going to be the exception to so quickly versus limiting beliefs. That's what that is. And then we have desires versus beliefs. Right?

So we may want something but we might not want what it takes to get it. You know, we may want so I have on here examples up I wanted a job, I don't really want to work too much. Right? I want a good job one job with this kind of salary. 401k but in your mind that those things come with like if in your mind that 401k and that the jobs comes with an office but you don't want to be an officer if that comes with wearing the suit. You know, you don't want to do that then look, there's a conflicting things like you believe that you don't want to do these things or you believe that those things are going to take time away from what you really want to do with your life and take time away from your quality of life.

Then you want this thing, but you're not really going to go After you're not going to go get it because you don't like this. It's conflicting, the belief is conflicting. And when you get it, you might sabotage it because you don't really it doesn't it. It's not jiving with you. It's not aligned with you. Right, you believe something different, you want something different, and that's the one.

I wouldn't I would love to win a lottery, but I'm not buying the ticket. You know, I'm not wasting money on to get any of that. I want a good relationship. But I don't really want to open up, you know, I want to get relationship, but I don't really trust everybody. I'm not ready to just open myself up and trust, I want a good relationship. I've got a bunch of baggage with me that I don't want to carry along.

I don't want to accept, right or I expect or anticipate a good relationship to take a lot of struggle and a lot of time and a lot of tears. And with some of that sometimes that can be true. But if you have a resistance to those things, you also have a resistance to that good relationship, if that makes sense for you. And then also what languages are you using the languages of Oh, I wish I could just I wish somebody would write it like what are the languages that you're that we're using regarding these things? If it's um I still don't have or is taking so long for it always do this or you always I've been waiting for so long there's no good man I can't find anybody to do this that's going to take forever jobs aren't paying good around here the economy is shit like what's the language that you use?

Remember those thoughts coming out into your energy field here and that magnetic fields either gonna pull it or push it in you also are just creating that aura Yes. reticular activating system is looking for evidence to make you right. So suppose just wants to support you. It just wants to support you. So give it something to support that you would like to work. come into your life, right?

And so if I was to say describe yourself, your self image, this is going to get into the core beliefs about yourself. Right? So if you were to say that are you? Where did your mind go first? Do you start comparing yourself to other people? Do you speak?

You describe yourself in terms of other people? And, you know, as a as a measure against other people, or are you defined by your job? Are you a mom? I'm a good mom, is it the ruling your family that's defining who you are? Are you using judgments to define yourself? Is it negative judgment?

If it's positive judgment? Hey, start there. Great. Um, is it a negative judgment, though? Because we have a lot of those in our heads. And that if I say, like, Who are you?

That could be one of the things that come up and that's what you truly believe about yourself? Do you describe yourself by personality traits? No, I'm a hothead. You know, I'm whatever personality trait you may think of, you know, is that how you describe yourself? Or do you describe yourself by measures of success? By what other people say?

Do you describe yourself based off of how you compare to your family, I saw my dad that this is I just when I scrapped my, when I described myself, I compare it to if I check those boxes off that my dad also had, like, that's how I then describe who I am. So how do you describe yourself, that's going to get into your core beliefs, how you think of yourself what you want for yourself, that's what that is going to open up for you. And that's just about yourself. So you can do the same thing about your environment. You can do the same thing about your partner. You can do the same thing about any aspect of your life and it shows you how you really feel about those things.

When you look at how you describe it. So the question Are your beliefs limiting the things that you believe about yourself? Are they limiting Or are they limit less? You know, are they hindering you? Or are they benefiting? you analyze that, look at those things.

And I say this, because you don't go after what you don't believe is true, or what you don't believe it's possible, right? So if I have this belief, like I started out saying, If I had this belief that are just an observation, right, this observation became my belief. A belief is just a thought you keep thinking, a thought, I keep thinking, because I keep seeing this environment. So I keep thinking about this environment. My thoughts, my repeated thought and about this repeated place I go to is that this is for white people. So that became that thought that kept thinking based on observation was became a belief which then inhibited or restricted or impeded, how I moved forward in the places that I thought I was able to live in or the places that I would go after living So now it's just that like that said, that's the tip of the iceberg, right?

That's just the typical so much deeper. We're drowning under there. So that's what you I want you to really think about what you believe what you think pay attention to the thoughts that you keep thinking because they become your beliefs. Right, the ways that you feel breathing in, in the fact that 95% of it is so conscious is crazy to me when I say this to people and they just have like a little reaction. I'm like, I was not scary to you. How this is not scary to you.

If you look at what you look at your life around, like this is what you've created. Right? I live in Asia. Why? In Vietnam, as a black woman? Hmm, maybe I felt like I'm really fit in places.

Maybe I was always accepting of other place other people. Maybe I'm curious about the world and the land. Maybe I feel like I belong everywhere. I don't fit anywhere because I belong everywhere. Right? Because I want to go explore and expand all over the place.

And I believe that where I was was just the stepping stone, right? Like I believe I should be all over I believe that I can and want to see everything as well as I believe I don't really fit in anywhere. Right. So that could be hindering or that can be limitless, you know, give me like, I can go anywhere or where do I belong? I can get listen. Alright, next slide.

Mr. Joe dispenza says, your personality creates your personal reality. He so he's another one of my favorites. Bruce Lipton from the video you watch before this, and then Joe dispenza Fave the I face and I think it's pretty it's sort of self explanatory. And I like to change it I like to ask, you know, is your personality creating your personal reality? Or is your personal reality? Creating Your, your personality?

So are you are you allowing your your personal reality how you feel about the environment and everything around you in your reality? are you allowing that to create who you are? Right, which is what I was doing when I was thinking, Oh, well, this is this is what I see. This is what I see. Which must mean this about me, huh? Oh, good.

God damn it, right. But that happens. Or is it the first one where your personality is creating your personal reality, which is this is what I want for myself, which is sort of where I am now. My personality is now creating what's outside of me what's around me, right? I would said, I want to do like another course about manifestation and things of that sort because it's basically with the Is, but I would tell people, I don't know if I said this already before. But I used to say I always wanted a place where I had like water up front.

And like sitting in the back, I wanted the best of both worlds like ocean or something and sitting it back on the best boat. And currently, that's what I have. I didn't realize it like when we realize those things. But I was I set it. And I didn't really I didn't think or believe it was true so much. I think it was something that I have so much passion about, like if I could have that that would be amazing, right?

It was like no question about how it would make me feel. And I realized that's now currently what I have is I have the Saigon river out front. There's trees now Vietnam was like a jumble basically. So that's what's out front. And then behind us we have tennis courts, there's more building more apartment buildings, there's a highway there's a mall, there's, you know, there's a bunch of stuff out here in the back. So think how can I creates my personal reality.

But you first have to know your personality. Right? first have to know who you are, what you think how you work, what cycles you go through, what's your flow? what you believe, get to know those things, right? Okay. So that's it.

That's it. So what I want to do now, I'm going to tell you guys, I want you to think of some fears, right? Something that you either don't want to do, don't be afraid to do or think of something that you feel like you. You might have a belief against. That's not beneficial to you. Does that make sense?

Let me say it again. You have this belief, you're not doing something because you don't think that you can or because you there's something that you think you can't achieve. I want you to think of whatever that is and then go do it can be something small, it can be something small bones. You to go after something that you fear doing. Simply because in doing what you are afraid of doing it or in disproving some belief that you have this is an automatic response, an automatic message that these ideas that I have are not true. And then once you start to do that more and more and more and more and you go after these things that you think you can have, everything becomes habitable for you.

Yes. Right. Make sense? So, there's that and I have outputted to talk about you guys's journals, the journal prompts that I have for you. I guess I can just pull it up on screen to talk about that for a moment. Moment.

Deep. Wait just a moment. Bear with me, guys. Bear with me. Pulling up your journal assignments, and I'm gonna share it with you right now. Okay, so these are your journal prompts what we do.

And so the idea of this, we're doing this, mainly because we're trying, we're trying to shift out what we believe, versus our desires and see how they might be conflicting with each other. Right? Because the belief is in our subconscious and our desires are conscious. So we want to see how we can bring those together and how they might not be jiving too well. Because we want something but we might not want to actually go for it. And we don't know that.

There's steps in between that we have resistance to which is why we're not getting what we think we want Not to mention, like last week, like I said, what you think you want sometimes isn't even what you really want. So first prompt, so what happening currently for you instead of what you want. So right here, you just write about your current situation, I have this job of, you know, these kids or this is happening, these arguments like these themes, whatever it is that's really sticking out to you. Okay? So it's not like a specific thing, whatever is really sticking out to you, in your reality right now. And what you have versus what you want to have.

Yeah. And then from there, right, what's the narrative? What story that you're telling yourself about the thing that you want. So if I want a big, beautiful house in a city, I would have to go back and go into my narrative about that, but I have to realize that there's a narrative first. So definitely go and dig into your brain here. It can have a whole week or you can take as long as you need to, but dig into your brain to see what that narrative with that story is, and then disprove it.

Great. And along the same lines with that What's the story about why you don't already have it? So my story was, oh, black people just don't live there. Or it's hard to get there, I have to have this job that I don't want to bla bla bla bla bla. So and that's the story so much about why I don't have it. And is that true?

No, it's not true. Right? It's not true. So and so what did your family also so this is this is this is the juice, this is the juice here? What is your family belief about the things that you want for yourself? Because that also is a reflection of what you believe generally.

So if it's not your family, like this significant figures or people who raised you, or if they're in your life, what do they believe about the thing because generally what happens is we we adopt the beliefs of our parents or those who raised us and if we can't separate those are we think there are that they are also ours. But they're they're not always. And it might also shed light. Oh, this is probably why I think this is my dad thought that you know, we're was hard he went to work all the time but he you know he had to work I saw him work a lot and to me I went after okay I gotta do this to get this job Oh blah blah blah that's not the kind of work I want to do but in my mind it was just like this Okay, this is what I have to do.

This is what I saw this is how you become successful No, that's not that's not my thing like so I had to open my mind to all these different ways that I could actually but I had to open up knowing like what I know is is pales in comparison to what my options are. But I have to know those options and have to know that I'm limiting myself by just doing doing doing and not checking in right is having I was having what you want or not having what you want a generational pattern. So for example money is it like is poverty or is not as good as having just like a certain ceiling for your income is that generational thing and that you may be just intrinsically feel like okay, this is what I'm destined for so you you don't really go after Anything more or you strive to get on?

Yeah, she get here, right? Um, or even with relationships is how is your relationship with money less similar to your parents or your relationship with people or your relationship with your job like is look at how the significant folks in your life look at how they handle these situations as well and look at how you are then handling that situation. And are there similarities? They might be? Oh, and how you feel about the people who already have what you want. So when I talked about money, it was some, some people think, well, your money is the root of all evil.

I want I want some money, right? I think I want money. But do I want that much money? Who wouldn't want that much money, right? So we have these limiting these ideas or these reasons why we're limiting what we want. Because of the ideas that we have about people who have it.

Like people who have money are maybe they're snobby. Maybe they don't care about other people. Um, they don't use it correctly. You know, just, or people who are in relationships are out there, they're entangled with their partners. Or maybe they're always, you know, public displays of affection or, you know, they're they can't do anything without asking for permission, I don't want to have to ask for permission by Alan checking it. So there could be a lot of different ideas that are rolling around in your head that you might not be aware of.

That's keeping you from what you might really want for yourself. Ah, oh, normal. So you want to be able to normalize what it is that you want if you don't have it? Because we we have a clear depiction of what it is that we already have. We know we already have, clearly, but what do we know about what we want, so it'll be a lot easier to repeat the pattern of getting what we have already. It's going to be difficult to conjure up but we need to do and these feelings of having what we So, we want to normalize that we also want to get crystal clear about it, you know, not just like, I want this, what would it feel like to have those things?

What would it tastes like? What kind of things would I be doing? Like when I wake up in the morning with my with my baby, like, who's around me? Like who what kind of friends do I have? What do they do? You know, you want to really get clear and start to live in, in body completely in body, what you desire and what you want for yourself.

It's not a thing of, oh, maybe I want it or you know, I would like this. really get into it, get into it limits, love it, smell it, taste it, hear it, touch it, all those things that normalize it for yourself in your head. So this isn't just something you do once or twice. This is something you're going to do as much as possible because guess what, you have a subconscious working 95% of the time. So you need to consciously be aware to do this as much as you possibly 10 if you want to stop what you've been doing and start what you want to be doing, yes. So I think at the set that I just said that and just Oh, and address the self doubt when self doubt pops up, and then it's a good, it's a good time for you to just write or refrain all the stuff out and then prove it wrong as you're doing this.

And in that cycle, and that experiential awareness cycle, where do you lean most? Are you heavy on the thoughts you have on the emotions? So get into where you lean most? And where you learned that? And why you think you do that? Why is it easiest for you to do that?

How do you benefit from that? And how do you how can you balance it out and start to balance it out? Right? And lastly, who are you right? I'm Regina motherfucking. Not to make it right now.

Right? I do this I do that on the ship, blah, blah, blah. So really get into who you are, yes, get audacious about who you are, what you can do, what you can have, why you deserve it. Right. And it's really not even a reason why you deserve you deserve it. Because you're here, you deserve it because you're born deserve it because you exist.

Right? So get into who you are, and get real audacious about it, feel that, carry that along with you. Because like I said, those thoughts, those feelings that you embody, they create your energy in this electromagnetic field that you have going on out here around you. And once that's out there, people feel that people see that and your people either drawn to you or repelled from you because of it. And that is people because everything is an energy. Not just people but things right.

And then your particular activating system is seeing things differently and you see the opportunities Support how you believe rather than what you expect or what you've been getting right? I think that is a good note to end week to go dig into your subconscious. Remember to book your one to ones. Next week, we will start to talk about a routine of how to do all these things, creating a routine for yourself to get into all these things, how to make sure that this routine jives with you. And to make it to embody these things basically said what to do to start to really embody these things. Get into a habit of doing them so that you can change and so you can feel empowered to do all these things.

That's a half what you want, you can evolve into the being that you want to be that you feel that you know you are and authentically express how you are That you can get back what you are authentically aligned with. Yes. Ah, okay. stop sharing. Hello again. And I wonder how long this is.

Doesn't matter. Okay. See you guys next week. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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