In this video, I would like to share with you the power of the environment, and how it can help you or not become socially successful. So 15 years ago, I was shy, I started, I had almost no friends. And I wanted to get better at approaching people and with social skills in general. And I had these two friends here. And they would always make fun of me when I would approach someone, and what if I would approach someone and this person would reject me, they would really make me feel horrible. So as a result, I was not able to improve myself.

And I was not able to improve my social skills. Why? Because my only friends were making fun of me when I wanted to approach people. So what I want to tell you here is that the environment that is around you will have an impact on your social success. Then what I did is that I changed my friends. That's what that was the only way because I really wanted to be socially successful.

So I sent to my friends, and I surrounded myself with people who really, were trying to help me become better socially, it means that I would approach someone, and then they would, they would tell me, hey, maybe try that maybe do that in a different way. And they would give me advice. They were trying to help me, instead of putting me down. And that's how I was able to become successful, because I had people who were supporting me. So if you want to have social success, if you want, for example, to network better with people, to find a boyfriend, girlfriend, or just network with random people, you should really have a group of people that will help you socially. It's important that you have at least one friend that will help you when you will go out and approach people approach business clients that will be there for you, supporting you.

That's how you can become a better version of yourself. And then the second advice I would like to share with you here is to also surround yourself with someone, at least someone that is better than you. Because how I learned social skills, mostly it was by observing other people, I was able to surround myself with people that were really great socially. And I was able to observe them and I and then I said, Oh, what is this person doing? Why is this person so socially successful? And I tried analyzing, I tried coping, the posture, the body language, the way they would interact.

And that's how I learned social skills. Mostly, it was by being around the best social skills people on the planet, so I had to pay a lot of money to be around them, but it was something that was really worth it. And then on the side, I learned a lot by reading books, watching seminars, watching online training. So really, it was a really complete way of learning, but I couldn't have succeeded only by watching videos, and by just reading books, So what I wanted to share with you here is that you should surround yourself with people who support you, at least one friend that you can go out with. And then to surround yourself with someone that is better than you that you can really observe. If you cannot find someone that is better than you, in your environment, try to go to networking events and just observe people see who is the most popular person there.

Why is this person so popular? And that's how you can really understand and how you can learn fast? Because that's what it's all about. How can you learn fast? So use the advice that you have here that I'm giving you in this course, but then surround yourself with the right people? Now I know that some people will ask me, Alan, what do I do if I have negative people towards me?

So there are many options. The first option is that if you want to get rid of them, get rid of them. The second option is that you could also see them less often or you could See them, for example dressed to go to have a drink, or to do something that he won't be approaching people socially or he won't be doing something socially. For example, you can invite them over to your to your house, and you can do something. But if you really want to approach people and progress socially, you should surround yourself with new friends or other people that will support you. And if there are people that you cannot change, for example, your boss and they are always trying to put you down, try to find other ways or the opportunities to approach and to get better, because that's really how you will improve.

So the environment is important. So I would like you to think of one friend that you can surround yourself with that will support you and one friend or one person that is better than you and that you could go out with and that's how you will get better and write these names down and pick up the phone and call them right now. And you can book something you can you can say Hey, next week we are going we are going out for beer. Oh, on Wednesday we are going to this networking event do something start taking action