So now let's talk about smiling. Because smiling is really something that is really powerful that you can use in any social interaction. Because smiling is associated with openness with being warm, we really being someone that is approachable. And if you want to have social success, understanding how you can use your smile in social situations is really something that is important. So, before starting, I know that he may say, Yes, I don't, but I'm not comfortable with my smile. I would like to show you many ways that you can use your smile.

Because if there are ways that you are not comfortable, for example, if you don't like to smile like that, you can just have a small smile. And everyone can have that. But there's a difference between being like that. And which one is better, even having a small smile. It's better than not having one Now I would like to show just show you the difference that there are between smiles, because there is the right way to smile, and there is the wrong way to smile. So, my question to you is, have you ever been in a situation where you were with someone and the person was smiling, but it was a little bit too much.

And you had an awkward feeling? You thought that the person wanted something from you or there was something else have you ever been this situation? The perfect situation is for example, if someone that is seeking approval, it can be a salesman that wants to sell you a car, he will, he will always try to, to laugh at your jokes and always be like, really friendly, and because he wants your money. So he will be he will be smiling to get something from you, in this case money. But if you want to smile the right way. It doesn't have to be because you want to seek approval and you want to get something With your smile, which is because you want to share, to express your inner smile with other people.

So it means that it has to be an expression of yourself. Because many years ago, I really wanted to have people who liked me. So I would adapt who I was. And I would also smile all the time. Why? Because I thought that if I would smile all the time, people will like me.

And what would happen is that I would approach people and talk to friends and I would always be smiling, like, Hey, how are you? And it will be off, it'll be something really uncomfortable. Why? Because I thought that, oh, if I smile all the time, people will like me. Now, I'm not saying that smiling all the time is bad. I'm saying that smiling all the time, while you are seeking approval of other people will make other people uncomfortable.

So what you should really understand here is that if you just share who you are you share your smile. with other people, you smile, because you want to smile, you smile because something made you laugh, you smile because you saw someone, this is a natural smile. And this is what will make you socially attractive. Now, you may not be comfortable with all of that. I understand. Because you may say, oh Alan, but I don't have creative or any other reason that you have.

I encourage you to go in front of a mirror and then just say whoa, what is my best smile, and then you just smile. And you try to figure out a smile that you are comfortable with. Because if you know how you look, you will be more comfortable when you will be in social situations and you will be smiling at other people. So smile from within. And you cannot smile too much as long as you're expressing yourself. Because I've met so many people who are always smiling but you know, like They were giving me energy.

Instead of taking the energy and a smile that is approval seeking, we take energy from you. And the smile is made to give you energy. So stop being a giver stop giving energy to people start smiling because you have something to share with the word, you have something to express out there. And you will see that people will like you. And I would like to just share with you a last tip that I have here that is really powerful. When you meet someone that you have already met, and you meet someone for the second time, a third time or even a longtime friend, when you see this person, don't smile immediately after seeing this person because the person can think that it's automatic.

What you should do is that you see the person and you wait just one or two seconds and then you see the person and then you smile. Why because then the person will perceive that Oh, you identified this person and then it made you smile rather than smiling by default by everyone that smiling by default to everyone that you meet. So it's a small trick here that you can use, but smile, express yourself. Give yourself to the world.