So now let's talk about how you can approach people. Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to approach someone, but you didn't, because you didn't know how to do it, we have all been there. So that's why I would like in this video to share with you three powerful ways or three ways that you could approach anyone, anywhere, in any situation. It means that if you go to a bar or restaurant to a networking event, to a party with friends, it's a way that you can approach people. So before sharing with you the three ways to approach people, I would like to say that how you approach people, if not really important, as long as you have good intentions, and as long as you just say something. Why?

Because approaching someone is like starting the car, in the morning, you just start the car, you put the key, you turn it and you start the car, and then you drive. So approaching someone is like starting the car, and then when you drive it how you lead the car. With what you say the questions you asked, and everything, but for now, you're just starting the car. You don't say, Oh my god, I have to start the car. Oh my God, that's incredible. I have to start the car.

No, you don't do it, you just start the car. So I would like you to see approaching someone, like starting the car in the morning. So how can you do it? The first way. It's a simple way, but it's really powerful one, you will just introduce yourself, you can say Hi, my name is Alan, you just say your name. Hi, my name is Alan.

And then you shake hands. And then by the law of reciprocity, the person say Hey, my name is Mary. My name is Frank. And then you can say something the Say something. We'll see that later in the next video that is called what to say. But for now I'm just focusing on really how to initiate that first interaction.

So the first way is simply to introduce yourself. You shake hands has to be a confident handshake, and you look the other person in the eye. So the second way to approach someone would be to ask a basic Question. Why because it's a great way to approach someone. And it's not something that is really personal. If you ask a question about what's happening around you, or about something, let's say that you want to know where the nearest restaurant is, or where you can eat sushi, or when the space closes, it's a question that you can ask.

So you can approach someone. And you can even say, Excuse me, can I ask you a question? And you can say that it's my favorite way because the person will give you their full attention. Because if you just approach say, Hi, and then you go with your question, maybe the person is not listening. But if you say, Hi, can you ask a question? Then the person will say, Oh, yes, sure.

And then you can ask your question. And the question does not really matter. Why? Because remember, it's just starting to come. So the basic question is great, and even if you already know the answer, it's not an issue. Because remember, you just want to find a nice easy way to start an interaction and this The best way I would say this is the easiest way to approach someone.

Because if you are sad or if you don't, you are not in a great mood, you could just approach someone and just ask a basic question. It's really easy to do. Now, the third way, is a little bit more advanced, but will also give you I would say, the best results. When you will approach someone, I would like you to compliment them. But Alan, how can I compliment someone if I don't know them, so you can compliment them on their looks, or their behavior or their personality? So I would start with the personality.

When you look at someone, when you observe someone, you can see if the person is in a great mood or not, or if you think that this person is friendly or not. So what I would do is if I see that the person looks friendly, or looks, I would say open minded. I would just approach and say hi, my name is Alan. I just wanted to say hi because you look friendly. It's a really great way to approach someone You can say hi, I just wanted to say hi, because you look up and say hi, I just want or Hi, I just wanted to approach you, because you look happy. You can see here, you can try to read the behavior, but try to read the positive behavior.

Don't say, Oh, I just wanted to say hi, because you look depressed. Don't do that. If you see that the person is in great mood and looks friendly, you can use that and you will see that it will work like a charm. Now, if you are in the business environments, maybe try to adapt these compliment these behavior. So maybe you could compliment on for example, the conference that the person gave or something a presentation that the person gave or something like that. You have to be creative, depending on your own situation.

But try to approach with a compliment on the behavior that the person has, you will see it works like a charm, then you can also complements on the looks. So it's something that will be more for, I would say, a seduction. If you want to seduce someone, you could approach and say hi, my name is Alan. I just wanted to Say hi, because I really like to dress or Hi, my name is Mary. I just wanted to approach because I really liked your suit. Yeah, you see that it's really, really easy, really chill, really easygoing.

You see when I'm saying that are not all stressed or not being persistent just talking like I would talk to a friend. And I think it's really important. When you approach someone, you have to talk as if you were talking to your best friend, and you will see that your tone of voice will be aligned, everything will be great. So it's up to you now to choose which one of the three you prefer. Do you prefer to just introduce yourself? Do you prefer to just ask a question?

Or do you prefer to compliment someone? And you don't need anything else? You really don't. That's how I approach 100% of the time. When I approach someone in any environment. I know that I can introduce myself I don't even have to think I can just say Hey, my name is Alan, how are you?

Are you having a great day? a great night how'd you know each other. We'll see what to say next. But I just want to show you that approaching someone. It's not as this as difficult as most people think, is just about starting this car. So now it's your job.

Start the car with someone. See you in the next video.