So we're just on our way to our fourth session with Judy. And we thought we would just share with you one of the messages that she sent us, we have permission to share it. She's really excited. We were just texting to say, you know, confirming the date that we would be coming back and she responded with, I'm smiling from ear to ear and can't stop. I love you guys. Awesome to some You are the best.

Thank you for making my space better. I can't wait to get going again. And the final transformation. My place will be my sanctuary of peace, calm and joy, which is pretty cool. Very nice. we're really, really excited to be able to be facilitating this process for him.

Yeah, we're so lucky. Gratitude number one. So see you soon, Judy. The elevator the elevator came in our elevator. Yeah. So today we are attacking the bedroom.

And right now, this is how it looks like. I have a lot of storage stuff here. So there's a lot of ideas around what I want to do and the storage stuff happening. So if you could take your fingers on picture the space that way you wouldn't have to have it. What does that look? It looks like when I get into bed that's just my bed and the surroundings are very busy.

He's tall and not a lot of stuff around. Okay, so I kind of have my I want I have a lot of tricks. So I'm trying to think I need to just have my dad when I walk in here just to kind of see my camera like that. Yeah. And behind the desk, although I'm running latency, I care but behind this or setting the bed up, maybe a different way to have behind this stuff that I don't want to see when my my bedroom doors open and someone comes in. I don't want them to see all this stuff.

I think that we should play around with the furniture first. Because then when we feel what we've got the adequate amount of space and furniture then when we start going through the belongings, it'll give us a better idea of No, we really need to pare it down because we only have this much space for we've got the space so it's there's things that we're really concerned about. It's okay there's we're jomi like no really have an understanding of how much we can use. Yes, how much we can use But until we figure out how they want the room to feel we can't what's the point of going through all the belongings? Because they totally do it. Yeah.

So I would like to go with your idea first. Okay. Go and play with Yeah, yeah. And then go from there. Okay. Okay.

Was I was getting this is probably the most nerve wracking. Yeah, I know it's nerve racking. It's exciting. It's been on my mind almost every day about where I was when I first moved in here. We're finished with this and we're gonna get to the rest of stuff like I want this this list here. finally got to the fun stuff like that, but it's been overwhelming and I just went with something.

Yeah. And actually when I moved here, so like on the left, yeah, but I was like all I am tired. I have a shutdown. Yeah, that's okay. So let's do it and everything else, but I'm glad I did. Because I needed to get there.

Okay, OK. Let's get started. So we have moved some furniture around and we have moved a bit closer to the window. And now what we are finding is that one of the units, one of the closest units needs to go. So Judy has decided that this one is the one going and we are keeping this too. So now she's taking a photo. She's going to try to sell it in the room, a lot.

So how does it feels so far? We have not done yet but how do you feel? I think Curtis can get adjusted. I just put the Rosa part times now as we sort through your clothes, which is something that you identify with very strongly as a reflection of you and who you are. But looking at the amount of clothes that we took out, we're going to have to do that you're already rotating seasons so summer winter. Yeah, but we still I think have to acknowledge that if we want to keep this feeling Have openness to be able to put something on and spin around and look at myself in the mirror and switch and change, you need to think about how many clients you have.

And this is the limit. So we've got two wardrobe pieces. And then we've got a full closet. And we have a little bit of storage space for seasonal right events. But still, I think you might have to be looking at how many shirts do I need? Because I haven't pulled out yet.

Even the clothes that we have in this closet. gone through them the whole time soon with your bread. Oh, yeah, I have done stuff. So bad. But this might need to be if these are the ones that you have out that maybe those are the ones who love but we have a hallway full of quotes, and it's just close. And luckily we live in an age where clothes are in abundance.

But even though we have a closet that's full, and we have the closet that's full there, that's jackets starves. Kind of those like sweaters that you like to feel comfy. So if we want to keep this face the way it feels the way you describe to us that you wanted it to be, we have to look at the clothing and say I've got to be useless. Yeah. And even if it is, but keep them in boxes to the side because to work hard with them, but let's let's not over jam these it does make it really easy to have a fashion party. Let's make it really easy to pick up the clothes I want to wear.

Let's make it really easy to tie in the jewelry was the cool thing. It was like too much in front of us is confusing. It's hard to bring same thing every day. The way I shopped too was more like this. But I wouldn't be impulsive with the buying because that's kind of the idea or the Right now it's going to be I know kind of what I want now something and I went did one impulsive thing over the summer. And I know myself for doing them, but I can sell that one.

So can you learn? Yeah, like you're like, oh crap. That's what I'm trying to work on. Yeah. Yeah. And you mentioned also the laundry as being something that you found the more clothes you had, the more laundry has to do.

So we haven't integrated the laundry system yet. But we'll have to integrate well, how's the laundry? Look at how often do you want to do laundry? Yes, you're right. The more clothes you have, the more you have to do laundry. And generally the more clothes we have, the longer we wait to do laundry because we have so many options.

We can keep it clean, but then it becomes a really big job by having less so a capsule wardrobe which is something we talked about with your things. You can create that with your wardrobe, you pick out 30 items, which there's 30 days in a month, on average, you know, you can have a different outfit every single day, just by having 30 items of different tops, different pants, scarves, jewelry, you can have a diverse wardrobe with just 30 minutes, because there's only 30 days. And you told me yourself like this weekend you kind of just dated. So what kind of clothes Did you Where did you really put a lot into your effort? Or did you just wear things that were kind of comfy cozy, no one was going to see that kind of thing. So sometimes by limiting the amount of options but still having lots of options.

It's easier for you to be more creative to include the color depending on the weather, all that kind of stuff, just by having less I'm not mad and you see, that's where if it's there's too many other variables. Like what you name the variables or what overwhelming Like the weather where I'm going, if I'm staying home what you know that the hot flashes, I need to layer. So many things over the years sort of piled up on me as to all those different things that I needed something will pay them for the rain, but then underneath that if it was cold, then sometimes I don't want something too much under because the hot flashes, especially the raincoat, it keeps it all in. And so I started figuring out like, do I really need a raincoat? There's just too many decisions to make around everything. So that there's a sense of feeling you said you experienced Is that you?

It wasn't really a feeling it was just the safety of knowing that you have enough. That's the step when you see all of your clothes, when you look at everything, and whether they're in all different places or not. feeling that you get is that you think you have enough? I think I do. Okay. And then the feeling that you get when you can't find something or you partner something he can't remember his frustration.

Okay, so do you think that there's something deeper behind? I think I have enough. Is there a reason why I'm sure it's got some stupid might have some. He always had me down close. We hardly ever done anything just throughout the school year and probably in coach. I can't remember.

It's just, it was all around me as we've been doing other rooms I'm feeling anxious a bit moving forward, especially with the zoom. But I've seen what we've done and the thinking behind it. And we're living with some of it now, too. Before we got to the question, it's like, yeah, to look for some answers. balls, right? I think like, that's fine.

So it was a good feeling it was a something lifted off my shoulders. So I want to get that feeling around my clothes to get it. I know some of it has to do with a sense of what what I value and my beliefs and things I'm, I'm very like you'd mentioned one other YouTube stuff out there I'm very influenced by something new, by my opinion don't have an opinion. I tend to go with that personally and get to somebody else and kind of flip and that's one of the diagnosis of why and borderline personality disorder is is around that don't have a sense of yourself, identity, a sense of beliefs and values that you grew up with. You just kind of latch on to somebody else's thinking. And not so much yourself.

That something to do with me. Growing up we didn't have the people that you felt was great for you. But someone made that decision for you that might not have been really for you to get more people to say it. So we've got we've got some clothes to go through. But what's the feeling having walked from that space is the space Ready to go? Let's do it.

So we're getting a little bit creative here with hungers. We needed to find a solution to hang all day. theory and then we were trying to use what we have. So we came up with this idea of putting some hangers on the wall. So this one is already up, and it's basically a hunger. I made two holes and then I use that spacer, a rubber spacer and she may paint the same color based on these same characteristics.

While they are all installed they're gonna look very, very nice. You ladies having fun put into there sorry, you know. So one of a kind of restart is starting to come to We have another car load of donations from Judy, today with the bedroom. So as you can see, it's mostly close. There are a few organizing solutions that she needs and all the tables that don't fit. With data date these two words as I conduct tomorrow, again, they are very happy with us.

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