So now you know that in order to talk about yourself effectively, you should always talk about it from a point of view of passion and excitement and challenge, and not from a point of view of merit and specialness and achievement. You also know that passion is contagious and you're becoming a renaissance man or a renaissance woman. You're learning to be compassionate or at least to be open to any kind of topic around there that other people are interested in. Because you know that first that will open up people to you and make them feel connected and interested in you. And it will also give you benefits because you will Be consistently learning throughout your life new and exciting things that you would have never encountered if you weren't opened to these things. We also learn how easy it is to have a captivating and continuous conversation with anyone.

If you simply learn to deeply observe people, how they look how they move, how they communicate, and ask them some interesting questions about it. Remember that what is the most exciting plays you have ever visited? What is the most fantastically awesome song you have ever learned to play in guitar? and so on and so forth. You also know that why questions make people reflect about themselves and make them eager to express the reasons about something to you, these will usually keep them talking in a very interested and excited fashion. Finally, we also discussed how important it is to be open and clean about your weaknesses and vulnerabilities.

Because if you are covering up for them instead, everybody will be able to look and procedure weaknesses except yourself and they will also perceive that you're trying to cover them up, which can really backfire and create a negative impression of yourself. Now, to close step number nine perfectly. Let's discuss a little bit how to tell your stories in the best way possible. Stories are one of the best tools you can have. If you learn how to tell your story in a powerful way, you'll send people's imagination to faraway places. you capture their attention and send them to your world of fantasy and of memories and of perception.

If your story is bad, or if you don't know how to tell a story, people will get bored after a few seconds of listening to you. But if you manage to make it captivating, they will stay with the story forever. So how do you tell stories? Well, Aristotle, the Greek philosopher, was very interested in why some theater plays were so effective, while others didn't have the impact that they required to become popular and famous. Actually, he mentioned that some stories or some place were so powerful that even some pregnant woman had to miscarriage during the play, just because they were so intense and they couldn't take all the excitement. So, can you imagine creating a story so powerful that it can make a pregnant woman miscarry?

Now I don't know if that's true or not, but it's an amazing metaphor, isn't it? So once he started studying these structure of place, he discovered that the most successful and resonant plays have three elements or three parts. Part Number one is the setup. This is when we start getting to know our main characters and their situation their everyday life. The world they live in the first part, the setup finishes, in an all price in action, or something happens that demands the attention of the hero or of the main character. Step number two is a confrontation also called rising action.

This is when the main character attempts to solve this problem, only to make things worse. These were all the enemies and the bad things and horrible situations happen in the story. And the hero or the main character gets somehow the spared loses hope. And at some point, everything seems to be lost. However, Step number three, resolution. This is also called the climax.

This is where all the action gets to its most intense and dramatic point. And after the struggle, finally the situation is resolved, the question is answered. And the hero succeeded in his or her quest in his or her adventure is when the hero goes back to his place of origin, only to discovered that he or she has been transformed and nothing will ever, ever be the same. precepts. Very simple, setup, confrontation, resolution. You can give this trucker too Most of your stories by now you're also good at using structures to frame or to organize your communication.

So consider this another spatial structure that you can use specifically for your stories. Start by describing how things started, how they usually were unfinished these first part, mentioning one problem that came up one situation that was maybe unexpected that seemed dangerous or urgent and in need of a solution. Continue to the second part, talking about the confrontation and the things you started doing to try to fix this problem. Make sure to mention how these ended up in disaster, how these things you tried, never worked, and even made the situation worse. And close your story with the climax. The resolution, how you found the miracle solution, or something you didn't expect to happen that finally give you the opportunity to resolve or to answer these dramatic or 10s questions you needed to resolve.

You might be surprised by the boost in the impact of your stories if you learn to apply Aristotle's three part structure of a story. Alright, so now you have nine tools or nine steps that are improving the way you speak English and the way you communicate in general. If you apply all of these ingredients together, and tell your story, your life story. He could cause a profound impact on people they'll know Never forget who you are, and what you believe or what you aim for in life. And this will create a cherished warm feeling of connection or rapport with the people that you interact with. So create struktur.

Refine, and tell your story to the world in an exciting way that makes them feel close to you. Like they know you. So you can use a keyword technique to write down in a piece of paper, all the key words about the important faces or aspects of your life. And then use a recording technique that we practiced to record your story from beginning to end without stopping without thinking too much. Remember, when you finish and listen to it, you'll find many aspects to refine and perfect your story. So keep working at it until you feel confident that you can tell your story in a powerful and resonant way in any situation.

Now, my dear friend, if you allow me, I would love to share my story with you. My full name is Guillermo Ghanem Kawas. I know it's a little strange and almost impossible to pronounce no matter who you are. I was born in Mexico City in 1985. And when I was five months old, there was a huge earthquake, that stroke Mexico City. Now also my family and everybody when you were okay.

The earthquake destroyed the neighborhood and basically all the city. So my parents decided to move and we went to Cancun to live for another couple of years. Soon after, my twin Brothers were born in cocoon. There was a hurricane that stroke Cancun, and our apartment was a mess afterwards. So from there, we started jumping through different cities around Mexico, until we finally landed in Leon, where I grew up. Now at some point living in Leon, I recall my parents sending me on my first true English experience.

I went on a summer camp to Canada to Montreal. And that was my first encounter with otter horror that can strike you when you are in a culture and when you're surrounded by a language that you kind of start to understand what you can communicate. I realized that all the English I knew was because I learned it in the classroom in an artificial practice and study setting you In a real world, I had no experience sharing my feelings, sharing my perceptions with people in English. I was just used to practicing and repeating things in English. I remember how terrifying and paralyzing it was when people, the teachers or some kids that want it to be my friends came to talk to me. And either I didn't understand what they were saying.

So I just froze in my place and didn't know what to say. Or I did understand, but I didn't know what to respond to that. It was so embarrassing. I must have been around 12 years old, maybe. And I still remember clearly those feelings. I kind of remember a girl that I think she liked me because she used to come and talk to me pretty often.

And I just couldn't connect with her. She was so nice. I remember her smile. I remember her so nicely trying to make me on understand and explain whatever I didn't, and how I, no matter how much time passed or what I tried, I just couldn't break out of my shell. So, well, I hope this girl is as previous and amazing as she was. Now, years went by.

And for my last year of high school, I had the opportunity to go to Michigan a little town called seagull to study my last year of high school my senior year. I have the same situation by now I was a teenager. I was 1718 years old. And also it was an amazing experience. Now I can say that, then I'm not sure if I would have described my experience as amazing. Don't get me wrong, I made some friends.

I have now some people I know that I consider my family there. We created a strong bond. But my main memory of Michigan is how, again, when teachers asked me to participate in class or when I had to present something, this horrible feeling of paralysis, called sweat running down my forehead, my hands are sweaty, and my voice stuck down in my throat. Everything was shaking. Especially when girls approached me or I wanted to meet some girls. I wish I knew what I know now to be able to make of that trip the most marvelous experience of my life.

And although it was I still have some regrets. So eventually, I came back to Mexico and started University in Mexico City. I was studying international relationships, when suddenly I realize that We're going to be a part. I was 20 years old when this happened. This was in Guadalajara, Jalisco, which is one of the most beautiful cities around Mexico or in my opinion around the world. And the experience of having a daughter has been literally an absolutely the most fascinating, educational, amazing and constructive experience of my life.

It detonated Something in the way I think, the way I feel and the way I see reality and interactions with people that I don't think I would ever have gotten. If I haven't had this blessing of having a beautiful daughter, as my child as my responsibility to help grow and develop and educate I was very young. It was a difficult time of course, I know how to be a parent, a family man, a working responsible person, when I was just starting to experience and enjoy life, but it gave me tremendous benefits that I would never change for anything in the world. One of the most valuable things that my daughter has told me is that I am not always right. Many times I'm not right, even when I think I am. I used to live in this conception that I knew how certain things should be done.

And even when the egg events in the behavior or the experience of my daughter demonstrated the opposite. I was stuck in my ways in my beliefs. She told me that learning is a moment to moment thing. We never get anything in an instant and permanently stay with it. we renew or learning in every single experience and interaction we have. So whenever she has a problem, or conflict, or she needs to learn or correct something, I shouldn't just go and sermon her and tell her how the world works and how they should be corrected.

I should first forget about myself and focus on her. I need to learn the why she's doing that or she's having that situation. And I need also to accept that in a big part, if she's having any problems, conflicts, mistakes, defects or challenges. In a big part, it's not her fault. It's only the circumstances that surround her what she Hearing and seeing people do especially me and her mom. Once I can deeply understand and feel as my daughter feels with the situation, I can then join her and help her and guide her.

So, I'd like to thank you, mica. I hope you see this someday. And I would like to thank you my dear friend, for staying with me until the end. This has been quite a ride. Thank you