Alright my friends, we're getting closer and closer into the practice the exercise parts of this course that we have one more video one more lesson before we get there. And we're going to talk first now about the principles on how to hack our emotions effectively. Now, the first principles that we need to understand and own is that emotion is not something that you get. But emotion is something that you do. What does it mean? It means that the reason why we feel emotion it means that understanding the mindset having the mindset that the reason why we feel a particular emotion is because on how we use our vibe, how we focus our mind and how we use our body, even what kind of posture That actually also affects our emotion but mainly it is an internal process that produces certain by chemicals in our body.

And then it enables us to feel a particular feeling. If emotion is something that you get, you get something it means from the outside. Yes, external factors external situations have may have influenced our emotions. That's true. But remember there is a difference between having influence or determining something. Having enforcement it may influence our emotions.

Yes. Like when people do something to us or when people don't do something to us when we will say something or don't say something was when a particular situation happened when something happened, something you know unpleasant happen, or something pleasant happen. It may influence our emotions, of course. However, think about this. Do you know someone who's being yelled at in front of other people, and then that person who's being yelled at, started to have really, really big grudges and you know, wanna get back to that person who's yelling at him or her want to get her revenge? You know, any person like that?

Have you heard at least? Yeah. But do you also know or do you think there's someone who's probably at the same situation being yelled at in front of other people, and then that person actually forgive? I mean, sincerely forgive. Yes, there is. There are actually.

So, emotion is something that you get. Those two people should have feel the same kind of emotion but the reality is not So emotion is an active process is an internal process. When something happened, a particular situation happened. Actually, there is a time, a particular moment between when something happened to the time when we take action to respond, whether the response is saying something doing something, or even if the response just don't see it not saying anything or just not doing anything. There is also another kind of response that we can take, right? But that's also a response.

Now, the focus of this course is about mastering that teeny, tiny moment between when something happened to the time when you actually do something when a time you that you respond, being aware of that moment, and being smarter, and what to do in those teeny tiny moments between when something happened and how you respond to it. But if we believe that emotion is something that you get, it means from the outside. So it means you are powerless. It means every external factors will determine how you feel and you have no power on managing your emotions. But emotion is something that you do it means it's an active process that you actually do. Until you somehow create or feel produced that emotions that you feel.

So this is the first principle that we need to understand when it comes to managing emotions. Now, the second principle is that managing emotion is a skill. This is the kind of mindset the kind of principles that you need to do own you need to have to yourself managing emotions is a skill. What does it mean? It means that just like any other skills, whether you know, riding a bicycle singing, playing guitar, climbing a mountain, you need to practice Practice. And just by learning the theory, it's not enough.

You can learn all the theories, all the books about how to ride a bike. But if you don't go up there and start trying, practicing to learn to ride a bicycle, then you won't be a great cyclist. You need to practice and when is a skill it means it might take time for you to become natural in a particular skill, just think about it. So by understanding emotion as a skill, emotional habit as a skill, it means when you know someone whose main character's main personalities and always an angry person, it means without realizing it, that person have been practicing the skill to produce anger. And he or she has been practicing to produce this feeling so often that they become a master in producing the skills so it becomes so natural to be angry all the time. In the other side, another person can have a character or personality, let's say, a great floor, just a happy person, let's say, it doesn't mean that he's never sad or anything, he's never angry or anything.

It's just most of the time he's more, it's more often he's happier in a joyful feeling rather than in angry or resentful or anything negative. So, it means whether realizing it or not, that person has been practicing the skill to produce that joy feeling as well. And over time, like any other skills, we continue to repeat, no practicing a particular skills, then you became a master as well becomes natural. But here's the difference between emotional skills and technical skills. Let's say from this line, this is the positive. say let's take a skill of riding bicycle.

This is as positive meaning if you're heading this direction, you're getting better and better and riding a bicycle. And this is the negative part of the line. Yeah. If you've never ridden a bicycle, you know nothing about riding a bicycle. That means your skill is zero. Your bicycle skill is 00.

Let's say it's right here in the middle, right? Zero. But when it comes to riding a bicycle, you cannot have like yours. Oh, his skill in riding a bicycle is negative. No, there's no such thing. The words that you can be in riding a bicycle is zero.

You have a zero skill. But when it comes to emotional skill, you can go this way. You can build a negative skill. Why? Because every emotion has a direct opposite of it. Let's say happy, sad, grateful envy.

No angry patients, let's say. So every college fear. So every emotion has its direct counter direct opposite of a particular emotion. So every single time, let's say when you were when you're driving your car or motorcycle or whatever, and then somebody suddenly cuts you off just like that. At that moment, again, the moment between when something happened to the moment where you actually respond, those tiny fraction of a moment, is again, the focus of this course. And what are you going to do to respond, what kind of response that you're going to make?

Now, that moment, when something like that happened, it means at that moment, you have the opportunity to either practice the skill of being more patient, or practice the skill of being more angry, let's see. So it's always an option. Should it but which one that you're going to choose. And let's say you choose to you know be angry that hey you stupid bla bla bla bla and you start cursing whatever it means you're taking the direction to this side. And as you're practicing the skill, when things like that happen again, and you continue this way so you without realizing it, you continue you continually to, to, to learn and practice and master the skill of being an angry person until it becomes our personality then becomes an emotional habits. But you can you always have the choice to also to go this side.

And if you continue to go this side gradually again, I'm not saying that you suddenly become an expert in it, but you continually gradually build a particular skill until it becomes a character as well it becomes an emotional habits. So that's the second thing the mindset is emotional is a skill that you can build. Now the third principle I actually already I mentioned it a little bit is that you need to practice it, you cannot just learn the theory again, it's a skill, so you need to practice it. That's the third principle, before we go into how to hack effectively. So it means if you need to practice it, you need to be patient as well. Yeah.

And what I mean by practicing is not just having it in your head. But as you will learn later, when we go to the exercises, is you need to write it down. Because you cannot just rely just thinking about it in your head, because there's too many distractions. And also, let's say, let's say you're hungry, so I don't want to be hungry anymore. So let me just think about those food in the fridge. It's not gonna make it it's not gonna make your hunger disappear.

Just by thinking about you need to and you need to take action need to move your body you need to open the fridge, you need to get the Food, you need to eat them and all that. So just thinking about it, it's not going to change anything, you need to take action, and you need to write it down, as you will learn in the next videos. So that's the third principle. And last but not least, the principle that you need to have to hack your emotion effectively, is that you need to measure your progress. Let me tell you something. This is what happened with a lot of people.

Let's say, I'm a very impatient person, and I want to build the personality, the habit of being patient to have patient characteristics. Let's say, I start to do something, I read a book about it. And I actually did something when something was testing my patient actually did good, right? So I'm progressing. So let's say if I was here, and now I'm getting better here or here, let's say even and then There's another moment when my patient was being tested, and I failed completely miserably. And I, you know, I had a setback.

I moved back here, let's see. But being here is still better than when I initially started right here. So it's actually, this is what happened with a lot of people because they never measure it. So they don't even know that they're, you know, already progressing this far. And when something bad happened on when a setback happened, they, they give meaning to what happened as if I failed completely. See, I didn't see I'm not a patient person, you know, I'm an impatient person.

So because you never measure so you just give a meaning on that saddlebag, as if you completely fail as if you you get back to where you started, but that's not true. And you can only know that if you measure your progress. First is about understanding where you are and gradually dislike how you build a scale. scale. Gradually, you measure your progress. You know, you measure your progress so you understand where you are.

And when that setback happens and the setback will happen as part of living life. When that setback happens, let's say you're from three, two, and now you you're progressing to seven, and then a setback happened, you go back to five, that means you understand, okay, I had a setback. I'm not five, but I'm not a three anymore. So this is the importance of measuring your progress in every skill, actually, but in a lot of skills, we actually do this properly, but in emotion, most people don't do it. And that's what we're going to do in the next videos as we start the exercise. So I'll see you in the next video.