So in this video, we are telling you about all of the the common words, the common feelings that we have, you know, collected from the content that people send us. So someone's reaching out for an email or through a text message. We took all of that content, we put it in a word cloud, and then it told us how many times it appeared. And these were the the negative feelings that people felt, and we're constantly using in their communications to us. Sometimes we might just get a couple sentences. Sometimes we would get paragraphs and paragraphs of people who have never met us sharing what was happening with them.

And we just wanted to let you know that these are completely normal. And these are completely be able to be addressed. So anything that you see here, there is a solution for it. It's not always the same solution, but there is a solution. So we learned a lot by taking a course Mental Health First Aid and we can recommend it enough to you because it really taught us a lot about things like anxiety. What is mental health in general?

How do feelings of being stressed and being overwhelmed lead to mental illness? And there's so much that we didn't know about that until we opened up our knowledge base of, Hey, you know, this is why I'm constantly moody or, you know, being around these people drives me crazy. Why do I do it? You know, not having energy. Sometimes it's because I'm not eating the right things. Or I'm struggling with this because I'm not willing to admit that what I'm doing isn't working, or I'm procrastinating on this, because I'm not passionate about it.

So these feelings are just constantly repeated to us over and over and over again, and people reaching out for help. And it's completely normal. Yeah, so you are not alone. We ourselves feel this so many times, because as I was saying, before life evolves. We all keep growing. Our challenges become bigger.

The more you grow, the bigger the challenges you can, you can take, right? So it's gonna be always a challenge. And that's nice. That's life. But so many times it's normal to feel overwhelmed. It's normal to feel stressed anxiety.

So the objective here is to try to find the tools that will help you overcome those feelings. Try to use the tools that will help you reflect, identify what's happening. And then once you notice what's happening, you can change it. If you are feeling stressed, you can then step out and say, do like one to three deep breaths, five seconds in five seconds out, and I can tell you that your view of that situation will change drastically. Just give it a try five seconds in and then five seconds out, do that twice, and then look at the problem again, and then you will notice Oh wow, I'm feeling stressed because of this or because of thought Oh, because so you will start understanding and when you understand, that's when you can start changing things. And I think one of the biggest things is even recognizing that that you are feeling this way.

So maybe for a lot of people, you know, they knew something wasn't right. But it wasn't until they had actually typed out a message to us that when we brought it back to their attention, they're like, wow, like, I was already saying that I was overwhelmed. And I was saying, I had no energy. And we're like, yeah, it's it's sometimes really hard until it's right in front of your face, or, or there's someone else present who can say, Hey, you know, I recognize that you've been holding, you know, a lot of resentment. You know, are you okay? Like, what's going on there?

Sometimes just talking about your feelings. We know it's really taboo. We know that it makes you feel vulnerable. And that's a great segue to learn a little bit and watch a little bit from Bernie brown about vulnerability. Because when you can be vulnerable when you can admit that I'm constantly procrastinating. That's when you have the power over the procrastination.

But if you constantly hide behind it and you don't really admit that that's what you're doing, it's always going to rule you. And so when we come out and we say, Listen, my name is Samantha, I'm a recovering alcoholic. Alcoholic alcohol has no power over me anymore. It but it used to before when I couldn't admit that that was happening. It controlled me it determined my habits and so now it's not like that because I'm like, Hey, I'm admitting to this already. I there's nothing more that you can take from Yeah, and he's like, Hi, my name is Emilio.

And I'm, I'm a perfectionist. And sometimes sometimes perfectionism blocks me sometimes I want to do something so so so so so well, so so so perfect. That because it's impossible to do it. I just don't even get started. But once you recognize those things, that's when you can start thinking okay, is this reasonable? see myself, my perfectionism getting in the way, or you see something that is important and I need to take care of.

So that's a tool that will help you become a better self. Whatever your challenges, whatever you are feeling here, as Samantha was saying, You are not alone. So many times if you are able to write us an email, or someone else an email, expressing what you are feeling, maybe that's the first time that you are doing it. And when you are done, you are even feeling better. And you say, Wow, I'm feeling better. Why?

Because you have shared, and because you have recognized and you have put it in words, what's happening. And when you are reading it, do you realize, oh, wow, that's what's happening. Now, at least I know what's happening so I can start researching on how to take care of it, how to change it. And this is the whole awareness piece that we write up a weekly blog, we make a lot of videos, because we understand how important the awareness is for people to understand. Oh, that's neat. Oh, that's what I'm feeling and I didn't know that.

That was called being annoyed or being stressed or having clutter. So it's really important to be aware of things. And we love doing this because we try to make you aware of things that maybe you're not seeing. And one of the last things that I wanted to mention is just know that when when you take that step to being vulnerable, not everybody is going to be able to hear you. Not every everybody is going to be able to support you. So if you've tried to reach out, or you are reaching out to someone now and they kind of go, Hey, dude, I don't want to hear about that or get over it.

Do you do that's not the right person. You need to keep looking. You need to keep going until you find someone who's like, I'm really, really honored that you shared that with me, and, and I'm so happy that I could listen, that's the response you need. That's what you need from another person. If someone shuts you down, when you share and you get vulnerable. You get away from them and you go and find someone different to do it.

And what can be really hard sometimes Normally, we open up to a partner or we open up to a family member, or we open up to a friend who we think is supposed to be that person who is supposed to support us in that it's not always their job, or they're not always at the same level of being able to do that. So if you've been hurt, if you've been if shame if you've been if you've been made to feel worse about what you were doing, admitting it, I'm very sorry that that happened to you. But keep going. And and and go and find someone who can listen to you. And sometimes it's from the person you least expect it. There is a really great sentence from the minimalists.

And it says that you can't change people around you, but you can't change people around you. What they mean by that is like when you change when you decide to make change in your life, some people will live your life like I had a really good example the other day like someone was quitting smoking. And then she was commenting how her partner at work, that she was so upset with her because you She wasn't smoking anymore. And then when we started digging deeper, it looked like she that her partner was upset because she didn't get time with her every day, the same way that when we, when they used to smoke together, they used to spend a lot of time and they used they used, they used to have social time, and they used to share a lot. But now, this person is choosing not to smoke anymore.

So that social dynamics gone. And the other person is upset because of that. So the other person thinks that they're upset because she's quitting smoking. But the truth is that she's upset because she's not getting that social time anymore. So by my friend by my client, realizing that she was able to say, Now, instead of smoking together, why don't we go for coffee? Why don't we try to find something that is still common, and that worked for them.

But sometimes that won't work, and you have to be ready for change and ready for change to happen around you to change isn't easy. If it was everybody would be doing it? Yeah. So it's exciting yet but We'll leave you with that. Again. Take note, make a list maybe of some of the feelings you felt.

And we'll see you in the next video when we talk about what the people have shared with us when they're dreaming of the future when they're looking forward. Yeah.