In this video, we're going to go over what things really mean. Because every time that we experience something, we attach a meaning to it based on our past experiences, our childhood, the media, advertising, all these different things, right? We are placing meaning to it based on our previous experience. So let's go right ahead and jump into this here. So what things really mean, here's the thing, meaning does not exist as an objective reality. Meaning is purely subjective.

And what that means is that you're attaching meaning to something. It's not something that this is what it means no matter what, it's, hey, this is what I'm attaching to what I'm experiencing feeling or going through, right. And so how you think about something is entirely up to you. Right? That is the whole thing about it is that you can be going through, let's say, a car accident, unfortunately, that's how you got into a car accident. You can be going through that.

And then you can be someone who's like men, I just cannot believe that I went through this experience, my car's all messed up, it's completely totaled all these different things going on in your mind, right? Or you can be somebody who looks at it from a positive point of view, and says to yourself, man, that's really unfortunate that that happened. However, I'm grateful that I was able to come out of this alive, I didn't get hurt very badly. I'm grateful that the other person is in good condition, right? They didn't get hurt very badly. So all these different things is what we can choose right?

To give to that particular situation as far as a meaning right. So the meaning of an experience and event or interaction can widely vary between two different people because it's their choice, right? You have a choice A how you are interpreting whatever is happening to you in your life, right. And so for example, if somebody insults you, you have to remove Remember that it's only their opinion. Most people take insults personally. And then they wasted valuable time and energy by being bothered by it.

And you know what, we're all human. And I understand that right? I understand how you can get bothered by somebody calling you a bad name. This is not but at the end of the day, it's just like, you get to choose whether you accept that or not, right? Because you get to choose how you look at each particular situation. So I'm going to share with you two different techniques here, completely powerful techniques here that can help you in not being able to take things personally, and being able to take notes of what's going on in your mind when you're actually experiencing negative trains of thoughts where people are giving you insults, okay?

And so I'm going to share with you two powerful techniques that you're going to be able to use so that you can overcome things that you take personally, maybe somebody is talking down to you. Maybe somebody is talking to you in a certain tonality, whatever that may be, right? So here are two powerful techniques. So when someone insults or talks down to you respond with, you know, john, I do not accept that as valid communication. So, if you want to have a conversation with me, I would greatly appreciate it if you change the way you're communicating, or the way you're talking to me, whatever that may be, right? And so that's if you want to verbalize it.

Now, let's say you are at a event or you're at work and somebody calls you an idiot, or you're no good, whatever that may be right? And you are not going to take that personally because you're going to respond in your mind. I do not accept that insult as valid, right or I do not accept that as valid communication. Because at the end of the day, right, when we're getting rejected, when people are talking down to us, it's going to be us that is typically experiencing that negativity, and not that other individual. They get pleasure from talking down to you. And from insulting you.

So, if you do not accept that, right is valid communication or as a valid insult, then they can say whatever they want and they're not going to penetrate into your mind their insults and their communication with you is not valid and is not being accepted. It's just like going to a nightclub and there being a bouncer there and they're saying hey, you know what, you are not accepted, you cannot come in because you do not fit the right criteria, you are not a valid individual that is accepted here. And with the same thing with the comments and with you know, the insults, I do not accept that insult is valid, that is not valid communication. You are not accepted into my mind into me as an individual. And so it is out there externally, right. So this is extremely powerful here.

And once you start to do this, you're going to notice just how great you start to feel. These techniques here are very simple, but again, the length Which that you use, right? If you think about words as being like magic, and they truly are because you can say a bunch of different affirmations, you can say things and say things into existence, right speaking into existence, I'm sure you've heard that. And what you're doing is you're claiming that and when you start to really utilize these words in your favor, and you start to use like I am, and I don't accept this, and this is how it's going to be, then your whole entire life begins to change because it begins to follow what you're saying. Because most people are experiencing cognitive dissonance. They have different thoughts, beliefs and views about themselves and about you know, other people, and it's kind of conflicting with each other.

So, when you understand that words are really powerful, and will allow you to become more confident that will allow you to not accept insult and not accept, you know, unvalidated communication that people are trying to get you to feel a certain way, you're going to be a whole lot more powerful because then people will not be able to affect you with their words. So whenever somebody is talking down to you whenever you have something that is not going your way where somebody's you know, communicating negatively or whatever that may be, utilize these statements out loud to that other individual and let them know that you don't accept that as valid communication. Or tell it to yourself internally, I do not accept that insult is valid. And so then them trying to make you feel bad is no longer a thing because you are now not affected by what they say.

So very, very powerful techniques here. That's going to be here for this video, and we'll see you on the next one.