In this video, we're going to talk about sensitivity. And people pleaser. So now it's really important to understand that being overly sensitive, and being a people pleaser, where you're never trying to speak up for yourself, because you're afraid to hurt other people's feelings. So you keep your mouth shut. And this typically leads to bad behavior. And it typically leads to feeling of resentment.

And it doesn't do anything for your own personal growth. So let's go right ahead and jump into this here. And so a lot of times being overly sensitive in terms of feelings can lead to shyness and lack of confidence. So if you think about somebody who is shy, right, they don't really want to speak up. They think that the person may or may not like them, and so they're not really sure and they don't want to take that leap of faith because they may get rejected. And so this typically leads to them just not having any confidence because they don't want to hurt other people's feelings.

So they'd rather be quiet, stay quiet, right? And so they've been Come afraid of doing anything for the fear of offending someone hurting someone else's feelings and or getting in trouble, right. And most people that are overly sensitive, never speak up and never do anything that may have the remotest possibility of aggravating people because they're trying to make sure that the other person is always feeling good, that they're never feeling any kind of negativity, any kind of doubt, any kind of fear, any kind of negative type of response because they don't want to get called out. They don't want to get critiqued, so they keep their mouth shut, right. And so this is not healthy behavior. Because what ends up happening is those that are people pleasers typically have other people take advantage of them.

Now, it's important to be sensitive to a point get you want to have the confidence to do whatever it takes to achieve your outcome at the same time, understanding that you're not going to be able to please everyone. And if your goal is to please everyone, then you might as well Not doing anything, not ever say anything, and just stay in your room, stay in your house and just not do anything at all right? But you need to understand that some people are just not going to like you for whatever reason, maybe because you like a different color than they do. That's their problem, right? Why should that be your problem at all, if they don't like you, if they have, you know, negative thoughts or negative feelings towards you. And if you're going to worry about what every other person thinks about you, then you're not going to move in the right direction.

You're going to be stuck in that mindset of, Hey, I don't want to hurt these people's feelings. I want to be very aware and make sure that whatever I say, I'm walking on eggshells, because they can get triggered. You have to be able to step out of that thought process and know that you know what, I may hurt some people's feelings, but it's not my intention. And I'm more than willing to apologize and acknowledge that you know what, I may have overstepped my boundaries. You may have felt a certain way I apologize. However, I understand that is just part of the process.

And you may not like it, but it is what it is right? You need to be the person that is in control of your actions of your life. And whatever it is that you want to get, regardless of what other people think. If you act this way, in your life in with everything that you do, you're going to get people that take advantage of you. Because they see you as being somebody who is trying to say all the right things and be politically correct and not hurt anybody's feelings. They're going to see you as that person, and they're going to prey upon you.

So understanding that if you are a little bit of a people pleaser, that you can become aware that you can change you become aware of these characteristics right of these behaviors. Because again, if you ultimately are always trying to please people and you're always trying to make sure that they're feeling good regardless of how you You feel you're going to take advantage and so through this course you're going to learn how to be able to stop these types of negative thought patterns, these types of behaviors that attracts and replace them with more resourceful behavior. So, that's going to be here for this video and we'll see you on the next one.