Okay, welcome back. We're in the final section. Can you believe it? Where did all the time go? You've done an amazing job. I can tell you statistically, slightly less than 5% of people who go out, they're lucky enough to find a course like this.

They purchase it. Only 5% or less, will go all the way through the end and actually complete it. They have a challenge in their life. They've taken the time, they found the resource, they have it in their hand, and still less than 5% will ever actually use it. Then they sit around, and they whine and they complain, how come I have these problems in my life? How come these things keep happening to me?

And to them? It's an entire mystery. They never figured out. What's the challenge? They are, but that's not you. You're the one at a 20 that's going to be massively successful.

You're gonna have skills in this area, and you're gonna be able to share this with Family, friends, coworkers, pass this on to other people. Once you learn a great skill, you always want to share it. So this course is my gift to you. Your gift to me can be sharing it with other people, and we make the world a better place. I think that's a beautiful thing to do. But I just want to tell you, I'm amazingly proud of you.

If nobody's told you that they're proud of you today. Let me be the first. Let's jump right in. We've got some additional final tips, which are key to your success. Now, I'm glad you got to this section. Because what actually causes the pain from the difficult people is not the difficult people themselves.

The thing that causes 99% of the pain is you. So the bad news is it's you. We would have liked to have thought it was the other person. But the good news is it's you. So you control it. The challenge is not that somebody took five to 20 seconds out of their day to say something nasty to you.

That's about how long it takes. That's not the challenge trying to get that five to 20 seconds back. It's the fact that you repeat it in your head 1000 to 10,000 times. So they're responsible for one unit of pain, and you're responsible for somewhere between 1000 to 10,000. See where the bulk of the pain is coming from. It's the fact that you keep replaying these old movies in your head, these mental movies of what happened.

If it had simply happened, and you had let it go, it would have been insignificant in your life, and 99% of it would have been forgotten within a day or two. Now some of these things can last your entire life, right? Why? Because you practiced and rehearse them in your head so many times. There's an old expression, Alcoholics Anonymous, and it simply states if somebody had done to me what I did to myself, I'd kill them. You are really doing the harm to you.

Replaying these movies in your head. Matter of fact, if I go to a bad movie, I get like, halfway through and I'm like, this is rubbish. I walk out. I sure as hell don't go back 1000 to 10,000 times and watch it over and over again. And then complain to people that that that somebody made a horrible movie. You're the one making the movie.

Just let it go. My dad gave me a good analogy of this. He said, okay, it's going to take somebody five seconds to 10 seconds to say something nasty to you. There's 330 million people in America, about 10% of them are jerks, that's 30 million. If each one of them gets saved 20 seconds of your life, your life is gonna be over about 500 times. So don't give them more than that.

10 To 20 seconds. So Certainly don't extend it out to hours and weeks and years. That's crazy. Don't replay the old movies in your head. Now, here's the ultimate solution for you. read this book over and over again.

I love this book. This was a great little book. It's kind of a cute book. It's kind of a fun book. But it teaches us specific tools, strategies and techniques for how to deal with screwed up people and why they're so screwed up. So I think that's a great book to have on your shelf.

You can buy for just a few dollars on Amazon, go ahead and get it used. I'm gonna make a few book recommendations to you. I don't think any of these books cost more than $10 on Amazon even when shipping, but go ahead and check it out. Now other reading recommendations, coping with difficult people, that's another one on dealing with anger management and dealing with difficult people just like the training you've been through. Here's another one specific to dealing with your ex If these people are really making you angry, if that's an issue for you, you know, you might be one of those people that lets it go fine, and you would need this book. But if it continues to burn you over time, after the issue has happened, after they've said, those five seconds to 20 seconds, you're still angry.

Grab this book. It's called angry all the time, and emergency guide to anger control, very simple book. If you want something a little bit more sophisticated, I would get this one. It's called your erroneous zones. It's an old classic by Wayne Dyer. I think he did it back in the 70s.

But a wonderful book, I use it in therapy many times. I treasure it as a guide on my shelf. And it will not only help you with the anger management, but it's going to help you with a lot of different areas. They call it the erroneous songs because these are all the false negative beliefs that you have that make your life less livable. And if you're simply aware of them, you can do a quick turnaround in multiple areas of your life will get better. So that's a very powerful book, I would definitely get that one.

There's another one. This one's actually on the Zen philosophy. This will help you peace out about pretty much everything and have a new perspective on life give you a lot of beautiful new philosophies to make your life even better. It's called the power of now. It was like a number one bestseller. I don't know for how long.

It's by eckrich toll. And that's a wonderful book to get. And this one I really like is by Richard Carlson. He's the one who wrote don't sweat the small stuff. It's called you can be happy, no matter what. Don't you have to own a book by that title and have that book up on your shelf?

Absolutely, positively. I would get every single one of his books. I think we're talking about six books. So maybe 60 to $70 tops, boom, you're done. Pick through spend 510 15 minutes a day, maybe four or five days a week. By the end of the year, you're going to have solve so many of your problems.

You will be amazed. You will leapfrog 10 2030 years ahead of where you stand. be mentally and be so squared away, it will be amazing. That's, that's my wish for you. That's my gift to you. Now, final recommendation, if you don't want people to push your buttons, remove them.

Why are people upsetting you? clients would come to me and say, Paul, this person keeps pushing my buttons. They keep pushing my buttons. You know what I would say to them? I would say, oh, then just remove the button. What do I mean by that?

Well, what happens is when somebody says something, almost like in the movie Back to the Future, every time somebody called Marty McFly chicken, he got wildly upset. Took him three movies to figure this out. Just stop caring when people call you chicken. That's literally removing the button. Then when somebody called Marty McFly chicken, he's like, yeah, so he didn't care. The button was removed so people could push this dead button.

It's like you snip the wires on it. They're pushing This dead button and nothing is happening. That's what you need to do with each of your buttons. Anytime somebody pushes your button, they make you upset, they're showing you an area that you need to get over. And therefore, you've killed the button. Then people can come up between now when you die and push that button, and you'll only laugh, because you'll be looking at him like a fool while they're pushing the dead button.

Just imagine somebody they're like pushing a doorbell button, and you disconnected the ringer 10 years ago. And you just laugh because they think you know, you're gonna come to the door, they're gonna sell you something, you know, these people want to sell you on getting angry, so they push the button. I also want you to think of buttons as like slavery. They push the button and then you have to get angry. So all they got to do is push the button and it takes them like we said just five to 20 seconds to push the button. And then you've got to spend days, weeks, months and years of your life feeling bad.

Nobody should have that much control over You that much power that they put in such little effort, and it causes you such massive pain. Remove the buttons. Here's me my buddy JJ. Again, I want to thank you so much for joining us today. Please give this training a great rating. And I've got my website here, we've got a lot of low cost, no cost, mostly free stuff here on my website.

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