Hey everybody, Professor Paul here, we got an amazing training here for you today we're going to teach you how to deal with difficult emotions and literally make them pass you by. If you get this one thing in your life, your life will change forever, I promise you. So let's jump right in. Okay, now. Everybody needs to learn how to deal with difficult emotions. There's emotions of anger, there's emotions of fear, frustration, depression, you can use this towards whatever you want apply for.

To keep it simple to keep it easy. I'm going to use this towards anger. And we're going to start by looking at what are the typical strategies that people use and why they work or why they fail. So the first technique that people use to get over something, is they use what's called the time technique. So what they do is the anger the frustration gets inside of them, and it goes round and round and round around them up, tearing them up physically, psychologically, mentally draining all their energy. And it goes round and round and round.

And eventually it slows down. This could take days, months or years. It Peters out. This is the absolute worst technique, but is by far the most popular. This is why most people lose and they don't know how to deal with anger or frustration, except to yell at people and drink and do all these crazy things and just let time go by worst worst technique. second technique.

It's called venting. Little bit better. People have a difficult issue, they let it in. And then it goes round and round around, around around around and eventually they don't kick the dog at the heavy bag, talk to somebody do something to try to release some of this emotion and that's called the venting test. This does less damage slows things down, we're getting a little better at least we're doing something besides nothing and waiting for something to happen. So we're getting a lot better.

Here's a great technique. They teach this in counseling in a in a in recovery groups. It's simply called letting go, letting go. So the anger comes in, they get upset, starts to burn them up and they say, Hey, you know what? I don't really need this challenge in my life. I'm going to let it go eventually.

Why don't I let it go early? Why am I let it go. Now? I don't want this to continue to hurt me. It's not doing me any good. I'm simply going to let it go.

And they release it. Wonderful. Much better technique. absolute worst is time. A little bit better as venting, letting go. But this is not the supreme technique.

I've got a technique that is the supreme technique. Let me share it with you. Here's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna teach you kung fu That'd be awesome. Excellent. We're gonna sash up our gi, we're gonna get her our high collars on, we're gonna do a little chop Socky.

I'll teach you the ancient art of Kung Fu. Here's what you do. You are going to have the same challenge coming at you that everybody else has, but you're going to deal with it differently. Let me tell you a little story. My kung fu instructor was working with me and we were working on all these blocks and techniques and ways of not getting hit, which was really good for me. I asked my instructor out of all these different blocks and techniques, and I really wanted to focus on want to get like super good at it.

I said, What is the absolute best technique, the best block the best way not to get hidden thought about it for a minute. He said, Oh, I know. That was simple, Paul, here's what I want you to do. Whenever they throw a punch or a kick, here's what I want you to do. Don't be there. I suddenly I want that too.

So that's what he taught me. He taught me how to sidestep these types of things and how to make these things go around me. So wherever the punch or kick was, I wasn't there, I was someplace else. They punch in my face here, I'm over here, they punch at me here. I'm over here. Don't be there.

Or another technique that they do in Kung Fu. You probably saw this in The Karate Kid two is where he had the drum and he just let everything go around him. He let everything go around him, he would let everything go around. That's what we would do punch or kick would come in. We would simply what? Step out of the way not be there and let it go around us.

That's what I want you to do. That's the kung fu technique. Watch. You see a problem, you know, there's a problem. You're not going to let it in. You are simply going to recognize it and let it go by.

People say well, you're not being very emotional. You're you're being robotic. No, you're not. You're acting with wisdom instead of deciding to get upset because you have a problem, because it is a decision you're deciding not to. And let me show you what that means. And this is a great bonus bonus technique that will really solidify this whole thing for you.

I'm going to show you three things and you tell me what's the unnecessary step. So audience participation part. You have a problem. That's item number one. Next, based on that problem, you get upset. Number three, you solve the problem.

123 Audience participation. Can you pick out the unnecessary step? Is there a problem? Does the problem have to exist? Yeah, we wouldn't even be here. Do you have to solve the problem?

Yes. We have to solve the problem. Do you have to get upset? No. Damn, you guys are good. You found the unnecessary staff.

Give yourself a hand. Awesome. So you're doing fantastic. Now, we don't think about it this way. Somebody says, but when you have a problem, you have to get upset. And if you told people that you had a problem, he said, Oh, that's so bad.

They would invite you to get upset. That's so horrible for you, Paul, do you need a hug? No, do you? I don't need one. Why? Because it never touched me.

People think this is amazing when you do it, because somewhere in your life, somebody told you that if you have a problem, you absolutely positively must get upset. I don't know who said this to you where this idiot lives but I need you to get a private investigator. Go find this person and give them a quick swift kick in the butt because they lie to you. And then everybody else jumped in and said, Oh yeah, that's so true. That's so true. Oh, I feel so bad for you, Paul, you have this problem.

Here we come out of there I these people are idiots. You don't have to have this. This is a strange thing that an American culture, we are taught that problem equals upset, okay? in other cultures, subcultures like Asian cultures, they say when you have a problem, you can create a solution, and this equals money and opportunity, and you can feel fantastic about having solved the problem and not feel bad, but feel good. Hey, One less problem. I'll give you one bonus bonus bonus technique.

Okay. It's called Paul's amazing crap pile. Here's Paul's amazing craft cloud. couple little flies. People can't believe I've only had one art lesson. Okay?

In life crap is gonna happen to you. There's only X amount of crap that happens to you, maybe you have 100 units of crap that's going to happen to you. So when you have a problem, instead of saying, Oh, poor me, why'd this happen? I wish I could have avoided that. No X number of problems are going to happen no matter how good you are at avoiding problems. So if from point A to point B from start to finish, Uncle Paul here is going to have 100 problems.

Here's how I look at it philosophically, to decide whether or not I need to get upset. I look at and I say, okay, right now I'm having a problem, but I'm going to get rid of it. And that's going to be 99 problems instead of 100. I'm feeling absolutely fantastic. Here's what my pile is getting smaller this pile of crap that I don't want getting smaller. I'm excited, not upset.

This is a great way to live. Don't live thinking oh my god, this was a horrible thing. Why do they do this to me? I'm a good guy. I walk limo ladies across the street. This was especially visited upon me.

Darn it, like just isn't fair. No, it's perfectly fair. And you're getting your pile smaller and smaller. You have wonderful techniques now that virtually nobody else has to deal with these things. You know how to use this formulation to feel better. And anytime you get upset, I want you to write this formula down on paper, just so you see it until it becomes visceral for you.

You can feel it emotionally and intellectually. Put those two powers together and keep drilling down how true these things that I'm saying right now are, it'll become an emotional part of you. And you will nail these things. At first. it'll seem like it's a technique. It's a little slow.

It kind of sort of works and then it works better. As you practice this. It will get better better, stronger and stronger every single day and you'll get stronger too. Thanks for joining us for this video. You've been a fantastic audience. My name is Professor Paul.

Thank you so much.