Module Three do's and don'ts. Now that we established that anger is a natural, unavoidable and instinctual reaction. Let's look at how we can respond to anger appropriately. In this module we will discuss the do's and don'ts in responding to anger, unhelpful ways of dealing with anger. The following are unhelpful ways of dealing with anger. Number one, don't ignore the anger.
Some people respond to anger by not admitting, even to themselves that they are angry. defense mechanisms often used to ignore anger include laughing and issue off, distracting oneself from the problem and trivializing the triggers impact. But to don't keep the anger inside there are people who do not recognize That they are angry. However they choose to obsess about their anger in silence rather than expressing. They can bear grudges for a long time. And people like this, also called stuffers are more likely to develop hypertension compared to others.
They are also likely to just explode one day. And once the anger has built to the point that they cannot keep it inside anymore. Number three, don't get aggressive. The right to vent your anger doesn't extend to doing it in ways that can hurt others, hurt yourself and damaged property. aggression can be verbal, or physical. Number four, don't get passive aggressive.
Passive aggressiveness refers to the indirect and underhanded means to get back at the person Who made you angry? examples of passive aggressive behaviors are gossipy, tardiness, and backbiting. Number five, don't use non constructive communication styles. Avoid the use of indirect attacks and unproductive statements. These include blaming, labeling, preaching, moralizing, ordering, warning, interrogating, ridiculing and lecturing. Helpful ways of dealing with anger.
The following are helpful ways in dealing with anger. Number one, do acknowledge that you are angry. It is important that you know How to Recognize that you are angry and give yourself permission to fill it. This can be as simple as saying to yourself, I am angry. Remember, you can't control something you don't admit exist. Number two, do Calm yourself before you say anything.
And the previous discussions we saw how there is a biological reason why anger can feel overwhelming. Our body is engaged in a fight or flight response. It helps then to defer any reactions until you have reached the return to normal adaptive phase of the anger cycle. Otherwise, you might have end up saying or doing something that you later regret. Count one to 10 number three, do speak up when something is important to you. This is the opposite of keeping it all in.
If it matter is important to you such so much so that keeping silent would just result in physical and mental symptoms, then let it out. If it's not possible to speak to the person concerned, at least look for a trusted friend or a mental health professional. And before do explain how you're feeling in a manner that shows ownership and responsibility for your anger, take ownership and responsibility for your feelings. This makes the anger within your control. You can't control other people. One way to take ownership and responsibility for the anger is through the use of AI messages, which we will be discussing in a later module.
Case Study unfortunately, happen all the times in most of our lives. This was also the case with Bella. After having to cope with a difficult family situation, she started to develop anger management issues, which made her unable to build a career in a company. She used to get angry out of nothing and deal with her anger by trying to ignore it. Keep it inside and trying to keep her calm, but these ideas only made her feel weaker. Fortunately, Bella managed to get out of this situation thanks to a colleague who thought her few secrets in order to make sure that she wouldn't lose her job.
This way, Bella learned how to acknowledge that she is angry, but also how to calm herself and when to speak up. The tips helped make her week Control and respond to anger in a logical and correct way. After completing the documents attached to this module, please proceed to module four