Let me share a case study with you which you may find interesting. I knew a woman she was so angry that she was physically abusive towards other people. One day turns out he was her favorite. Anyway, he was an idiot. He was a child. He stole some money from her.

She was so angry with him stealing his money from her. But she took a shamrock to him. Now, if you're not South African, perhaps you don't know what a shamrock is. But it's basically a long piece of rubber solid rubber about this big and it acts sort of like a rubber whip. And it is brutal. She literally beat the crap out of him.

What do you think happened to her relationship with a favorite nephew sister The mother of this child has never spoken to her since they used to have a good relationship. The nephew has never spoken to her since her niece from that same family, their communication. She lost connection with the entire part of her family because of anger, beating this child so badly. Now, you might say, well, he shouldn't have stolen from her behavior was justified. Maybe it was. In the end, it doesn't matter because she paid so dearly for it.

But it was never worthwhile. You see, it doesn't matter if we feel that our anger is justified or not. It doesn't matter if somebody's actually done something to hurt us or to harm us or to damage us in some way. The only thing that matters is what do we want our life experience to look like? How do we want our relationships to Because if we want our relationships to be trashed, go ahead, pick up a shamrock and beat the hell out of someone. But if we don't, we have to have a way to control that we have to have a way to let these things slide over us without being severely hurtful to us.