And so now of course, I need to ask you to do an exercise. And that exercise is to start to think about your rules, the rules that people are breaking day in and day out, that are keeping you feeling angry, that are keeping you reactive, that are keeping you blowing your lid. And I want you to look at each of those rules as they come up, write them down and look at them, and really, really come to a conclusion and a decision. Does this rule justify the waste of your life? The feeling of reactivity, the taking yourself on joy and pleasure and the damage that it's doing to your people around you? Does keeping this rule justifiable that?

If the answer is no, it's time to resolve to let go of that rule and let things be as they are. If the answer is yes, it's time to let people know this rule is a deal breaker. We cannot ever have this happen. In our relationship or our relationship will split. But let me tell you, if you decide it's a deal breaker, it has to be a very, very big rule. Now, it might be useful to write down some of your objections to this, because a lot of you will be thinking but what about standard?

What is appropriate behavior? What about how things should be? Well, let me tell you that the tighter you are holding on to what you think should be, the more you're going to be angry. And the more you relax your grip on what you think should be, the more you're going to be able to live in peace and comfort and acceptance in your life. People do not work according to your should be, that is just the truth. So take a look at your rules in this exercise.

Right some of them down the ones that constantly are getting you revved up and make a really conscious decision as to whether you're willing to let that all go rewrite it completely. Good luck with that exercise. Do a diligent job of it. It's gonna be really, really helpful for you.