In this video, I want to take you through the difficulty of letting go. Emilia just talks about Step three, which is decluttering. Okay, and maybe we went through that, and we thought, yeah, but what do when I come across things that, you know, I don't necessarily know if I should let it go or if I should keep it or, you know, I just can't even bear to think about making a decision about it. That's really, really common. Okay, so we just wanted to take a minute and say, letting go of items is challenging, but there are ways that you can help make decisions so that you feel really confident. Never work with someone who tells you that you need to let go of something.

They are not the people who are making the decisions. The decision should always come internally from yourself and also reflect how you feel and reflect those goals that you wanted. So one of the exercises that we have is a small PDF Questions. I know what you're thinking, what do questions have to do with letting go of difficult items. And the truth is that if you can ask yourself any of these 12 questions, or all of them in regards to an item that you are having difficulty letting go of, or even making a decision about, you're going to get a really good understanding of how you feel about that item. So for example, if you inherited a piece of furniture that was really important in your family, but for years, it's been sitting collecting dust in space where it just didn't seem to fit, no matter where you put that piece of furniture.

It just wasn't working. And to be honest, it wasn't something you always loved. It was just something that you got, but the thought of letting it go brings up feelings of guilt, emotion, uncertainty, and So ask yourself these questions. Do you need it? Okay. Does it match your goals?

Are you keeping it because of guilt? So that's just some of the questions that I'm sure if you're thinking of an item right now you're thinking, wow, yeah, actually, I do feel guilty if I thought about letting it go because my family knows I have it. Well, the truth is, your family would be very happy to know that you felt well in your space, and would probably be feeling pretty bad if they knew that you keeping something was actually giving you a little bit of anxiety or not feeling well in your space, because it just didn't fit, right. So going through those questions and asking yourself really tough questions, but answering them is going to give you the indication of, Hey, you know what, actually, I am going to keep it because I do love it. And I do think I have a place for it where it's going to work, or the opposite.

It's going to tell you right away. I feel guilty having this and every time I look at it, it makes me unhappy. Guess what the answer probably is that you need to let go of that item so that you can move forward and have more more opportunities for that. But it's not just as simple as that. Things are coming in and out of our homes and our spaces all the time. It's because people bring us things, they gift us things.

Maybe you like to shop, maybe you like to go to bargains, yard sales, anything to just find something like a little treasure and bring it home. But what I want you to start asking yourself that when you're acquiring items, or if someone's constantly bringing items into your home, start to ask yourself, can you afford it? And I'm not just talking about the money. Sometimes the things are free. Have you ever gone down the road and seen something there that someone's thrown out? And you thought, Oh, my goodness, I can't believe I'm so lucky to have it.

But maybe you didn't necessarily need it. So thinking about can you afford the time that it would take to look after a new item? Can you afford the space? Do you have room where it's not going to become an item that is clutter? And do you have the energy that it's going to require to maybe look after it clean It handed down to someone else. So these are the kinds of things we want you to think about that when you're out and you're bringing more things into the home, start to think about, are you able to afford what you're doing.

And if you're still having challenges with letting go of specific items, it is really helpful to have someone there who doesn't have any association with that item, and isn't going to be someone who passes on their own opinions to you. They're just going to be there to listen to you. When you describe why you have the item, what you'd like to do with it and where you think it belongs. That person is going to have an unbiased view and say, You know what, it sounds like you don't really love it, or they're gonna say it sounds like that's a really important piece, and maybe we should try and work to fit in into your space. So don't worry if you're having challenges, go through those questions. And we'll start to go through those difficult items one by one