Negative patterns and beliefs. The following video is going to be a visualization to learn the power of your mind. Imagine that someone walks into the room that you're in right now and they're holding a plate of big juicy limes, the person starts to cut the lines into fixed slices and the juice squirts everywhere you can smell the lime. The person picks up a slice of dripping lime and gives it to you. You take it in your hand, then you put it into your mouth and feel the sour juices hate your tongue. Now notice if you can feel your mouth puckering or creating saliva.
If it is this happens because thinking about the lime triggers an automatic action in your brain. The brain doesn't know the difference between what is real and what is imagined. So it tells your mouth to produce saliva to break down the acid in the lime. This demonstration shows the power of your mind, but it also shows the power of a trigger. Triggers are patterns of thought and behavior that happen automatically. They are patterns that are conditioned.
Ask yourself, are there particular phrases or smells or even songs that automatically trigger a certain emotion within you? these triggers are hardwired into your brain, traumatic and highly emotional experiences created the most powerful conditioning. So you may find yourself reacting to certain situations in a way that feels a lot more extreme than makes sense. This autopilot is also why you may continue to repeat the same behavioral patterns such as problems and relationships that happened repeatedly. Thankfully, you can change these patterns and rewire the connections between the trigger and the automatic reaction in your brain. The first step is to start to become aware of the patterns and triggers that you have then you can catch yourself in the act and choose a different reason And then you can choose to focus on or do something completely different, something positive that helps you get into a happier state.
Do this repeatedly and you'll rewire your own mind. I personally use laughter for myself. I try to think of something funny when I notice I'm starting to get frustrated or angry and that helps me calm down quickly. So give it a try.