How do you feel? When you look in the mirror? Do you see fat and cellulite and wrinkles and bags? Or do you see a strong woman? I used to hate the mirror. The mirror could take me from the best day ever.
And turn it into the worst day. I used to go shopping with my mom when I was a teenager, and I'd be in a fine mood. And then I would walk past a mirror. And I would look in that mirror and the mirror didn't reflect what I thought it should. And it would send me into an emotional. It sent me into a spin because I hated what I saw in that mirror and I could not get myself out.
At one side saying that mirror, I was done for the day, and up until my mid to late 20s. Very few people liked going shopping with me because they knew the mood that I would get into when I was in a changing room. And I could see myself from six angles with that bright light that does nothing would be anybody. And my mood would be determined by the Naira. I had to learn how to change that relationship. And part of part of how I changed that was I started looking at myself the way my kids would look at me.
And when my kids look at me, they don't see cellulite. They don't see wrinkles. They see their mom and they think their mom is amazing. And so I had to step back from the mirror and I had to say I am not going to scrutinize you anymore. I am not going to Stand up close, and peek at all of those little flaws that nobody even notices. You know, it's like when you're talking to somebody and they've got a pimple on their face, but you don't notice it until they say to you, I've got this really big pimple.
Well, I noticed it before, where they are in our mirrors saying, Oh my God look disgusting today. What are people going to think? In truth, nobody's going to think anything because they're not noticing the things that we see. They don't scrutinize us the way we scrutinize ourselves. And so making peace with the mirror. If that's hard for you step back.
In the early days, I had to reduce the amount of time I spent in front of the mirror. Instead of long, lingering glances to find all of the imperfections. I would have a quick look. do my makeup. Yeah, fine, good, go. Don't give it any more thought.
When you start to see yourself through the eyes of the people that love you It can change the way you view yourself in the mirror. If you need to feel it your mirror with sticky notes, write down all the things that make you in an incredible person and have them stuck up around the mirror. Maybe you need to come up with a message mantra, a message that says you are so much more have that on your mirror. And every morning when you wake up, look at that and say you are so much more and then as you get ready for your day. Remember, you are a strong, powerful woman. And you don't have to feel like you're not good enough.
You are perfectly good enough just as you are. changing our relationship with a mirror is such an important part of this process. The mirror only ever shows us one side of ourselves. I love that that saying that talks about We don't see ourselves when we're falling asleep at night. We don't see ourselves when we see somebody that we love. Or when we're talking about something that we're passionate about.
Now, eyes light up in our face goes, we don't see those moments. We see those moments where we're on our own and we're looking in the mirror. And it's just us and our self talk saying you are not good enough. Well, it's time to flip that. It's time to step back from the mirror, have you message mantra and remind yourself that you are awesome. See yourself through the eyes of the people that love you.
That's all we have to do. fake it until you make it and you'll get there.