Let's talk about self talk. You know, we don't talk to anyone as much as we do to ourselves, you know, that little voice in your head that says, You're not pretty enough, you're not smart enough, you're not funny enough, you're not worthy enough. That little voice really controls how we feel. One of the things that I started to think about was, how I would feel if my daughter's inner voice was saying the same kinds of things about her body, as mine was saying to me, and I realized in that moment how important positive self talk was, when I was growing up. You know, I used to vocalize how I hated my body or how disgusting I thought I was. And then over time, I stopped doing that, but that voice In my head remained.

I guess one of the things that I had to work on was challenging that voice and changing its tone. And there was this beautiful example, quite a few months ago, I was getting dressed in my bedroom. And my daughter came in and she said, Mum, your bottoms really fat. And I said, darling, my bottoms not really fair. I said my buttons perfect. I said, women's bottoms are meant to have squishy meats and lumps and bumps.

I said, your bottom will probably look like this one day to say, I love my bottom. Daddy loves my bottom, my bottoms autumn. Every time I sit down, I've got a wonderful squishy seat, my buttons fabulous. And she's sort of looked at me when and she walked out of the room. And in that moment, I remember thinking to myself, those words just come out of my mouth. Do I actually say all of those things about my body.

The research talks about that the more you engage in that type of positive Body Talk, the more likely it is that you will start to believe it. So whilst it can, it can feel a bit ridiculous to be saying positive things about your body. I want you to question that idea by thinking about how often you say negative things about your body. And the fact that you never think that that's ridiculous to say negative things about your body. So why should it be ridiculous that you would say positive things about your body? I think that thinking about it like that gives it a little bit of perspective.

And so I try and when I look in the mirror in the morning, I no longer do that really long, you know, looking for the the exact imperfection or the part of my body that I'm not happy with. I look at myself overall, and I think something nice about myself. You know, your morning breath is fabulous today, it doesn't have to be something like that. But you don't look in the mirror and say, Oh, you old bag, look at those, you know, look at those bags under your eyes, you say something positive. And even better than that is when your kids are nearby, say positive things about your body. Let them hear you saying how amazing your body is for its function, not about its locks.

And you know, oh, god, my shoulders are so fantastic today. I think I'm going to be able to give you extra big squeezes today because my shoulders and my arms are feeling so fabulous. And, you know, let them hear you talk about your body in a positive way. Eventually, you'll start to believe it, you'll start to feel it. Do I love every single part of my body? No, I don't, but I don't have to.

And you don't have to either to appreciate your body To appreciate how amazing it is, and that voice in your head, you're in charge of that voice. So shut that negative voice down when it you know when it starts to rear its head. He said Nah, I'm too fabulous for your negativity.