1 00:00:00,510 --> 00:00:04,530 Unknown: So let's look at what Albert Einstein said, Robert, 2 00:00:04,530 --> 00:00:07,860 about your world changes only when you change and you hear me 3 00:00:07,860 --> 00:00:11,310 say this again and again, your world changes only when you 4 00:00:11,310 --> 00:00:15,630 change. And I've given, I've used the analogy of a spider's 5 00:00:15,630 --> 00:00:19,500 web, he changed one aspect of yourself and everything changes, 6 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,560 just like you pull the corner of a spider's web and the whole web 7 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:26,220 changes shape. When you change just one or two things in your 8 00:00:26,220 --> 00:00:28,020 life within yourself, 9 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:33,660 your whole life changes. Because your interconnection with 10 00:00:33,660 --> 00:00:38,100 everything changes. And it's almost like the environment 11 00:00:38,130 --> 00:00:42,330 reflects the change that's taking place within you.

And 12 00:00:42,330 --> 00:00:45,180 that's the purpose of the ultimate success club. real 13 00:00:45,180 --> 00:00:48,810 change. Simple, simple, simple, simple things that move the 14 00:00:48,810 --> 00:00:51,960 needle the most give you the most powerful results possible, 15 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,980 as quickly as possible. So Albert Einstein said, the 16 00:00:55,980 --> 00:01:00,000 definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over. 17 00:01:00,030 --> 00:01:04,080 over again expecting different different results. So that 18 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,830 again, during the in the definition of insanity is doing 19 00:01:07,830 --> 00:01:10,770 the same thing over and over again and expecting different 20 00:01:10,770 --> 00:01:15,840 results.

Unfortunately, that's what most people do. Most people 21 00:01:15,870 --> 00:01:19,320 try, you know this, they try that or they tried the same 22 00:01:19,320 --> 00:01:22,740 thing, usually again and again and again, and nothing much 23 00:01:22,740 --> 00:01:23,400 changes. 24 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:26,970 But think for a moment, if you were to 25 00:01:28,110 --> 00:01:32,520 only do the things that have been proved to work, wouldn't 26 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:36,270 life be much easier? Wouldn't you achieve 27 00:01:37,320 --> 00:01:42,570 great happiness, fulfillment, alive as joy, success, wealth, 28 00:01:42,870 --> 00:01:46,290 abundance, if you did the things, only the things that 29 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,530 move the needle the most? Well, this is what I'm teaching you 30 00:01:49,530 --> 00:01:53,460 every every single month. So your world changes only when you 31 00:01:53,460 --> 00:01:58,260 change and this training is about changing the way you 32 00:01:58,260 --> 00:01:59,010 communicate.

33 00:02:00,030 --> 00:02:05,070 Changing the way you think. So that you can have a huge 34 00:02:05,070 --> 00:02:11,460 influence over yourself and thereby reflected in that. 35 00:02:12,030 --> 00:02:16,440 Others too. So let's move on to the next slide. And the greatest 36 00:02:16,470 --> 00:02:19,800 influence we have, as I mentioned a moment ago, is 37 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:23,580 actually over ourselves, ourselves, not over other 38 00:02:23,580 --> 00:02:27,600 people, when we know how to influence ourselves, other 39 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:31,710 people, our environment reflects that. So when we change our 40 00:02:31,710 --> 00:02:34,710 environment reflects that change.

When we change, other 41 00:02:34,710 --> 00:02:39,570 people start to change as well. So this is the quickest way to 42 00:02:39,570 --> 00:02:43,500 improve any bad relationship. You may hate someone they may 43 00:02:43,500 --> 00:02:48,060 hate you. And as long as that anger and resentment is there, 44 00:02:48,210 --> 00:02:52,620 nothing will change. In fact, it become become more entrenched 45 00:02:52,920 --> 00:02:54,090 and more stuck. 46 00:02:55,140 --> 00:02:59,970 But when you take a step back, and you try a different 47 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,480 approach, you make a change within you.

48 00:03:04,799 --> 00:03:09,149 Because everyone interconnected, the other person has to change. 49 00:03:09,179 --> 00:03:12,569 I'll explain that in a bit deeper in a moment with a 50 00:03:12,569 --> 00:03:18,479 personal experience. So we went when we change, we can get what 51 00:03:18,479 --> 00:03:23,399 we want, far more easily. I've had countless experiences of 52 00:03:23,399 --> 00:03:27,899 this and I know it's true, it works. And we can have far 53 00:03:27,899 --> 00:03:30,659 greater influence over others. When we change we influence 54 00:03:30,659 --> 00:03:35,549 others much more vocally.

If we are rigidly refusing to change, 55 00:03:35,789 --> 00:03:37,019 no influence they're 56 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:43,320 an experience of many years ago. In the one my I was gonna say my 57 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:48,270 first job the only job I ever had, back in the mid 80s. Before 58 00:03:48,270 --> 00:03:51,660 I came, became self employed, I've been self employed for over 59 00:03:51,660 --> 00:03:52,530 30 years. 60 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:58,110 But the one and only job I ever had, and I was doing sales 61 00:03:58,620 --> 00:03:59,640 wasn't particularly good. 62 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:00,510 But 63 00:04:01,860 --> 00:04:04,410 there was someone in that company who bullied the hell out 64 00:04:04,410 --> 00:04:09,090 of me. And my life was miserable.

And every every 65 00:04:09,090 --> 00:04:12,750 Thursday morning, I would meet him in a car park, he would get 66 00:04:12,750 --> 00:04:18,990 into my car. And we drive around doing sales calls. And every 67 00:04:18,990 --> 00:04:23,100 every week, if you tell me to do keep my reports a certain way, 68 00:04:23,100 --> 00:04:23,730 and I would, 69 00:04:24,750 --> 00:04:27,150 and the next week he said, Oh, no, I did. I did completely 70 00:04:27,150 --> 00:04:29,580 wrong. Even though I followed his instructions to the left. I 71 00:04:29,580 --> 00:04:35,100 was really anxious to learn because very naive, very own 72 00:04:35,130 --> 00:04:39,600 streetwise and just out of college, didn't know much about 73 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,900 the world and I really wanted to learn how to sell really 74 00:04:42,900 --> 00:04:49,560 effectively.

And anyway, every week, it got so bad. I so much 75 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:55,050 dreaded Thursdays because I beat him. He drive to this car park 76 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:59,100 from LA he drive long distance to be with me. It hopped into my 77 00:04:59,100 --> 00:04:59,970 car and I drive around 78 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:03,300 For the day with him visiting potential clients, 79 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:09,750 and we got so bad that I'm just literally the moment he gets 80 00:05:09,750 --> 00:05:14,730 into the car, it starts shaking, it start sweating. My driving 81 00:05:14,730 --> 00:05:19,740 would become bad. Quite a new driver.

I've been driving very 82 00:05:19,740 --> 00:05:22,650 long. But he made me incredibly nervous because he was 83 00:05:22,650 --> 00:05:27,330 constantly attacking me. So for some of you know, I've been 84 00:05:27,390 --> 00:05:33,990 meditating for well over 30 years. I tried to do 45 minutes, 85 00:05:34,020 --> 00:05:37,710 maybe an hour, often in the morning, most mornings, 45 86 00:05:37,710 --> 00:05:38,130 minutes. 87 00:05:39,510 --> 00:05:44,130 So I decided to in my meditation that morning, to focus on him. 88 00:05:45,750 --> 00:05:49,350 And because I realized that every time he stepped into my 89 00:05:49,350 --> 00:05:49,890 car, 90 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:55,560 I become extremely fearful.

And I'm shaking, awful. I couldn't 91 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:57,990 take any more. I think you'd go into the bus and complaining 92 00:05:57,990 --> 00:05:59,970 about him and I was actually thinking very 93 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:04,680 Designing. It was that bad. So that morning, it was a Thursday 94 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:09,210 morning. And he was going to be coming up to that car park and 95 00:06:09,210 --> 00:06:13,320 about an hour and a half.

So that morning, I really focused 96 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:13,830 on him. 97 00:06:14,940 --> 00:06:20,070 And I heard this thing about when you change, other people 98 00:06:20,070 --> 00:06:21,090 change towards you. 99 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:26,850 So I tried to project feelings of compassion towards him, even 100 00:06:26,850 --> 00:06:30,240 though I didn't know I didn't like him at this point. 101 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:32,880 And 102 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:39,450 as I kept focusing on this in my meditation, I started to feel 103 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:43,890 his suffering, I start to feel his pain, I started to realize 104 00:06:43,890 --> 00:06:49,590 that he was obviously profoundly unhappy. And then with that 105 00:06:49,590 --> 00:06:53,280 realization, and it was absolutely, you know, one of 106 00:06:53,280 --> 00:06:56,460 those realizations you have that you are absolutely certain about 107 00:06:56,460 --> 00:06:59,730 something. It hit me like that.

This guy is suffering terribly. 108 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:04,890 The next thought and feeling was poor guy, oh my goodness. And 109 00:07:04,890 --> 00:07:08,520 then compassion starts coming in really, really, then started 110 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,100 really focusing on his happiness. I just want you to be 111 00:07:11,100 --> 00:07:14,130 happy. It's really whatever I can do be happy. 112 00:07:15,330 --> 00:07:18,990 You know, tell me everything, be happy.

And that's what I was 113 00:07:18,990 --> 00:07:23,400 focusing on. I was also focusing during this hour on being 114 00:07:23,430 --> 00:07:28,410 strong, full of courage, full of wisdom, full compassion full of 115 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:33,690 the opposite of the way I had been. Okay. So I needed to 116 00:07:33,690 --> 00:07:37,440 change before I could see change in him. And a couple of hours 117 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:41,670 later, I picked him up in the car park as normal. But that 118 00:07:41,670 --> 00:07:48,540 morning, I felt strong.

I felt unbuffered I felt this is okay. 119 00:07:48,630 --> 00:07:52,200 And I felt compassion for the poor guy because it obviously he 120 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:56,370 was suffering. Why would he be bullying me? If he wasn't 121 00:07:56,370 --> 00:07:59,400 suffering because you know what? Every bully there is out there 122 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:00,000 suffering 123 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:03,450 deeply, they've either been bullied themselves or something 124 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:07,470 crappy is happening in their life. So he dropped he got into 125 00:08:07,470 --> 00:08:11,040 the car.

And this time he was shaking. And he started 126 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,790 stuttering. I couldn't believe it. I said, What's wrong? Is it 127 00:08:14,970 --> 00:08:15,420 Mike? 128 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,380 He said, I've been treating you like dirt.

129 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:26,190 And I spent notice I said, Okay. He said, Look, I've got big 130 00:08:26,190 --> 00:08:29,610 problems in my life. And he then started pouring his heart out to 131 00:08:29,610 --> 00:08:34,050 me, and explaining that the suffering he was going through 132 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:40,170 the awful situation that he was in, was causing to lash out of 133 00:08:40,170 --> 00:08:43,230 anyone. And he picked the softest target, the one that 134 00:08:43,230 --> 00:08:45,030 wouldn't fight back and that was me. 135 00:08:46,050 --> 00:08:50,400 And we chatted, and he felt better. I felt better.

136 00:08:51,630 --> 00:08:56,460 Even though he had been a bully before we became friends. And a 137 00:08:56,460 --> 00:08:59,370 few months later, when I lost my job, 138 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:03,750 I split up with my girlfriend. We were living together for a 139 00:09:03,750 --> 00:09:06,900 long time planning to get married, we split up, I was 140 00:09:06,900 --> 00:09:13,560 devastated when we split up. And my sales went down. And I lost 141 00:09:13,560 --> 00:09:17,970 my job, one of the only job I ever had, and he was a huge 142 00:09:17,970 --> 00:09:22,800 support me. When that happened, he was so supportive, you know, 143 00:09:23,070 --> 00:09:27,960 doesn't matter how people treat you, then usually it's because 144 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:32,280 they're suffering deeply that that people treat us badly.

But 145 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:36,720 there's always great goodness in people and he was a good guy. I 146 00:09:36,750 --> 00:09:41,100 learned so much from him so much from him. So when I changed, he 147 00:09:41,100 --> 00:09:45,270 changed and when we change, this is the most powerful way to 148 00:09:45,270 --> 00:09:48,960 influence another person. When we start to change. The other 149 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:52,500 person who we're having difficulty with will change. 150 00:09:52,530 --> 00:09:58,830 It's a guaran tee.

What would you say guaranteed life, a law 151 00:09:58,830 --> 00:10:00,000 of the universe. That's the 152 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:00,690 That's where I can put