Hey there, it's week three in failure to freedom. I'm hoping that you're doing the work and you're showing up. And if you have any questions, always feel free. Make sure you send me that message. And I'd be happy to respond and make sure you're having the best experience possible. All right, so this week's affirmation is acceptance.

So like I said, in week one, these are strategically placed in a proper order for you so that you can work through the necessary feelings, emotions, experiences, and build the appropriate tools in your toolbox, so that you can move out of those trenches. And that septic tank of constant feeling of failure and not good enough and, and regret and all that stuff and move into the freedom that you absolutely deserve. So this week is all about acceptance. And when we think about acceptance, acceptance means that we are understanding, okay, we've developed understanding that there are things in life that we can't change. We have accepted the fact that we may not be able to alter other people's situations or things. And when we become okay with that, it doesn't mean that we have given up, or that we have just said, Oh, well, this is just the way it's going to be.

But really, it's the exact opposite. We have decided we have made an executive decision that we're going to stop the struggle that we're going to stop forcing, and that we are going to look at the situation in an entirely different race. I think about a situation I'll be very candid with you, I think about my relationship with my father. And him and I are a lot of like in a lot of different ways and a lot of the same ways. And for a long time, we just didn't get along. And I didn't agree with a lot of the choices that he was making in his life.

And as a result that was pushing him and I further and further apart. And so at one point in my past, I had to fully accept that in order for me to heal in order for me to move forward. I had to completely let Go out of my life with the understanding that he may never be back in my life again, I was saying to myself that, you know, family runs deeper than blood, because I was I was brought up with the understanding that in the end family is all you have. And that was what kind of was ingrained in me. And so I had a lot of feeling of failure, like I did something wrong, that him and I did not have a very good relationship. And something really amazing happened when I went through this process.

And I kind of let him go in a sense, and it took, I would say, two years. But there came a point where I had created enough space for myself to grow and cultivate the necessary skills to build up my own beam and understand more about my life and where what was going on and how I needed to heal, that I was able to accept that he is hurting and that he may only be where he is and may not have Or the desire to change. And I came to a place where I was okay with that, and that it's not my job to change him. It's not my job to change anybody, but I can change myself. And I can choose to surround myself with people that build me up people that are safe people that are healthy. And what I did in that process of acceptance with him was I created boundaries I never had before.

And I was able to choose to let him back into my life in a way that best suited me in a way that was healthy for me. And that was a really powerful experience for me and I think about that often. And it's been several years now and him and I do have a relationship but it's a relationship that is on my terms. It's a relationship that says certain things are okay and certain things are not okay. It's a relationship that if I don't agree with something or something is not acceptable for me or I don't feel it's safe for my children. I don't do it.

And so in that accepting of him who he is, I've also been able to stand up for myself. And what I don't think is acceptable. And that was something I didn't expect. And I think with that relationship, I've also developed a lot of compassion, through understanding his situation. And through accepting the way that he is. I have developed compassion that he's hurting, that he only knows what he knows that his physical body is in so much pain on a daily basis.

I can't even fathom how difficult that is. And those are the moments I try to remind myself of, and with that comes from passion with that acceptance comes compassion, because I would never be able to walk probably five minutes in his shoes. And I think for so many of us, it's so important that we bring ourselves to those places with pivotal people in our lives instead of just hating them, and disappointing them and saying no. And I did that for a while. And that was necessary for me. But then there came a point where that that wasn't that's not what I wanted.

I didn't want him to not be in my life. But the courage and the understanding and the acceptance drew compassion helped us re mend a relationship on my terms. And as a result, I have an incredibly healthy relationship with him in regards where I have boundaries. So when we think about where is it that I need to accept in my life, please don't look at that acceptance as failure. Don't look at it as that you're accepting things that you don't agree with that don't jive with you that you don't like, but rather you're accepting things as they are, and an understanding that you can now see what you can and can't control. So I could control my outlook on life, my relationships with the things that I could do, the better off relationship.

Those were the things that I could control. And so I want you to look at your relationships in your life and your situation and see if you can do some self reflecting in those regards to sit today in the next few days, building up with the tools that you've cultivated in the past two weeks of courage and understanding. All right, you have a lot of work to do this week. So keep showing up every single day. Work with the journaling work with your mini practice. You need to rewatch this video every day.

I'll be here for you. And I can't wait to hear how it goes. From my heart to yours from my soul tears. I'll see you inside. Never say