Welcome to five day interview empowered self, Nancy Campbell here and we're at day one. I'm so glad you could join me, we're going to move forward together on this journey to find and discover your empowered self. So congratulations for being here. It's absolutely wonderful. So day one, we're here and we're going to be looking at the three elements that are essential to finding your key to move forward because when we find our own key to our own solution, we can move forward with confidence. So finding our own solution comes in three parts.

So hope you were able to receive the email this morning and have a look at the worksheet. So we have the three elements on the worksheet there. It's the first one is so isolating, feeling. So we all get these feelings of annoying Or unease, the frustration and why we need to isolate them is what happens is they end up growing, they suddenly and unconsciously grow and seep into all the other areas of our lives. So they can seep into our family life, our work life and relationships. And they can make us feel a bit negative and easy.

And the whole time we have all this negativity and easiness it could be where positivity and strength is growing, but instead we've got this niggly unease. So we want to find a solution for that. So how do we find a solution? As in a worksheet, you get you fit, sit with that feeling for a little while and and isolated What is that feeling of? might be an easiness, annoyance, frustration, and then discover, think and feel where did it come from? Is it something from the past?

Is it something I'm dealing with now? Am I projecting into the future? So, a lot of things are from the past. But when you hit upon it, you'll know you'll know if it is from the past or is from the present, like now, or in the future. You'll feel it. It's like a penny dropping off.

That's what it is. And it's gonna be different for everyone. And even if a lot of escapes with the same problem, same feelings that are related to the same problem. We'll view it differently like the solution we want, or the solution we go for will be different. And it'll affect our lives differently. How the same problem affects my life will affect your life differently.

So we need different solutions. Sometimes we've got to get professional help to deal with things. And sometimes we can find our own solution. So I'm here to help you find your own solution. So we've got this feeling we've set with it, we've realized it's from either past the present or the future. And we write down that event.

And then what's the what's our solution to that problem? So go with the example we have in today's worksheet, which was Sarah, which isn't a real name. So Sarah had a bit of work quite a lot of insecurity. And she realized that was based on her moving around a lot as a child and in the beginning Forming a good solid friendships. But then she moved and the friendships suffered. And she suffered unfortunately and built up a bit of a wall to friendships and became quite insecure.

So what So Sarah sought, her solution would be to be more social, she wanted friends, she wanted relationships, but she just really didn't know how to navigate that how to jump over this wall, she did have to move out of her comfort zone, which is often the case when we're finding a solution or acting on a solution, we have to move out of our comfort zone. But I have an easy way to do that. I don't want you to just jump out of your comfort zone and break your ankle. I've got a good padding for you for that. Okay, so we'll come to that in a minute. Get back to Sarah So, Sarah thought her solution.

She wanted her solution to be to be more social. She wanted to be more social, she wanted to brand good relationships. She wanted to go out and be involved in the community. Of course, she wanted these things. And these things were easy for her. So she thought, well, I'll smile at work or say hello to people at work, and I'm okay with that.

I can do that. So she did that. And things went along very well for Sarah doing that. So she kept doing it, and that was good. It made her feel better about his situation. But it wasn't actually solving the problem.

She thought she would she would get to that. And so what happened was, her neighbors moved out and new neighbors moved in. And she started greeting the new neighbors saying hello waving Just know, things we find, or most people find, like, just normal everyday things. But for Sarah, this was a little bit of a push to have a little bit of a conversation with the new neighbors. But she did hear in their head a little bit of a conversation. And after about three months, Sarah invited the mom.

It was a mom and dad with two little ones. He bought the man in Africa, this was a big deal. This was a big deal. So Sarah, thought, you know, she wants a friendship. It's a casual start. And it was so out of her comfort zone to invite someone in to have a cup of tea and start building a friendship.

But she did. She was able to, and it's changed a lot for Sarah, this change so much, and what does happen when we move out of our comfort zone and you're doing something that we don't normally do A bit of a risk for us, maybe it's, it might not be a risk to someone else but to you. It's a risk that's moving out of your comfort zone. So what happens is, we're made up of like, spiritual cells. So spiritual cells that have been filled with a bit of negativity, a bit of fear. They're replaced with some positivity, some empowerment, some confidence, some empowerment for you.

So they're beginning to change. They're not full of fear. They're changing. They're Becoming Empowered. Because you're doing something different. That may be a different type of fear, but it's a positive fee because you are moving forward.

You are stepping forward into your empowerment because you have found Your own solution. So I assigned before we don't want to jump straight into our, out of our comfort zone. You know, it can be hard, it can be daunting. You don't want to do it and understandably so it can be a people thing. There's no doubt about it. So what I suggest is having a couple of precursors, what I call just precursors to going into your, out of your comfort zone, out of the comfort zone.

So, in Sara's case, her precursors were her greeting other people where she hadn't greeted other people before having little conversations and just things she was comfortable with. They were precursors. Another example is I have on the worksheet A mom and her son was having drivers and driving lessons and she was just fearful. She was anxious. There's no doubt about it. What can she do about this?

So, her solution for her was meditation. I'll meditate my way out of the things it. That's what she wanted her solution to be so and rightly so. She was moving into her out of her comfort zone, because she wasn't a meditative person. So her precursors we're starting to get to feeling a bit more brave, if you like. Bit more ready to move out of the comfort zone was something she was totally in control.

She could do it was in her comfort zone that she was totally in control of and knows things for her work. To buy some comfortable clothes to meditate, she wanted to be comfortable. So she'll get dirty in a wardrobe, get some comfortable clothes. And also, to find that beauty time 15 minutes or half an hour, every couple of days, just to find that bit of time. Okay, she could eke out that bit of time. And then to listen to, to meditative CDs, either music that she liked or actual meditations to listen to those meditative CDs and pick one that resonated with her that she liked.

So they were her precursors, and she could come back to them anytime she wanted to. Meditate today or just work on getting more comfortable clothes getting the right time and Finding the meditation that I do feel comfortable with. And then I'll step out into that zone where I'm not comfortable, but I'll do it because it's the way forward. So once you've written down your solution to your problem, you can always, which is a good idea to write down a couple, two or three steps to get you to that solution. And there are two or three things you're really comfortable with. Something that's in your control that you can do.

You can organize something. You may want to speak to someone you may need to change something within yourself something with your surroundings, or something you can do to make that easier for you that's in your control. Just think about it. There'll be a couple of things. No my near in place. Then you can step out of your comfort zone into your solution.

Because the reason we often don't actively look for our own solutions is because they are out of our comfort zones. Those solutions are often out of our comfort zone. So we don't really go there. But you have control over the steps you take before stepping out of your comfort zone. Take control of those steps, write them down, write down your solution. And then you have the key.

The key is in the actual fact of the solution being yours. If it's your it's so empowering, it's your solution. It's going to move you forward. This is what works. This is what works for you. You can try a few things.

If you do this, the step by step there the isolating what it is, is it from the past the present or the future? What is the situation, you can get a good feeling for how you want to change that, what's going to change that for you. So try this method and stick with it, have your precursors and then act on the solution. It's your key. It's your solution. It will bring such empowerment to you because it's your solution.

So I hope you can do this. It's a really powerful Apple practice. And thank you for coming today. Tomorrow. I'll be back at the same time. 10am Australia 12 noon.

Eland and we'll be going into reacting and responding. The whys and wherefores about reactions and responses and the difference in getting the balance and how to get the balance. So I hope you enjoyed today's mini lesson and, and really put those things into practice it is the first step to empowerment is the feeling of empowerment. Feel it. When you move out of your comfort zone and you're doing your solution, you will feel it. And that's the big thing with empowerment is the feeling.

When we're making decisions from our empowered self, there are decisions right or wrong. If it's a wrong decision, we have the strength to come back from that wrong decision. We know we have the strength to come back from that wrong decision. We know we can find solutions. We know we can take steps toward a solution and keep on going. So I've handed you your key.

So now it's up to you find your solution. So thank you, everybody. I hope you've enjoyed this birthday. It's step one, on five days to your empowered self. And I'll see you again tomorrow. Thank you so much.

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