Hi and welcome to five days to your empowered self. Nancy Campbell here with day number four, how to manage your sabotaging thoughts. So far this week we've talked about finding the key to solutions. We've gone through great and powerful techniques on how to respond instead of react. And we've gone through gratitude, the whys and wherefores of gratitude and how really deep it is and how to bring that into your daily life. So it can make a really big difference in your life.

You can move with gratitude and your world can change. So today for how to manage your sabotaging thoughts. So we all have them these sabotaging thoughts and they can really throw a spanner in the works for us sometimes they can stop us from doing what we really We want to do that can lead us in a direction we really don't want to be going in. And they can also, if we're on a good path they can get in our way a bit. They can help us focus on other things. And they can really be distracting.

So what we want when we learn to manage as sabotaging thoughts, we can really become empowered. Because we'll be able to keep on track on the track we want to be on will be able to focus on what we want to focus on. Because when we focus, our thoughts become our actions. And then what we do becomes our daily life. And so, we can move towards what we want to move towards taking the steps we need to take to get there. So on the sheet, we have this three steps to this.

So the first is observed. The second step is to question question or thoughts. There's a few key questions we can ask when we're when we've done the observing. And then the last step is to actually manage our thoughts. In it a few questions there, we can ask ourselves that help us keep on track. Because, as I said, our thoughts become our actions and our actions, our daily life.

So, you know, do we want to be doing what we're doing now this time next year? Or do we want to be doing something different? So if we want to be doing something different, we have to make those steps to get there, all the years roll on year after year. And if we're doing what we want, that's great, but if we're not where we want to be each year, we can manage our thoughts to help us get there to help us take the right actions that we need to get there. So when we observe bad thoughts. How do we do this?

Well, a good way is to do something methodical or meditative. Meditation is great. If you can have a quiet time, bit of space a bit of time on your own, just to watch your thoughts. What was I just thinking? You know, this is what I do. I like to do it when I'm in the car, actually.

And you sewn out the window and then they are What am I thinking? Is that productive? And so when you're in a methodical situation, if you're riding the bus, the car, the train, if you're watering the garden, walking, even you know, when you're watching the telly, we think we're engaged when we're watching the telly, but often we zoned out and all sorts of things are going on in our head. So look out for that one because when we consciously are looking at our thoughts, That's when we can make a difference. So the first step is to just observe. So we can observe their thoughts, what am I thinking and just let them go.

Just let them move through your mind like clouds coming in having a look moving out. And that's fine. Just be conscious of what's coming in and out of your mind. And then we can move into a bit of management. So we can think, gee, was that path forward? Am I thinking of something's going on now, or in the future?

After we think of the past, and nice memories, good memories are great. They can nurture us. They are a good thing to have. We don't want to be in that memory bank all the time. But they good to have they do nitrous. Good memories.

That's fine. And then we can narrow it down. So am I thinking on a positive buying or negative buying here? And just take note of what you're thinking there's no need to judge. We're not judging. we're observing.

So you can just observe, is it positive? Is it negative? is a productive? Is that thought going to allow me to achieve what I want to achieve? Because I want to achieve a, b and c? And am I is my thinking aligned with that?

Do I need to change some of my thoughts? So we need to consciously look at our thoughts and look at the direction they're going. Are they giving me what I need to move forward? And if not, we really have to change your thoughts. So we have to know the steps we need to take to get to somewhere Think about the steps you need to take to get somewhere. That's always a good move, to pop into your thoughts, we can replace our thoughts like that.

If you're thinking, I don't be thinking of that, replace it. Think about where you want to be and the next step you need to take to get there. And step after that. So we can always replace our thoughts. Because that thoughts do turn into our actions. So we want to be moving forward thinking where we want to go, focusing on something that will help us achieve what we want to achieve.

So to manage your thoughts, you know, we can think of what are my goals, and what do I need to do to get there. You can also replace your thoughts with you know, three things. I'm grateful For if you just want to get added some sort of road that you're on, as we sometimes do, think of three things you're grateful for, just put them in your mind. If you're getting negative, sometimes we just get on this negative roll. Think now I'm going to be grateful. Think of three thoughts that are about gratitude, think of three things you're grateful for.

And I can snap you back. And then it's easier to think of the the action thoughts, the things you want to action to move your life along. And, you know, we can think of other people's good points as well. That's a good way to center back to where you want to be. Think of someone or your own good points, your own good points or someone else's good points. That can really bring you back.

And then you can begin to think of your goals where you want to be what you want to achieve. You know if you want more clarity and less chaos, if you want more understanding and less frustration and more peace of mind and less stress. So this three step the observe the questioning, and then the managing your thoughts will get you away from that frustration, the frustrating thoughts, the chaotic thoughts and bring you to more clarity and understanding. So that's the three step plan. So observe your thoughts. So we need to consciously know what we're thinking.

Because often what we want to be thinking is buried under a lot of negativity. Sometimes it can be like hard to get up in the morning. Because the thoughts that we're looking for the action we really want to take is buried under so many negative thoughts and Sometimes it's really hard. It's really difficult. But you're in control of your thoughts. your thinking and so you're stronger, then the pile of thoughts that are on top of that one little thought that you want.

I need to get up and out of bed and I'm going to do it. It's there. And it's waiting for you to bring it up. In whatever situation move toward that thought. Sometimes we can't move directly towards it. We need to just consciously look at our thoughts.

Are they positive, are they negative, and bring ourselves back to the center with a grateful sort with a thought about gratitude or thought about our one of our good points or someone else's good points. And then look for that thought we need. So it can be difficult, because sometimes the thoughts we really need are really buried, but they're there. They're always there to move this forward. So I hope you can look at the worksheet and go through that and use that whenever you need to. And just be conscious of your thoughts.

So tomorrow, we're going to be going into collapsing your limits. And this is really empowering and empowering practice collapsing your limits. So this will enable you to feel liberated to feel yourself, really stepping into your empowerment. So I hope to see you then and good luck with your managing your sabotaging flow. Because I know you can do it. Any questions, the emails there on the page on this on this page, any comments, pop them in, comment any questions on these calls as well or if you prefer as some people do for me to answer personally, that's fine as well.

That's no problem. Okay. Thanks very much. I'll see you tomorrow.