I'm happy you're here with me again. Thank you for joining me. Nice job. Okay, we're gonna actually do a whole bunch of late today, because I think that sounds fun. I don't know if it's gonna be fun for you, but it's gonna be fun for me. So here we go.

Okay, so you can actually lay down all the way you could even just flop down if you want it, whatever feels good. We're gonna actually start by just doing some kicks, straight up and straight down. So I'm gonna cheat, probably gonna bend my lower leg a little bit, kind of make it a little more comfortable. But the template we're gonna try to keep soon as we kick up. Here we go. Okay.

So, today, we are actually going to talk about identity. And so we could find the identity and a lot of different things. And we often when asked, you know, we're meeting someone new and instead of somebody asked me like, well, who are you? Which might be a little bit of an odd intro? Don't get me wrong. Instead of asking them what they say what do you do, right?

Because oftentimes we use our job to define who we are gonna just think for it. And I'm really using your app to control this movement too. So it's, it's actually a control thing. And you're not allowing too much movement. So, we often use our occupations to define us, we use our hobbies to define us, we use our marital status, we use our if we have kids or don't have kids, we use a lot of different things to define who we are. And, and that is all fine.

It's all well and good. But here's the thing about all of those things. And many things that we use to describe ourselves especially things that are not permanent. In theory, like an occupation or something like that are unfortunately is not a particularly great way to describe ourselves because they change over time. I mean, maybe you start off being, you know, like, like your first job was flipping burgers, great. But maybe that's not who you are anymore.

And if you let that affect you, then maybe wouldn't be where you are today. Right? Or has just one random example. But when we get so wrapped up in a certain aspect of the way we identify ourselves, then we kind of lose sight of who we are at our very core. And that is a really important thing to know about ourselves. And it's really easy to get kind of caught up in this idea of you know, I am I am one thing, and then what happens when things change, so For instance, maybe you've worked at this one place for years and years and years and years and you have a whole ton of you know, swag associated with it.

And so, when you when you quit or or life changes, you know, then what like, Is that is that your identity being associated with this one company? Or what is it that defines you? I mean, who, who are you at your very core? Right? And so, um, those are really important questions to ask, and their answers to know, right. So, identity is not wrapped around certain aspects, because those are often outside things that we identify with even things like your marital status.

The or being a parent or having a particular career or a particular hobby or whatever it is. And again, those are things that help define you, but they're not who you are at your very core, Who who are you? What are the things that you believe in? What are your ethics and your values? What are your What are your hopes and dreams? All those things?

You know what is essentially what it boils down to is what is your life's purpose? Do you know what your purpose is? question right. Whatever you put on this earth to do, how are you going to be serving the world? How are you going to be saving yourself? Your family, right?

What is it That makes you, you. So I really encourage you to take some time if you don't already know, at the very core of your being if everything else was stripped away. Yeah, it's just you. You're not defined by your job, your car, your possessions, your hobbies, your marital status, your kids, if you weren't defined by any of those things, how would you identify yourself? What would you say to somebody who asks you, who are you? It's tough.

It's a tough question. But knowing who you are at your very core, allows you to continue to grow and learn and adapt and be your best self. But it helps to keep you alive. Because sometimes we get off track a little bit and we think oh, Here's his opportunity at Cole and I could do this thing. But if it isn't your life's purpose, is it leading you towards who you are? Or who you want to be?

If not, are there other opportunities? or other ways? You can, maybe you about that. Right? And part of living our best lives and being your best selves is to know who we are, and to know who he wants to be. You know, you don't have to be stuck in virtual highly discourage it and one particular thing for the rest of your life.

You know, we talked about growth mindset, we talked about detoxing, for goodness sakes, like if you didn't want to detox, you wouldn't be here. You know, if you didn't want to live your best life and move forward and embrace your future. You wouldn't be here so I know that you have it in you And being who you are a very core is going to be one of the best things that you can do to allow yourself to understand the right steps forward. It is the foundation for everything else. Yeah. So okay, speaking of that, I think I'm gonna do a little bit of searching and join me because I'm feeling it today.

So, um, those are things that I really want us to ponder. It's a deep, deep question. It's not an easily answered question. But knowing who we are and what our purpose is, is going to help guide us and it will help guide us to when times are tough and you think, Oh my gosh, I can't do this anymore. Whatever it is. And you read that purpose again, and I'll come back to this concept but you read this purpose again, you think, okay, yes.

I am going Towards the life I think I'm supposed to live and then you're able to move on from there. Excuse me. So let's talk about some affirmations here. do two more searches here and it's really a good idea at the moment. Okay, so here are affirmations for today. I know who I am.

My life's purpose is beautiful. I am constantly Growing, learning evolving person who I am is good. Who I am is who I am is more than enough. I have purpose to my life. My life has meaning. My life is valuable.

I am on the right. I strive for the best in everything. I know who I am. Okay, so I know the reality is a lot of us don't feel like that or don't feel bad at certain points in our life. You You know, we have identity crisis right there. And it's totally okay for your identity to change to right doesn't have to stay one thing for your entire life.

It started off very, you know, I had a very kind of specific life purpose for a while. And then, as I've grown and grown up and changed, you know, laundry for my life purpose has changed, so very much, but I still have the core of who I am. But the way that it's playing out is different now. And that's totally fine. That's In fact, that's great. That means that you're growing and changing and not getting stuck in a rut, which was that.

So here's the challenge. It will take some time. And I think it's something to start on today. It might not be something to finish today, you might not be able to do it just in one swoop. If you can break, a write out your life's purpose. I'm serious.

It's just a one page one Ah, one page document one page, journal entry, whatever it is. Really think about who you are. And think about what makes you you, your ethics, your values, what's important to you, what you feel that you were put on this earth to do. And then write all that stuff down, and then write out a life mission statement. And think, no matter what happens, if everything else, we're not a part of my identity, identity, the things we talked about earlier, who would I be if everything else was stripped away? Who am I?

Knowing that he's such a nice thing? Because then I have that to stand on. When I feel bombarded with crazy things or when things change when I you know, I mean, this wasn't the case for me at the mall. But, or ever, but, you know, I'm just okay. So that was a funny way of putting that I just realized, like, as I was saying, This isn't gonna be for me, but, um, but actually it is. So Marilyn says, um, you know, I was single for a long time, I only just got married last year.

And I was defined by being single person for a long time and now I'm the married person, but that doesn't change who I am. Or it doesn't, you know, or going from a job where I was teaching full time to now I'm, you know, in like a physical classroom and now I'm, I'm going in a different direction. I'm doing online courses, things like that. It's, it's still who I am, but it's that one aspect of my life does not define me and if that were stripped away, I would have me have me. So it's so helpful to have that base, and to just embrace it and go from there. So I really encourage you to, to do that take the time that it takes to really have thought thoroughly through it.

And then when you're done, print it out or take it out of your journal and post it somewhere where you can see every day use that as your base, your guideline, your guiding principles, and such a sense of of wholeness. Right and who I am is great and who I can. All right. So thank you so much for everything. Keep exploring. Be Awesome.