Cheerful people in the morning kind of depends I like some days I don't want to talk to anyone before I have my coffee right. And other days I'm very oddly bubbly which is weird because I never you know, I'm like, here we go every day just to be completely honest. I'm much more of a night owl. Morning. Bird by reason I really enjoy good morning. A bad so here we are.

Aside bonus for today. Okay, anyway, let's get to it. Go ahead, take the lucky breath. Ready in. Green. Okay.

All right. So, we are going to talk today about taking things personally, that's gonna be fun, but we're gonna start by getting them really warmed up. And we all do it. We all take things personally. I live by a mantra that says a doctor take things personally but there are still times when I really struggled with it. It's really hard.

If people are attacking you or criticizing you, or whatever coming at you, and they're being negative to not take it personally, so I definitely get it. And so I just, you know, I want to acknowledge this, this is a daily battle for everyone and then go the other way. But here's the thing. One of the biggest, life changing things that for me, personally, was reading a book called The Four Agreements, I highly, highly recommend that you read it if you haven't already. And one of the Four Agreements is not taking things personally and here's the thing we always assume that it's about ourselves, that when somebody comes an addict and attacks those businesses or whatever that is about ourselves. But it's not.

It is always, always about them, and how they're experiencing life right now in this moment. So, say someone cuts you off in traffic and you're like, are you doing terrible about the way that they're feeling right? I'm gonna just do a little bit so so when somebody comes at you, you don't know what their life has been like for the last hour day, year. And people are, you know, harmed and overwhelmed by so many things all the time anyway, that occurred they're not going to be Call to you, or anyone else all the time. Same with us, right? We don't it's not like we're always perfect.

We're not so nice. So that's the thing is keeping in mind that we never know the whole story about somebody, we see one moment where they're mad at us or they're being a jerk or whatever. But we don't know what else was going on in their mind, right? We don't know what their vantage point or anything like that. And so being able to recognize that you should never take things personally, always about the other person is a reflection on them. It's not a reflection on you, your character who you are.

It's whatever their perception is at the moment and it doesn't matter because it's not about you. And being able to kind of really hold it back even if your first reaction when somebody says something harmful or whatever. to you is that taking things personally thing, even if that's your first reaction? It's really hard not to have that be your first reaction. So even if you start off that way, knowing, just knowing in your gut that it's not about you, it's about them makes such a difference, because then you can say, Okay, yeah, that was harmful. I feel like taking this personally.

But I know it's not about me. I know that whatever they're going through is about them and them alone. And if you can embrace that and really believe it, you will seriously right, because those things that are directed at you are not about you, really. So. So that's a really, really important thing. I'm actually going to go ahead and lay down for a second Back, filling your feet in case your fears long can go the other way.

So when you have this freedom it's not about you. It's about them. Then you can really go through your day with confidence. No matter what happens no matter what somebody says to you, you come out of power that you then have to take money for them someone else take that power away from you by taking something personally and then just reacting to it. You actually keeping your power and saying no, I mean you know I'm not going to let that ruin my day whatever was right. So that means you are making your living your best life.

So let's use an affirmation what I was comfortable to need more stretching, do more stretching, but here we are. I am a wonderful person. Do not allow other people to dictate how I feel. I feel good today. And every day I walk through life with confidence. Knowing I am here on purpose and my life matters.

No one has the power to take power away from me. I am powerful just the way I am. I allow what other people say to roll off my back and not affect me. I am living my best life Hey Here's your challenge for today. You're gonna come up with something that are frustrating. And you're like taking it personally.

Think about today's start, right? Remember that it's not about you, it's about them. And you make it about you, which then you allow them to take power from you. Okay? So stop in his tracks, say, you know what, I don't know the narrative, full narrative of what's happening in their life, but clearly it's not too late also. Okay.

And then you just, you don't let it affect you. You just acknowledge that it happened. You stop your brain from taking anything personally and you say, You know what? We're gonna go we're gonna keep All right, but that's what I really want you to do today is going to be one of those, you know, lifetime things. It's going to be a daily thing that you have to think about, but it really makes a difference. And oh my goodness, just since implementing that there's so much more peace that comes from that and it's been such a great way to live your best life.