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Um, all right, so let's just start with some deep breaths and then we'll go from there ready? Notice how when you start doing deep breaths, the first one is that Dave usually it's a little shallower and then as you get into that room Wk have even deeper, deeper breaths. always noticed by the fourth breath, I'm like, okay, yeah. It's great. I love it. Alright, so let's get started today and I really want to do you have in front of us that we're gonna start here.

Again, we're just gonna actually start with circling. So we're going to record a coup coordination. You can do it however you want. And then once you've gone around a few times are feeling warm and limber. And we're going to go the other way. And then everything come alive.

Getting ready for the day. Go ahead and settle as well. All right. So one of the things we do all the time that is super unhelpful is making assumptions. Right? We make assumptions, we make assumptions about so many different things to make assumptions about maybe ourselves about our capacity to do certain things or learn new things or whatever it might be making assumptions about why somebody did something, the way they did it, or why did they think this thing or it might be an assumption based on you know, again, some something somebody said or did or didn't do?

You know, you might make an assumption, you know, you come home from a long day and your partner hasn't, you know, taken out the trash or something like you asked. And maybe the media session. Oh my gosh, you know, that person doesn't care about me clearly because they didn't do something I asked what was the goal or they don't care? Right? Or you might be told by your boss early in the day, can you tell the meeting later? And you'll immediately jump to Oh, gosh, did I do wrong or what's going on?

And you spend the whole day worrying about that because you make assumptions without seeking to understand first, right? So we all do it. Very, very easy to do. Not good for our mental health. On our opposite button, we're gonna reach out here really not conducive. We know that we still do it.

We still do it. So we're gonna detox from today's adoptions anymore. When you make an assumption, you make a judgement, you decide what you think, is the reason behind something, or the reasons for something, and, you know, you might be right on occasion, but probably nine times out of 10 at least, you made the wrong assumption. Right? And so if you live life like that, then you're constantly worrying or you're constantly you know, making a judgment that probably not they are as well. And the other thing to bear in usually assumptions are on the negative side.

It's not like you normally do Oh, this person is doing some you know, they did this maybe because they care about me like normally and assumption is negative, right. Oh, no way right there. Um, So it's not just the way our brain, you know, are hardwired if it's protective, first and foremost, but we make assumptions on the worst case scenario as opposed to the best. Um, what we're not going to do that anymore. We don't need to do that by thinking long term. Um, so here's the thing, instead of making assumptions about the reason why people said the thing that they said or the thing that they did, what I wanted to start doing much more deliberately is seeking to understand IP question.

Why did you say that? Or maybe the example of your boss maybe it is a guy that's not making that assumption is saying. Me mass. Pay in British Isles getting a raise. Right? That's a stereotype right there.

But regardless, I think question two to avoid making assumptions. And an example of your partner's into out the trash and you're really passionate about it, instead of making the assumption that you care, simply asked, hey, you know, I noticed the trash wasn't taking everything away or whatever it is, you give me a perfectly valid reason for those things, right? And so just always be ready to ask question, be curious, to big data at an attack at the end of every time I say, keep exploring, and I think that encompasses a lot of different things and learning and growing, all of those different things, but it also encompasses curiosity right? And being willing to explore a situation as opposed to make a judgement about it situation right. So that's really what we want to do. Focus on.

Let's come back. We're gonna do some delightful affirmation. Here we go. I always seek to understand people and situations. I focus on the good in situations and when I do that, in a situation, workers I am good at what I do and I am good. Because I asked questions to understand.

I draw conclusions. Knowing the full story I am capable. I am gifted. I am strong. I am Explorer. Okay, challenge challenge today is when you find yourself starting to go into that assumption mode that you might be mindful of the fact that you're jumping to a conclusion that there is no logical connection.

Just as That's true. You've made a judgment call without knowing everything, okay? Don't miss it. And you'll find yourself on daily basis having to come back to that, right? But it's being mindful of it being conscious is about stopping in his tracks and saying, Ah, I don't know full story here. I'm gonna ask, I'm going to be curious.

I'm going to because it just goes along with being impeccable with your word, right? Like, you're not going to make a judgment call without knowing the whole story. Because you and you're definitely not going to speak about it or speak to yourself about it. That might be negative self talk, or that might actually be not true. What you're suggesting to yourself or to others about a person or situation. Right And so those things.

We want to tie them together really well. But we want to say I'm conscious of the fact that I'm about to draw a conclusion. That's not fair. It's based on an assumption. And then we're going to well, wonderful, great other way to detox. You know what that kind of negativity in our lives.

As somebody once said, ain't nobody got time for that. So keep exploring and be awesome today. You're doing great. Keep it up. So glad you're here.