Good morning and welcome to your 21 day detox challenge. Thank you for joining me. And let's go ahead and get started. Right. Beautiful. Okay, so we're actually going to start off for the focus a little bit on our late today.

So the first thing that I want us to do is to What you're gonna do is you're going to actually tuck in, like squeeze your knees close forward as you can, and then you're going to kick up and then you're connected. You're going to engage your abs whole times to get that bone outward out. We do like workout. And we're going to do 10 on one side to the other. Okay, ready, we're at 239 Okay. Okay.

Probably not also trying to talk, one or the other is gonna slip. But what we're going to do next is poke out of here just for a few counts, and then we're going to switch to the other side. And let's go ahead and talk about guilt and caching. So we talked about regret. And we talked about how regrets don't serve us because they keep us in the past, and then we're not able to move on and go forward from there. So yes, that's all very true and closely tied in with that is guilt.

So regret is. There really similar concepts, it's still the idea of being trapped in the past. It's still the idea of being held something where you just wish things were different and you feel that So guilty about maybe a past relationship or something you said or something that you did that was hurtful or unethical or whatever it is. Or maybe you feel guilty about anything like that you feel guilty about, you know, not feeling like you're not being the best parent or about time that you have to put away with your kids, you know, away from your family or whatever it is, Oh, yes, we impose on ourselves all the time for things that anybody outside of our control B and see that we just reduce ourselves and we make ourselves feel so guilty for things that we might not be able to control and we certainly can't change now.

Right? Especially if it's about something that happened you aren't going to do to not be able to spend the time to family or something like that. But there are always things that you can do to avoid And by the way, I mean address it. So now if we address it, it was on. And so we're a little bit today. First of all, you do actually come out to the side and bring it back in.

So, here's the thing. Okay. Um, there's something that you can control right now you still feel guilty about, like, some examples are not being the best parents or kids, you know, feeling like you're not being the best parent, just sorry, you're doing great. And then undecided as well. But maybe things like not not being able to connect as often with your friends and family. You're feeling about living far away or too much time at work, whatever they feel Usually it comes to something as a solvable problem, right?

And so, so in the case of spending too much time at work, maybe you need to start establishing boundaries that you're only going to be able to offer X amount of time, right? for things to go ahead and push back a little bit and you're really reaching out in front of us do that shoulder stretch, and maybe, maybe it's something where you feel guilty because you're too far away from your friends and family and so you can't see them as often as you want. Okay, you might not be able to see them as often as you want but feeling guilty about struggling to solve anything with a thought something is being really intentional about planning, opportunities to see what's going to be accomplished all the time. Ali is continuing to stay in touch the best that you can I mean, goodness, where are you? To connect your age now that there are multiple, multiple ways to de touch without you having to.

Physically, that's not always possible, right? So, okay, so something that does not serve us because it hold us to an emotion that kind of down and make us feel inadequate and terrible and things like that, which again, we're detoxing from along these lines, a little a little bit different. Let's talk about caching. But this is a really, really important topic. If you are in a relationship where somebody is attached to you for things that happened way before that individual or, or even within the relationship, and you've already done what you can to heal to ask for forgiveness. as to if that's appropriate.

If not, you know, sometimes it's not because it doesn't affect the person in question or whatever you know that feel shaming about. But whatever it is, if you address it, and you either explained it or maybe not their business or it is that you apologize, however it works into you actively taking the right steps to address these situations when you are done. And they should be done too. So if you have someone in your life is constantly putting you down because something in your past, then that is astonishing, really clear boundaries. We're no longer talking about this. We've addressed this we're moving on.

It's a great it's a great technique. If that's not possible, this person could be a toxic person in your life and why not my mesh well with You're trying to be and that might mean removing that relationship, whether it's, you know, a romantic relationship or a friend or whoever it is, right. But all of us have the responsibility to own up to our mistakes, to own up to our shortcomings, to acknowledge them, not to just brush them aside, but to really addressed them and acknowledged as forgiveness when that's appropriate and needed. And then to move on. Right, your past and your past. Leave it there, and then look towards the future.

This goes for you too, if you're in a habit of continually putting yourself down. And again, this all ties into the regrets and guilt and everything. But if you are passionate yourself, oh, let's stop right now. Right, that doesn't serve you. It doesn't serve you moving forward. It doesn't serve you continue to grow and learn and be your best self.

Again, your past is your past. So what I would like for you to do To take that moment to say, I'm done, I'm done with it. I am done with shaming myself. I am done with Pat shaming others, oh gosh, that's really something to dress but you can change that behavior. But that's good news. Or if somebody else is doing it to you, but today's the day that you say no more.

I will not be doing this to myself or to others and I will not allow it to be done to me, right? Because we're looking towards the future and part of detoxing is keeping the past in the past and moving forward and being your best self. Then your best buy from here. Okay. Let's do our affirmation. Here we go.

I am a competent person. I always ask forgiveness when I need to. I always extend forgiveness to those who ask me. I let the past be the past. I lived for my future. My future is bright.

My teacher in beautiful. My future powerful feature is Toby. My feature is wealthy. I always look to the future. I live my best life All right. So I kind of already talked about your challenge.

Your challenge is to make a very conscious decision. you've drawn in the sand, that's it. You are not going to caution yourself or others and you're not allow anyone to do that to you, you're going to move on from your past, deliberately, intentionally today, and you will look towards your future. And that's what you're going to focus on. Going to continue growing and learning and being curious, like all the other wonderful things that you get to do, and it's gonna be great. It is hard to get back, but me, the US, boundaries establishing these things are really life changing, and they will make you live your best life I promise.

All right, so keep exploring.