Hey there, everyone. I'm Nikki shovels your life transformation strategist. And welcome back. So let's have a recap, shall we? Now yesterday we spoke on being humble and humbling yourself in situations. Today we're going to speak on listening.

Ah, when you listen Hmm. Boy, can you hear so many things around you. Now when you're when you're going throughout your day, and life we have so many so many things that can really distract us from hearing a person. Our phone is the biggest. If you know in different establishments, you can go to let's say the grocery store and you're at the register and the the cashier is trying to get your attention, but you're so focused on doing whatever you're doing with that phone that you don't even hear what they're saying. Or You could be at home at the dinner table and everyone is on their phone.

Now, when I grew up, we weren't on our phones looking at it. We didn't even have the TV on while we were at the dinner table. Everyone was at the table and we got to speak, we got to hear how each other's day was. And I do the same thing now with my children. You know, things are not allowed to be at the table when we're at the table. So it's important to listen, I remember an old supervisor of mine used to say, he would say, you know, the key shot, it's more important to listen, then to be understood.

Now for a while I didn't understand what he was talking about. But then one day is a revelation came. If you learn to listen about what a person's saying to you, giving him instructions, or even giving you constructive criticism. If you learn to listen to the advice that they have for you, you will be spending less time trying to explain Your actions later, because you're not trying to make someone understand you. Rather, they seen what you were saying or heard what you were saying. So it's better to listen than to have to be understood in the long run.

So today, what I want you to do, if I want you to ask two people, whether it's your, your husband, your wife, your mom, your dad, your co worker, whomever it is, find two people, two people that will really be honest with you, and ask them, How do they feel about to number one, and how do they think that you can better yourself number two. Now, when you ask that question, I don't want you to talk. I don't want you to give any facial expressions. I just want to listen, and don't be rude when they give you that criticism. Listen, just listen and really pick it up. What they say, because step two of that assignment is to write down what they have to say about you.

Don't get faces again, and don't get upset when they truly tell you, you know, we did a step about being honest. So be honest with yourself. Let them tell you with honesty, how I feel about you and how you should better yourself. Now, it's not to say that, you know, what they think you should do will be 100% all of what you need to do, or what you have to do. It might not fall in the lines of what you want to do, like career wise or whatever. But at least if you listen and hear them out, they may share some things that could really help you to grow.

One of the things that someone wants to told me is, I really have to be able to do something and not expect someone else to do it. When I say that, I'll give you an example of what I'm doing. Talking about. So I was living with I was I was running a basement apartment for someone and from someone, and they hadn't changed the batteries for the smoke detector. Now, you if you've ever not had your batteries change, you will hear the thing though. Like it's just this weird noise.

So it kept going, but the person I was talking to on the phone in the background can hear that noise going off every so often. And she says, Well, why? Why are the smoke detector like, is that smoking? And I'm like, Yeah, she's like, Well, why don't you change the batteries? And I said, well, it's not my responsibility. Like my landlord hasn't done it.

And she says, Well, don't you live there? And I'm like, Yeah, she's like, well, that's crazy. Cuz when you want your kids to be safe, you know why wait for Somebody else to do it when you can do it. Go back got me thinking like, had I made excuses once again, it's better to listen to the VIN to be understood, had I not taken the time to really hear her out that the next day I literally went and bought some batteries and put those batteries in the smoke detector simply because she was right. Why did I have to wait for my landlord to finally decide that he was going to come and change those batteries? Some things you guys we're going to have to do for ourselves.

So once you hear that person out, once they tell you about something that you can change for yourself, so that you can better yourself, start applying those things. You know, don't be upset. Okay, so what you messed up for so what you're not as good as you thought you were. But use that as a way to catapult your life to something greater a person that you never thought possible. It's tourist season guys. So leper to listen, not be so I'm just like so what's the word I'm looking for?

Argumentative? Yeah, not be so argumentative about some of the things that they say you should change. And let's start changing. Let's become better than who we were 567 months ago, but who we weren't 10 years ago. Let's become better. Aren't you ready?

I know I am. Well, I'll see you tomorrow. Make sure you do those. Do that assignment. I want to learn so much about who you thought you were, as opposed to who you're not. Alright, see you later.

Bye.