Hello, and welcome to the third our of the resilience reflex online program. And if you notice in this section, you only have one lecture. And that's because it's the only lecture that you need to help you with the third R, which is resolve. And that's about the seven universal cycles of change. When I learned this from my mentors to me, Chris Hogan, I just looked at change differently right off the bat. And I lived by the seven cycles of change, and I still do, and I noticed that I'm not scared of change anymore.

And I'm hoping that that's the same with you. So I'm going to share my screen with you right now. There we go. And I'm going to explain to you why The cycles of change are now, first you have to understand about the universe. The universe is 13 billion years old. And it teaches a lot about change.

We can learn so much about ourselves from observing the lives of cells, the growth of trees and the climate. Nature is a great teacher. And humans are a part of nature, aren't we? So I mentioned before about my mentors, Tim and Chris Hall bomb, who came up with a model and taught it to me. And they say that having conscious awareness of this model will allow you to live a life that is more balanced, and where you're consistently getting what you want. So this is the model.

As you notice, there's seven cycles or should I say phases and each one means something. When I talk about a system, it means a living and nonliving system. And either of the system has all the seven cycles of change in it, or the seven, you know, phases of change in it. So it can mean a family, it can mean a business, it can be an organization, it can be a couple, it can be a country, it can be a software program, a system can be anything. So, let's start with the first phase, which is creation. This phase is about new beginnings, about new birth growth.

This is about expansion. Then we go to complexity to maturity. And this system is about taking shape and form through continued growth, but it comes to a point where it's now in its steady state. The fourth phase is all about turbulence. This is when a system is is too complex and its growth and problems begin to develop. turbulence is actually feedback from the system that it can no longer be supported that something has to shift for it to continue with creation and growth.

And if that shift doesn't occur here, then it can go to chaos. Chaos. Well, this can be a good thing or a bad thing. It could be good because it's about change and opportunity if you look at it that way, but it could be bad because some people get stuck in chaos. When chaos sets in, things start to fall apart and the system cannot hold it all together. So for it to continue growing and creating, we need to go through another phase which is dropping off also known as releasing or letting go.

It's about letting go things that no longer serve you so that the system like I said before it can get back into balance. The seventh phase is meditation and dormancy. Here the system is regaining its balance. It's about letting go of things that no longer serve you. So the system can then start to ruminate over the learnings from the previous phases. So let's do an example here, which is the simple one that we find in nature.

And that could be a seed or a seedling that we plant and it continues to grow. So those are your first two phases, right their creation and growth. But then it grows and grows to a steady state, which is the third phase complexity to maturity. But then something starts to shift, right? The weather starts to turn colder, the winds pick up, and the season starts to change. And this is when the tree has to realize that you know what I can hold on to my leaves here.

I gotta let go. So instead of holding on to his leaves, and this is just a metaphor, it will drop off his leaves. So it can go into dormancy, and meditation, which is the winter, right? There's nothing happening there. But then as it goes through that, we know that the next season comes along, and things start to bite again. Now, this is just a quick example.

But let me give you another example where we can talk about a couple. So a couple of meats, it's a creation of a bond, they like each other, and they start to go on more and more dates, and that's growth. So the bond will grow and grow between them. But then a time comes where they go, you know what we're made for each other. I'd like to spend the rest of my life with you. And this is where they're in their steady state complexity to maturity, the third phase, and then then move in together and what comes along turbulence because It's a change in a cycle and you start to notice each other's behaviors, habits, and the facades start to drop off.

But then if you do not shift anything while you're here, then chaos drops in. And this is where the couple starts to argue and have fights. And they can stay stuck in here. Or they can drop off a behavior, they can drop off a habit or an attitude that's not serving their relationship. If they drop that off, they'll go on to meditation and dormancy where they ruminate over the learnings of what happened. And then they start to create again, and that could be maybe a new career, it can be a new move, it can even be a new family member.

Okay, so you get the idea of how this works. Now let me give you another example. And that is the example of my mother. In 2002, my dad passed away and I'm recording this in 2016. And my mother looked after six kids and ran a business, she was a busy lady so should never have had a time to make friends or join any committees or anything like that. And so when he passed away, she thought, What am I going to do alone?

How can I, you know, go to events and still feel like I can, I can be there and not feel left out. So she decided to join committees. So you see her here. She's cooking and, you know, this is in Kenya. That's where I grew up. And she's in the cooking committee.

She's still that's her with with my husband, and other ladies who are in the committee and she's enjoying it. She Even in a singing group where they learn how to sing. Every Tuesday, she goes to a cards game. I mean, here she is with in her own, you know, business, she still has the bakery. She is 72 years old and she's enjoying life. And like I said before, every Tuesday, she goes to a card game.

Every Sunday, she goes to a movie. So she didn't allow herself to be stuck in turbulence and chaos. In fact, she made a shift. She dropped off the belief that now she's alone. And she doesn't have a companion but in fact, she dropped that off and she said, No, I can join committees. I can live my life the way I want to live, and she's enjoying it.

So that's one example there. Here's another example about nature again. We went to the Rockies last year and we took the tram all the way up to the mountain. Notice the shrubs here are so thick, aren't they? But As we go higher, they become smaller and less. And this is what it says the cruel landscape, long winters and extremes of climate make living here hard enough.

But abrupt changes from one extreme to another rain to bright sun, snow to parched rock, when to come call to heart, seasonally, daily, almost hourly stretched life to its limits. But the tundra is tough. And so are the Alpine communities. I loved this when I read it because we also are stretched to our limits almost every day. You know, whether it's through work, relationships, health, career, whatever it may be, but yet we bounced back yet we are tough and we find a way out. And nature is teaching this to us.

Right. And as we went even higher up, you can just see rock, there's hardly anything So let me tell you one thing about the system. There is one living system in, in the universe that likes to be stuck in turbulence and chaos. Do you know what that system is? That's us human beings. We are the only living system that will allow ourselves to be stuck in these two phases because of our fears around letting go.

Do you know when you do that you're going against 13 billion years of evolution. 13 billion years. Seriously, do you want to go against evolution? That's why you're stuck there. So learn how to drop off something. Now it doesn't have to be a dramatic drop off right.

You may 1 want to drop off a habit or an attitude or a belief For example, if I just go down to where I was here. So for example, in the areas of health, you may want to drop off the habit of eating junk food every night. In the area of relationship, you may want to drop off picking up after everyone else. In the area of money matters. You may want to stop shopping online because it's becoming a habit. And maybe you don't need that.

Or it could be that coffee that you drink every day, from a store that you like from a fast food that you like, and you're spending two to $3 every day, and that amounts to a lot of money in the end. What if you could save that money? So that's a habit that you can drop off is going through a drive thru and picking up coffee every day. You know, in the area of career, it could be Something else where you're not happy where you are. And you want to apply to something that really gives you that spark. Right?

Again, it doesn't have to be a quick drop off. But it could be something that you can start looking into where you pick up a new habit and you start looking at, you know, other places that you could work. And in the area of friends, you may want to drop off friends, we're not supporting you in all the above areas. Right. Now, it's your turn, you have a handout. In this lesson, I want to I want you to assess the areas in your life and figure out which areas where you are stuck, which are the areas where you're stuck in chaos and turbulence, then pick something you want to drop off.

Remember, nature is a great teacher and we have to model after them. Barbara Walters was interviewing Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft. And she asked him now that you are the richest man in the world, and you can have anything you want, what more could you possibly want? Mr. Gates replied, to never stop changing. Whatever I do today will be considered history tomorrow, I have to make sure that I never stop changing. And that I'm always creating.

Now, that alone tells you that Mr. Gates is very in tune with the cycles of change model. So there you have it. This is all about embracing change. And like I said before, when I first started, when I learned about the model, and I consciously practiced it every day, in my own life, in my business in my career, I believe Me, things started to take off for me and I was not scared of change anymore. And I wish the same for you. And I hope that the course the whole course has been an eye opener for you because I had fun putting everything together for you.

I hope that you took a few things out of it that you can practice every day. And like, and like all the time if you have any questions, you know how to contact me, either it's through the comment section, or through my email info. It's a nine g.com Thank you so much. Until next time, bye