So now you, you should have everybody written down and identified where your weak areas are. Because when you know what you do wrong, you can correct it half the time we don't know what we're doing wrong. So it does anyone, buddy want to talk about anything in that list or anything that they wrote down? Was it easy to do? Was it hard to do? Was it good to do?

Was a good? Yes. Because I'm, I'm seeing not from this, you know, this whole workshop. I'm seeing the same things pop up. And then and now it's crystallizing us good realize I tell us the same story. Right.

And so the big thing was really changed the story. Yeah, change the story. Do you know what your story What What's your story? My story was about mostly today was about my son, right? And he's got a lot of issues. And so my story is always making excuses.

And it was my fault. And I'm taking responsibility because he, you know, he wanted to end his life several times. I would always do things because if I didn't do it, he'd kill himself. Right. And, and so that was my story. And my story was always seeing him in the light of, for him, the victim acted out the victimhood, right, because that's what I was putting out there.

Aha, so if I stay change my story to see him because it is powerful and amazing and incredible. Aha, that's better words. Isn't that powerful? That you put that energy on him? Yeah. So if I see him as his true magnificent self, instead of seeing the victim, thank you change my story, then that will change everything else.

So even yesterday, I went home I knew he's in a very difficult place right now. And normally I would go and try and fix it. Yes. And I see the dark cloud and I would go. So what I did yesterday, I thought to myself, the one thing I took away from yesterday was change. Yes.

And I went there and I said, How do I change the dance? And I went to my room, and I put on a Brazilian novella, which I love, because it's mindless. And I played with a dog because animals are mine. Yes. Yes. And I, I really feed off my animals.

My cat. Yes. And I distracted myself from going there. And I felt strong enough, right. I was able to go and say, Hi, how are you? And I'm seeing this energy, but I didn't give attention.

Good. Well, well done. Yeah. I just done that. When you do. I'm gonna someone remind me to tell you to chat to you about what to do.

When there's somebody else that has it. issues or it's sick or it's taking you know you feel sorry for what do you do? Well you kind of explained it is the value kind of making sense when you feel sorry. When you say oh my god they need me I should help them then you keep them in that victim state is like what we teach our kids when they come home and I get hurt oh my god I'm so that's so terrible. Or you know, you worry for them. They go thinking that okay, I am not capable and it goes on their energy.

When you say to the universe, I am trusting you. I am trusting you to protect them. I'm going to see them and visualize that this is sorted that you are everything that you want for them. And the animals I'm now seeing them protected and healed. I'm, I'm visualizing this of what you want, and put your energy on it. The universe will take care of it.

All the worry and all the stress that you have is bad. for that person, it just creates sick crap. In fact, I tell people, please never worry for me. In fact, I used to tell my mother in law, stop worrying. She's all worried for this. And I worry I will just, you know, keep keep away from me, because they will go on me and then I will create a reason for you to worry for me.

So, I that's why I realize telling a victim story. And I get you wearing for me, is just the worst thing ever. So for anybody that you feel bad for you say I feel sorry for them. I've now given you permission to never feel sorry for them, because you will just feed more of the same. So I go, You know what? I'm going to visualize when someone tells me a story to say on the street.

I said, You know what, before they leave me because they've kind of dumped on me. I kind of go, You know what? I'm going to imagine you just have the best day ever. But imagine all this abundance coming in your life. I'm just going to majan that, oh, could you imagine that? Or I tell them Could you imagine that and then I leave it at that and then I walk away.

So I brought it back to something better. And then I'm creating, they're creating and then they feel better and I feel better. And I haven't left on me and I'm creating so I'm very mindful. So that lets you off the hook if you look at the size of worrying and feeling sorry for people and that was the biggest relief for me. Could you imagine it's not going to it doesn't help them so what a relief and then you don't have to feel bad because the sign says you feel sorry, you're gonna create crap for them. How's that sound like good?

Ah, that was the biggest relief for me when I worked that one out. He cuz it takes you down when you feel sorry for people