Have you ever watched someone feeding birds, ducks, or seagulls? These birds surround the “bird feeder”, orbiting her or him like she/he is the center of their universe. In fact, they almost have the birds eating out of the palm of their hands, they are magnetic in those moments.

Well, consider that you, too, will become this magnetic force. After today’s lesson you will have the confidence to walk into any event and exude that very same magnetism, should you want to. Obviously, there are days when you may want to be magnetic and charismatic and other days when you don’t want to be either of those things. That’s okay, but it’s definitely nice to know how to turn it on when the time is right.

In the last chapter we discussed how to make a powerful entrance to ensure you gave off a powerful first impression, you learned about pausing and surveying the room. Well, that pause is useful for two things:

• So everyone can see you in the pose you wanted them to see you in.
• You can decide where you are going to start networking the room, where you should head to, who you should talk to, and perhaps whether you just pick up a drink.

This lesson will focus on teaching you what to do after you’ve made your super-duper-amazing entrance.

So what will you take out of this lesson?

• How to confidently walk over to a group of strangers and join their conversation
• How to choose groups where people don’t mind you joining
• What to say to people when you want to join their group
• How to make sure you make friends early on in the event
• Reduce your social anxiety and rock your next event like a socializing pro
• Become the most magnetic and attractive person in the room
• Learn how to get out of a boring conversation.

Keep an eye out for which groups actually want you to join and what your first words should be to the group you are joining. Let’s throw those bread crumbs like confetti and dance underneath them.