So now let's talk about the positive social value. I'd like to give you here three advice on how you can become more positive when you interact with people. And that will show you why it's really important. The first one is that I would like you to always add value to people. Why? Because if you always focus on the value that you can give to people, when you approach them, you will become more confident and you will take more action socially.

Because if you think and if you sit down and you think in terms of what is the value that I can give to people when they approach them, let's say that you want to approach someone in a bar, what is the value that you can give that person, maybe you can make the other person laugh, have a great time, maybe you can be their new boyfriend or girlfriend, maybe you can just share something interesting. Maybe, maybe, maybe, and you write down a list of all the value that you could give someone in a bar Or let's say at a networking event, you write down the value that your product that the service that you are sending, could give them the what is the value that your product your service your company can give them. If you approach that person and you convince them to buy from you, how will your product your service, enhance, improve the quality of life?

These are questions that if you always ask in terms of what can the other person gain, if I approach them, you will be able to approach people more easily. So I really encourage you right now to make a list of the things that people can gain in your social situation. Maybe it can be at work, maybe it can be when you call when you call people and have to convince them to buy something. I know that if you want to sell over the phone, it's really difficult. And if you want to become a confident, just realize that by calling someone you are giving them an opportunity to to have value from you, that you will deliver something that will change the life and it's something that will really help The second one is about positive people. There is a famous quote from Jim Rohn.

And it says you are the average of the five people that you hang out with. And it's so true. If you hang out with people who are low, confident and negative, you cannot develop your confidence. You must find people who who will really bring the best out of you. 15 years ago, when I was shy, I started I couldn't even talk to people. And I had a few friends that were always trying to push me down.

I wanted to approach someone and just start a conversation. And I would do that and they would reject me. And my friends would be laughing and saying, hey, Alan, you got rejected? What a loser. Do you think that? I could?

Do you think that I was able to improve my confidence? No, not with these people, because the environment will impact you. So I had to change my friends had to improve myself. And then I had to find friends who would empower me and that was so powerful. Because I found one great friend that was always pushing me to do things. I would say, to always go out of my comfort zone and try things.

And I would approach someone. And he would say, that's great. Alan, you have tried, what can you learn? What did you do? Well, and he was always asking me these empowering questions. And that's how I was able to become a confidence.

And then I found many other friends with always trying to experiment, and they were willing to bring the best out of me. So right now in your life, if you don't have people who are, I would say, giving you value and encouraging you to become a better version of yourself. I encourage you to change your friends and find new friends that will really help you become better socially, or just to try to find a few friends, one, two or three friends that you can go out with and you can practice maybe that one or two friends that you can go with to a networking event. And that the friend can really support you and bring the best out of you. Or if you want to go out and seduce woman or seduce men dressed, find someone that will really bring the best out of you and encourage you to do great things socially.

That's how you can really increase your confidence. So the environments people that you surround yourself with, is really important. And our get this question all the time. Yes, Alan, but I have to go out with that person, this person is always think as you try to spend less time with this person. It means that try to, to go out by yourself or to find other people and go out at different times with with that person. If you're forced to go out with this negative person, try to limit their influence on you.

It means that just try to have a barrier between you and the other person and don't take their opinion or advice seriously. Because if I go out with someone and I have to go out with this person, and this person is really nice. Gachi I will, I will just imagine and think that the advice has no value to me. It's as if a five year old child would say something to me. Because if a five year old child says, haha, you got rejected, you are a loser, you won't take it seriously. But if it's someone that you respect and you admire that says that, you may take that more seriously.

So just don't take the other person into account and just let it go. Number three, I would like you to focus on caring and love. When you're in social situations, I would like you just to feel the love, feel the love between people and think about people who love you. Because if you're always thinking about, for example, your family, your friends, your lover, people who love you, and you feel this emotion, this connection with with humans, it will really help you to take much So the three out of it are really powerful, and it's about giving social value. You must give value to people always focus on what can you What can you give in that situation? And even if you interact with people and you have already started an interaction with them, always focus on what can you give?

Can you give advice information? Can you tell a joke? Can you give great emotions to the other person? What can you be and if you focus on that, I guarantee that you will become a confident find positive people that you can surround yourself with and focus on caring and loving